Lesser of two evils? Please help?!!

[kdedeaux4]

namaste':bows:

Without going into lengthy and perhaps dull excessive detail, suffice to say I'm in an extremely precarious situation which actually resembles a badly scripted dramatic made-for- tv movie. I've realized in a very short time frame that I'm definitely (and unfortunately:-( ) going to need professional legal counsel to advocate for my rights. I had so hoped I could pray and expect the others involved in the situation to at least do the basic ethical thing here, but confirmed yesterday that I was delusional to be so optimistic. It is to be a down and dirty, shameful war and I was a fool to have ever expected or hoped for otherwise.
That said, I now have a week to muster up the finances and do the research to find an adequate lawyer to protect and defend me. I have only had to hire a lawyer twice in my life and both times I made very poor choices...typically ending up paying am exorbant amount of money for little to no work performed or results achieved (even in what seemed the simplest, surest cases). Financially, I can't afford to get my choice wrong this time as my resources are extremely limited and once they're gone...they're gone. I don't have the luxury of a few more trial and error attorney "try-outs".
I am meeting with an attorney today for a consultation. I've heard this lady is very expensive (ughh!!), but also very good.
Asked IC what if I hire this attorney to represent me? Response: 47.1.6. --> 10
Eeek! That doesn't look so great.....
i know of another attorney who has seemed like a genuinely decent man (yes, a contradiction for the lawyer stereotype!). I asked IC what if I hire him to represent me? Response: 56.1.4.6 -->36 hmmmm...that doesn't seem all that hopeful either!!??!

Given that the best possible outcome in this situation will still be heartbreaking, I hesitated to exhaust my meager resources at all, but I now fully realize just how heartbreaking the possibility could be if my basic rights (that I previously thought were just a "given") are not adequately defended...

This is a short notice thing as I have a hearing in just 2 weeks, but I implore the more experienced and wise fellow IC lovers here to please take a moment and give me your thoughts on these readings, if you're inclined whatsoever to do so??
Thank you for reading. I apologize for the urgency.
:bows:

Added question: What if I don't hire an attorney at all and trust the system to resolve this in the best ethical proper way?
Response 62.1.3. -->51 Oh gosh....51 here gives me shivers. I honestly just don't think I can emotionally or physically cope with man more of these life-shattering "shocks" to my system and life:-(

 

[kdedeaux4]

Although no one here had the time or inclination to give me their thoughts on this matter on such short notice, in case it's at all interesting to anyone in the future, I chose the first lawyer I asked about and am praying for the best.

 

[Lavalamp]

My 5 cents; if you have problems against the State, or small town government, it is important I think you seek an attorney that is not from that Town, an outsider. The Attorneys in Courthouses that see each other every day, especially smaller towns/County Courts, they have an interest in not offending the people they see every day, maybe some day they might even want to work for the CIty or do business with them. An outsider is better, because they do not care if they make the Prosecutor's office/City Officials/the police look like total asses, they only have to worry about your interests. Important when the people you are up against _are_ a bunch of asses.

Best of Luck.

BTW 47.1.6. --> 10

47.1
You feel depressed. Don't do the negative bidding of others by bringing yourself down.
Move yourself, don't stay there, it is an internal journey you must make.

47.6
You are afraid if you act it will not be fortunate. But it is important you do act, and this will bring good fortune. Do not let your worries paralyze you
.
10 Step by step. There is danger in the situation, but tiger will not bite you. This is fortunate.

- LL

 

[meng]

Asked IC what if I hire this [first] attorney to represent me? Response: 47.1.6. --> 10

Hi, kd,

I think the drift of all Yi's answers may have more to do with your emotional state than with pragmatic answers to pragmatic questions. These intense emotions are clouding objectivity, which I believe the Yi is trying to adjust within you. I'm not saying this situation isn't severe, only that in spite of the shock it brings to you, it is better dealt with pragmatically. Even if you aren't able too, this attorney should.

This reading doesn't look so bad to me. 47 could easily represent your situation. There's nothing to be gained by doing nothing, yet damage may be done by taking it on alone; so it appears you've done a good thing for your case by hiring attorney #1. You've thought and procrastinated and chose this one. This sounds like line 6, which is paralyzing (as by creeping vines) if no action is taken.

