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Overview of the relationship: 43.2.4 > 63
You are greatly worried about it but don't be.
The problem is not what you think it is.
Something will soon change, something will soon be revealed and the problem will end.
X's position: 54.1.2 > 16
She feels inferior, for some reason, and alone.
She feels threatened by something, maybe she doesn't trust you.
She either fears deception fron you, or she's in love with you, or both.
My position: 50.1.2 > 30
You like her a lot, but still see her as inferior.
But yet, still value her lots, and want to stay with her.
You still have thoughts of leaving her, but still plan to stay.
What action should I take in the relationship: 35.6 > 16
The fault lies with you, somewhere.
She might be subconsciously understanding your hidden doubts.
If you want her to discard her doubts about you, correct your inner doubt.
Wow, I love it when a reading turns out to be so helpful. No spies, don't worry!
Most people have issues of one sort or another. The question is, why do her issues bother you? Does she talk about them too much, or does she act too weird, or both?
How about you speak with her and let her know it's sometimes getting too much for you, and suggest turning the attention to more pleasant things for both of you? It's all good to help each other, but focussing on issues only is indeed a bit too heavy. I'd suggest you two have more fun together (very much in line with hexagram 16). Perhaps this would strengthen your love and bond with her, and would alleviate her mistrust and issues. Not sure what other questions you could ask, sorry, nothing comes to mind right now.
(...) when we're together the issues are almost never present (...)
(...) the fact that there are issues makes me want to solve them as fast as possible (...)
(...) I guess it all boils down to "issues = unhappiness" for me (...)
(...) I also said that I wanted to have the perfect woman I fell in love with back (...)
(...) would be subconsciously saying "I'm sorry, you're too damaged for me" (...)
(...) I'm nowhere near balanced you know (...)
If her issues bother you so much, even when they don't interfere with your life as a couple, then it's much clearer what 35:6 means. You can use force only to discipline your own hometown/self, you cannot forcibly solve someone else's problems, and "fast". And if you cannot handle the existence of issues, I'm afraid you'll be very disappointed in life. The vast majority of people have issues. And not just once - life is like this that when one issue is solved, another one is certain to emerge, always. Issues are challenges that we all need to learn to deal with, and live with.
Sadly nobody's perfect (except Chuck Norris of course). However, if you really feel she is a very damaged person, then why not try to find someone who is more on your wavelength, nothing wrong with that. I hope all this doesn't sound like a mini philosophy lesson! I guess I mainly disagree with your point that issues = unhappiness, but then again this is only my opinion. It's up to you to decide how strongly you feel about it, and what degree of perfection you're after in the other person.
Oh no, really sorry to hear you're battling an addiction, it must be very difficult for you. I hope you have supportive family and friends to help you out. Wishing you lots of strength with it! Hexagram 16 might be referring to that then - 16 is about music, fun, but also deception, self-deception, illusion, and I've definitely seen it before to mean addiction as well. You've had hexagram 16 in two of your answers, it may well have to do with that.
I wouldn't bet, though, that she doesn't know anything about it, because of line 54:2 ("The one-eyed can still see"). Even if she hasn't actually witnessed it, she might have sussed it out anyway.
I see what you mean about all those issues preventing both of you from realising full potential, you're right. The good thing is that you don't seem to be giving up without a fight! You're still trying to correct any faults of your own, you still want to be there for her. So wait and see - the test of time will tell if your relationship is strong enough to mature and grow even through and after such troubles - it well may!
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).