Karmic Lessons Hex 37.5>22

[goddessliss]

I've been reading about Karmic Lessons in our life and our relationships with others so I'm wondering if it possible for Yi to provide us with insight into what our karmic lesson maybe with another and hoping to work it out for each of my sons.

I've started with my oldest son as I've had the most 'angst' with him.

Part of history starts with my parents and his father. Long story short I always was painted the bad guy and got blamed for everything that went wrong in my family and for breaking up with my son's father (first husband) who's never let go of his need to make me out to be a bitch although he's remarried and has other children.
My son carried this history with him for many years and as a consequence we've had many fall outs eventually last October we managed to have an adult conversation about it and our relationship has improved since but it's been a change in his attitude towards me more than anything.

What karmic lesson am I here to learn through my oldest son

Hex 37.5>22

What I can get from this is that Hex 37 I had to create the right boundaries for myself as he felt it was his right to interfere in my life and condemn whatever I did.

And Hex 22 for me as I've had to make my essence visible to others - a good lesson I've had to learn from many who've tried to squash it since I was born.

thanks for your insight, - Liss

 

[precision grace]

I think it's brilliant that you received the people in the home hexagram for this particular question.

The answer seems to be saying that your lesson is to understand what being the head of family means. Lise's commentary says "When family has a ‘king’ who places himself in its service, then it is strong. It can withstand hard times and its members have a safe home. "
And I would read 22 as advice to behave with true grace in all your dealings in the world.

On the other hand, as I know a bit of your history, I can see why you'd want to read it as creating personal boundaries, as that's certainly what you needed to do although I don't know that this line in particular says that exactly. Also, have you come across the idea that we bring as well as create karmic lessons, so it could be more than one and it could be something from a life lived before this one.

At any rate, I am very happy to hear you are improving your relationships and also that the move seems to be going mostly ok.

 

[moss elk]

I think it is saying simply that your work is to be a mother to him.
Giving your love, guidance, and .....patience to him.
The profound hides in plain sight within the 'ordinary'.

If you didn't join in on the trash talking, good on you.
Your son may eventually learn how his father is, and maybe he will have to witness it himself.

I divorced seven years ago and there was a six month period when my ex was talking trash about me.
My daughter and half daughter heard many negative messages, took them in, and came to be angry at me.
After some time (roughly a year) the anger dissolved and we have a good relationship again.
Just wanted to add that the anger was not diffused by spending energy to refute the things they were hearing,
instead it was just through perseverence, and making a commitment not to engage in hateful speech in retaliation or to take anything personally. And reading the text of 61.2 helped.

 

[goddessliss]

Thank you precision grace and Moss Elk - I feel that I lost the role of being his mum when he went to live with his dad when he was 16 and he actually calls his dad and his wife his parents - sometimes I wonder who he sees me as but partly that's my own fault because I lost my way for a long while in terms of family dynamics and my own self esteem.
After our last head to head confrontation back in October I feel I've now taken back my role as the mum of the family which I know I'm good at and wish to have.
This coupled with me being the grandmother to his two children seems to have definitely upped his respect towards me as a mother.
Tonight him and his little family are coming to stay with me for a few days so being in my own environment and home I feel will also help him remember and recognise that we are mother and son.
Incidentally I've been going through my photos which reach back as far as my childhood, and his, which noone's really seen for many years as they were packed away - gonna be interesting to see what conversation and memories come from looking at them together with his wife who would never have seen them. - Liss