10 is what a good attorney does. They track and backtrack the incidents and facts within the case; you could say they check finger as well as foot prints.

Best wishes with your case, and I hope you're not sacrificing your health over this.

 

[precision grace]

Keep us posted as to how it turns out. Good luck (and don't forget to "Thread Carefully - 10)

 

[ginnie]

Part of the meaning of 10 is that the outcome depends on how you conduct yourself in your contacts with the lawyer and other people. Acting in a polite manner helps with difficult people ... I understand these threads will be closed down, maybe for a week, as Hilary upgrades the software. All best wishes to you as you meet with the lawyer and get on with your case.

 

[kdedeaux4]

Thank you Lavalamp!! You've offered a perspective about choosing legal representation which I hadn't considered
In addition, your interpretations are wise and clear to my situation:

47.1
You feel depressed. Don't do the negative bidding of others by bringing yourself down.
Move yourself, don't stay there, it is an internal journey you must make.

47.6
You are afraid if you act it will not be fortunate. But it is important you do act, and this will bring good fortune. Do not let your worries paralyze you

The person I'm up against is indeed a true "ass". He is my hateful, vindictive, controlling and abusive ex-husband/sociopath. It almost makes me wish I were going up against government instead. He is powerful, wealthy, and scares me..not to mention just hateful
I did select my first choice here and we've only taken the first few tiny steps of facing this ferocious enemy. I am deeply scared. Thus, I really appreciate that you point out this is an "internal journey" I "must make". It has grown beyond anything I could imagine and it helps me somehow to look at it in that manner. Also praying the tiger doesn't bite me. He's going to bite me, this I know...it's going to be a case of how hard and how effectively this tiger does. I pray it's "fortunate". I am certainly willing to tolerate some discomfort and pain if the end result is that my children are safe, nurtured, and loved.
Thank you so much for responding and sharing your insight!!

 

[kdedeaux4]

Ginnie,
Thank you! The tone and voice you convey in your responses always somehow make me feel a moment of peace in the chaos. I don't know how you're able to do that so well with your written words, but you do and that is something I very highly value right now.
Also, your advice is right-on too. It is critical that I maintain my integrity and my true essence in the midst of the coming onslaught, regardless of how vicious or ugly they attack.
I sure hope I have the strength to do that now when it is so vital to the situation?!
Blessings to you and great big thanks for your attention and response

 

[kdedeaux4]

Thank you Precision Grace Somehow my task now is to "tread carefully" and simultaneously to take a firm and resolute stand to protect and preserve the most important and precious thing in my life (my children).
This is going to be a full on WAR, ugly, and senseless, and taxing beyond anything I've ever stood up for in my life. I will use your advice throughout and make every attempt to "tread carefully".
I will undoubtedly be posting additional requests for added insight throughout what might be a lengthy battle and test of my own strength (and sanity? )

 

[kdedeaux4]

Thank you Meng! This was a delightful reassurance of my choice. You also point out very accurately my intense emotions, clouded objectivity, and state of chronic shock. Yes, yes, yes...guilty of all right now and it's almost rendered me paralyzed in a sense to feel confident doing anything at all. Yet, this is certainly a dire situation which requires action and a fair fight. I can't allow myself to remain paralyzed from fear.
I've no real gauge for my health right now. Months and months of sleepless nights, chronic stress, incessant worry and the like have often been the direct sources for my less-than-fair state of health. Thank you for this reminder to do all I can to counter-act those nagative effects as I'm going through this. It's easy for me to forget.
Blessings to you dear Meng And big gratitude for your thoughts and attention with this

 

[ginnie]

Hi kd. I'm glad to see your posts. I wanted to say: Don't give your ex-husband too much power. I'm sure he's formidable, but he is not super-human. He is just a human being with strong points and weak patches, just like everybody else. Try to maintain a balance in your life and don't think about your case 24/7, or else you'll drive yourself buggy. We all need breathing spaces! Perhaps you might be sure to do a daily meditation. Things always look better after we've given ourselves a brief mental vacation from our troubles. Keep us posted on developments ...