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mazaru

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I am having deep feelings for somebody that doesn't seem to notice me lately.
I asked the I Ching how he feels for me, it answered 39.4.5>62
Does that mean he is pulling back from me?

Then I asked if I ever would receive some loving back from him, It answered 33.5>53
That doesn't sound very optimistic in my not so skillfull ears.
He doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore? He is saying "Thanks, but no thanks!"?

Maybe it would be best if I just let go, try to get rid of these feelings, and move on.
So I asked 'Is it really a lost case?" It answered 9.1>57
Does that mean it would be wise of me to retreat, and let go of how I feel for him?
Am I reading it right that it is not going to happen?
I would really appreciate some help in interpretating these answers. :bows:
 

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I asked the I Ching how he feels for me, it answered 39.4.5>62

Well, it suggests that he may indeed act reserved in his attitude but there is a warmth here that he can't/won't express.

Then I asked if I ever would receive some loving back from him, It answered 33.5>53

No.

Maybe it would be best if I just let go, try to get rid of these feelings, and move on.
So I asked 'Is it really a lost case?" It answered 9.1>57

There seems to be too many obstacles in the road, so backing off and going your own way is the recommended solution.
 

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Thank you Willowfox.
I was afraid of that.
That saddens me very much, but if that's the way it must be, I do not have much of a choice.
I asked if it was possible to at least maintain a true friendship with him.
The answer was 3.2.3.4>43
I have no idea how to take that. Could you help me one more time with the interpretation? :eek:
 
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Well, the whole thing sounds quite different to me.

"how he feels for me, it answered 39.4.5>62"

He feels there are insuperable obstacles between you and he just
wants to go to his 'place' and to 'his own' and lay low.

"if I ever would receive some loving back from him, It answered 33.5>53"
I don't think this is describing him saying 'thanks but no thanks', but you.
Think 'traditional'. If a man is backing off from 'marriage', then the girl
should indeed say herself "thanks but no thanks". Then a proper 53
procedure could possibly resume.

Is it really a lost case?" It answered 9.1>57
I'm not certain of the outcome, but the only correct way for you seems
to return the correct way of 'doing things', in this case the I Ching is
clear for relationships. It's the job of the man to pursue. You should
return to the way (9:1), and leave it up to him - the resulting 57 is actually
quite promising here. 57 is the man's way of going after a girl, so, maybe
it will work out after all.

possible to at least maintain a true friendship with him.
The answer was 3.2.3.4>43

Even without the yi answer i'd say a clear no. You obviously fancy him, so
how could a 'true friendship' be possible..? I bet you don't normally fancy
your closest true friends, do you?
3:2 says "do not pledge", not until you're certain of the nature of relationship.
3:3 says don't go against the sage.
3:4 says if there's an opportunity for reunion, grab it.
And 43, be resolute, decided, steady. Throw out any 'evil'.
So, you know what you want. Wait till you see that exactly. IF you see it,
grab it, and all will be well.

You do have a choice, and that is to play the part a female is supposed to
'play'. Wishing you good luck with it!
 

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I asked if it was possible to at least maintain a true friendship with him.
The answer was 3.2.3.4>43

It suggests that you can be a friend but the friendship will take time to mature, so you need to be patient and certainly not try to impose yourself on him.
 

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Thank you diamanda and willowfox for your answers.
I find the I Ching very helpfull, but it can also be very confusing. Because it isn't always clear to me, who is who in it's answer.
You both say that it is saying it would be wise of me to back off and don't try and force anything.
I felt that too.
So that must be good advice ;)
Thanks for your help! :hug:
 

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