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Hello all,

Right I am moving out v soon from a house where I have had some probs with my housemates. It has been (rather severely) up and down, as in sometimes I'm happy and feel part of the group here and wonder how I'd ever felt so hated and been so paranoid, whereas at others I feel that same thing again.. there's just a barrier though ok on the surface.. I do get on quite well with one of them, but the others.. you can't win 'em all I suppose... and it is my mistake for having moved in well aware of these doubts about compatibility...

Anyway, they have secured somewhere else and are leaving before me... I thought they might wait a few days before I'd gone as I am staying on another week but it's fine, whatever they want to do.. I have been more confident and fun recently, and enjoyed being with them but it doesn't seem to matter.. I am still resisted it seems.. I guess perceptions are hard to change... Anyway I asked how do I dictate my last week here?

43.3,5 > 54

So Helpful!! 43.3> Be independent despite being left alone (they're only moving a few doors away) : 'He is isolated and upset like one walking alone and encountering the rain but he is firm and strong' IE I will not let it make me feel rejected. I will behave as if no problem.. it does speak of not being able to cut ties just yet...
43.5 > Don't give up stay resolute - you will soon be able to 'cut ties with those that sabotage'
54 > I am in a vulnerable position but still shouldn't do anything that would compromise my dignity, ie chase after them, or allow people who don't care enough about me in the first place, to hurt me..

Funnily enough - today I got 38.1 > 64 (they're moving stuf so tad awkward)
'Regrets vanish. If you lose your horse do not run after it. It will come back of its own accord. When you see hateful people, guard yourself against mistakes'
64 > I think saying let it go - it's not going to come to a perfect closure..

Funny thing is we're planning to have a leaving party... supposedly for me... I have other friends here etc and it would be good to say bye and have some sort of celebration since I've been here a long time and have had good times (even with my housemates - just living together was a mistake...)

I asked should I leave earlier and bow out of this party?
12.2 > 6

It could be fun and good but whether it's right all things considered... maybe I should just depart and retain my dignity - acknowledge the lack of friendship.. but that might be worse when it comes to it..

12.2 initially I thought meant bring my idea to a standstill, because it could just be running away, but then maybe I should not 'mingle with the crowd of the inerior'... but then maybe I should just ride it out : 'by his willingness to suffer personally he insures the success of his fundamental principles'.. hmm, but maybe that's saying I should leave to protect myself from, a 'fake sentiment' party.. but maybe I shouldn't take it so seriously and just go with it.. last hurdle..

It would be good to say bye and other friends will hopefully come along.. I like them as people it just hasn't worked out and they're making no efforts to hide that... by treating me indifferently and moving out.. but then maybe I should just fight for my right to party? (despite underlying awkwardness... more a celebration of me leaving really - a release for us all..) How would you take 12.2 > 6?

Thanks anyone that has some advice :)
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6 at 2: To work under contract. Small people: auspicious. Great people: obstruction for expansion.
When your situation among people is frustrating and you cannot use your wings and neither change it, then don't fret. Sometimes one simply has to adapt, so do it wholeheartedly. Happiness has more value than freedom. In this case those who have no ambitions are blessed.
(Changes to hex.6)


I suppose it says - just go with it despite not being right.

There's a quote that comes to mind : 'The best way out is through'

This is another hepful interpretation:

When events have reached a standstill because of the corrupt influences of inferior people, the wise endure the period of stagnation, and accept suffering willingly in order to preserve their integrity. Avoid submission to inducements which do not serve your long-term interests.

Hmm.. well, I'll see how things go this coming week and if I indeed don't feel like I want to do any sort of celebrating with them, then I will leave.

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help please

:eek: Well, it looks like this party is not a good idea. For a start, people have been invited who are not nice, set to damage in fact, (one person in particular who is their friend but certainly not mine) and I don't know if I can put myself through this charade - perhaps I should try and salvage a scrap of dignity here... it really is coming full circle and I did think I was going to make it out unscathed but alas - looks like the fox is set to get more than his tail wet.

How do I deal with this particular person set to come? (he's a weak hateful bully who saw weakness in me which he twisted, and I have not been his only victim)

61 Unchanging : In dealing with persons as intractable and as difficult to influence as a pig or a fish, the whole secret of success depends on finding the right way of approach. One must first rid oneself of all prejudice and, so to speak, let the psyche of the other person act on one without restraint. Then one will establish contact with him, understand and gain power over him.

I thought saying face it head on?

Thing is, perhaps this is my final chance to stand up for myself? What would I rather, dignity or keeping up appearances by going ahead with this party? I'm also worried about my possessions in the house, by the time of the party the others will have moved out, and though it was intended to be a 'gathering' looks like some people have different ideas... I'm going to feel very vulnerable if it does turn into that sort of party..

Should I leave before the 'party'?
22.1,4 > 56
Seems to say yes : 'He leaves his carriage and walks for it accords with duty not to ride'
22.4 > Return to simplicity
56 > ... he must remain upright and steadfast so tha he sojourns only in the proper places associating only with good people...then he can go on his way unmolested'

Is this my opportunity to (finally) stand up for myself>
19 Approach

Does this speak of approaching this plan? Or approach them.. perhaps tell them how I'm feeling about it (though they'll probably shrug it off)

Who am I kidding. It's funny I really did think I'd get out of this ok, and that it'd be good to say goodbye to friends.. It's just that the strength of the saboteurs may win, and so maybe I should spare myself this final blow :bag:

Would really appreciate some pointers here. I know it's a lot to read and perhaps you may feel hesitant to say what you think I should do, but what is the Yi saying? Take action against them (by retreating)? Or ride it out despite the probable damage?

I also got 33.3,4,5 > 23 when asking what to do in light of the current feeling in the house (them leaving me here alone) and then this looming party which seems wrong and so inappropriate when they are making it clear I am not their friend (the collective group mentality always ends up rearing its ugly head).

I thought I could turn it round (50.1 - make it into a positive, try to look forward to the party. But in light of the situation and the people set to come, I don't know that I can, though there are people I'll be sorry not to say good bye to, I don't think this is right.

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