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I'm confused now I think its telling you staying in UK doing your own thing is better. Obviously that didn't come accross in my post.Hi Trojan,
So the Yi could be telling me that maybe going to Brazil wouldn't be so bad, but is it also telling that staying is ok too? Not very helpful...
If anyone else could shed some light too I would be very grateful.
I think this is not a really direct answer regarding "outcome" if you went back. I think this is saying instead, you can visit (Brazil) (and you'll be welcomed) but dont make it a permanent home.So I asked the Yi what the outcome would be if I went back and got 56.2.5 > 44
It did, but then I took what you said and applied to my feelings of being a foreigner in Brazil and not hereI'm confused now I think its telling you staying in UK doing your own thing is better. Obviously that didn't come accross in my post.
which then changes the answer...56 really confused me because it came as an answer about me going back to Brazil, and what you said about it kind of reinforced my doubts. You see, before going to Brazil I had a feeling of being a foreigner here, but then I went back and felt more of a foreigner there than I felt here, the first few months were specially hard I did not fit in at all. So when I came back home I came HOME and even if I know I will always be a foreigner here, I do not FEEL like one. Which then made me think of this answer being me as a happy foreigner in Brazil (since that's how I feel when I am there - not really happy but a foreigner!), even what you said about having a good supportive environment fits.
the reason is strong enough to give me doubts, if it was strong enough for a certainty then yes you are right to say I would know what to do and wouldn't need to ask the Yi...And anyway if you want to stay in UK then thats your answer. Why do something you don't want to without a strong reason. If the reason were strong enough you'd have no doubts even if you wanted to stay.
well it is always a mistake to take what i said and apply itIt did, but then I took what you said and applied to my feelings of being a foreigner in Brazil and not here
which then changes the answer...
the reason is strong enough to give me doubts, if it was strong enough for a certainty then yes you are right to say I would know what to do and wouldn't need to ask the Yi...
Am I just making things more confusing??? :mischief:
and comparing this with the opposite situation, where Hex 28 is still working "behind the scenes" in Hex 56: you won't avoid its sense of heaviness and loneliness by going back to Brazil, it would just be "hidden" into your "feeling of being a foreigner".H28 is also about standing on your own, and its suggesting it wont be an easy situation, probably because you wont have nearby family support, as you mentioned. But its not wrong for you to do this.
happy I'm not the only one!!!But you know what ? I am getting muddled up here
Sorry Tiziano I hadn't seen your post...Have you seen my post? I was asking you something. (if this can be of help)
mythili this is exactly how I would feel if I were to go back to Brazil, I would go not feeling at home and definitely not as a permanent thing.I have not known 56.5 to be a coming-home-permanently kind of thing, more like being accepted, but still as an outsider, or someone outside the immediate family. Theres still a transient feel to it.
It's not like they are against her coming to the UK but I think ultimately they would prefer that we lived close to them, so they support my decision but deep down I know that if they could choose they would have us there.You say you feel really at home in the UK, so perhaps the 44.6 reading does speak about what your daughter needs, which is that she might be better off in the UK, but is it possible that you may have to go against your family's wishes to bring her to the UK to live with you?
Thanks for bringing my grey hairs into the spotlight! the few I have and the many more that are soon to come!!!!!Another point though is although she likes nature etc now, it won't be long till puberty and teenage years. Is Brazil the best place for her in her teenage years do you think ?
I wouldn't dream in letting this situation carry on, we haven't seen each other in over a year now and all I want is to be with her, I am her mum and I should be the one looking after her. I only left her behind because I really had to, when I came back to England I did not have a job here, etc, so could not put her through god knows what... but now either she comes or I go, no more time apart!In general I'd think a child would be happiest with its mother...or in later life would wonder 'why did my mother leave me ? wasn't I the most important thing to her ?' but in your case sounds like she has an extended family and you when you visit and is quite happy
its likley any spots I hit are purely accidental but I'm glad you know the answer ! Hope you'll share laterThanks for bringing my grey hairs into the spotlight! the few I have and the many more that are soon to come!!!!!
oh, trojan I think now you hit the spot! because as soon as I read your question I knew the answer!!!!!!!!:bows:
Thats lovelyI wouldn't dream in letting this situation carry on, we haven't seen each other in over a year now and all I want is to be with her, I am her mum and I should be the one looking after her. I only left her behind because I really had to, when I came back to England I did not have a job here, etc, so could not put her through god knows what... but now either she comes or I go, no more time apart!
I might ask the Yi tonight about what she needs just to check if it matches my answer to your question. I really want to do what's right. I will let you know the outcome.
Thank you sooooooo much once again!
(...) because hex 44 could well be a young daughter growing and it may become heavy (28) for both of you if she doesn't feel at home in London... you may be tempted to proceed with your horns, but this could bear more "blame" than it is supposed to, especially if we look at the fan yao, 28.6...
44 is to yin what 24 is to yang. While yang needs yin to grow, but mainly in terms of space and matter, yin needs from yang strength, protection and to be recognised for what it is.spiralcloud said:oh my.......... I just asked what I should do to do the best possible for my daughter and guess????
HEXAGRAM 44!!!!! unchanging
Tiziano I am deeply grateful and humbled by your words. It touched my heart.44 is to yin what 24 is to yang. While yang needs yin to grow, but mainly in terms of space and matter, yin needs from yang strength, protection and to be recognised for what it is.
Maybe a tank seems to you the better place for rising a fish, but is it really the best for it? Is it a protective place or a prison? If it were a prison, it wouldn't be fit for a guest...
Your daughter is a gift from heaven and deserves the best willow as her wrapping. She's a thing of beauty still contained, that wants to grow up to be able to fully show.
She is old enough to have ideas about what she wants to do, where she wants to live, with whom she wants to stay. You may have your ideas about society, but are they really fit for her? (note: I'm not saying I'm pro Brazil, I'm just trying to make you weigh out things more evenly).
First thing and most important, you have to talk. Talk and talk again. But you shouldn't "talk to her", you should primarily let her talk and listen. With no preconceptions of yours about society or "what's best for an adolescent" or "what I want for her" things. If you don't empty your mind before talking, it may even be worse... you could involuntarily try to impose your views on her, you won't really be listening to her heart, to her inner needs. She is yin and that yin is buried under five yangs, so how hard to be seen! yet, the yang has the power (and the duty) to come to meet that yin, to acknowledge it, to welcome it and its needs.
Don't proceed with your horns. It may not be a mistake, but it could become really hard to bear for a long time. This is a risk, shown by the fact that you received that line (44.6). A happy mother living with an unhappy daughter isn't a happy mother anymore.
You are a wanderer by nature. Your signature also shows that, and this resonates with your 56.
Be careful: I'm not telling you have to renounce to yourself, it would be just as bad. For her, too: a happy daughter with an unhappy mother isn't happy anymore and would just flee.
I think your decision is made harder by the distance you risk to interpose between you with your personal projections and biases. Your hearts need to communicate from the inside, then everything will be clearer and easier. Maybe an unseen compromise will then suddenly show ...
I think it's saying to go back there from time to time; that is, go as a traveler. Or if you do go back there, you will feel like a stranger, because, if the truth be told, you now feel more at home in the UK.So I asked the Yi what the outcome would be if I went back and got 56.2.5 > 44
If you say in the UK you will successfully rebuff some who seek power over you, and there will be no blame. As you are asking this question you are somewhat over-wrought, which is the context, the 28. But once you realize that you feel at home best in the UK, things will relax.And then asked what the outcome would be if I stayed and got 44.6 > 28
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