Love Relationship Question

[Miglix21]

Hello everybody, how are you? Well, I just opened Hilary's post about relationship readings, I came here to ask some about some questions about the subject and I was going to ask for advice on how to make proper questions. I am glad I already found Hilary's post. Anyway, I have made my own questions and I would like some help regarding the subject.

The first question I made (like, two years ago) was if my next boyfriend (I am gay if that is needed to be known) would be a person I knew already and got hex. 60.5 to 19. I know that this question is more for a yes/no answer and perhaps it is not the proper way to ask. What my limitations are? Well, since I struggled for a lot of time to accept myself, almost all the persons I know are straight and, of course, from a logical point of view I cannot find anybody on my past that could possibly be a potential partner.

From that time to today, I have made several questions, already lost the count, which are for me rather confusing. Yet, what surprises me is that I have found a pattern on my anwsers and that is what I come here to ask.... I have received hex 13 several times with lines 3,4 and 5 changing.... I have received hexagram 38 several times with all lines changing and lines 1,3,5 and 6 specially catches my atenttion as it seems for me this is a person I known... and well, hex 24, 53 or 23.3.6, etc.

I have also received hexagram 5 or 34, telling me that it is not the time for it, and precisely today, I asked these questions I will share with you:

Why isn't the right time for a boyfriend? Hex 5.2.3 to 3.
What is the reason for the waiting? 34.1.3.4 to 7.
What am I exactly waiting? Hex 38.1 to 64.

I know that Hex 38.1 doesn't mean exactly that I have known this person for years. If you ask, I have tried to go out with people but haven't be succesful with it. Venezuela, which is my country of origin and the country in which I live has not too much place for gay people to meet (and the situation for us is not that good either with the rights and those things). We have to rely on dating apps, which, by the way I find dangerous for many reasons (I have had my experiences already on them).

If you wonder why I ask if it is a known person, it is because I have the strange feeling that this is the case. I cannot tell you exactly why. I think it sometimes that it is an unconsciouss way of not knowing new people, as, forming a love relationship with a person you know could be easier than spending all the time to get to know a new person, but I cannot tell.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello Miglix21,

personally I see no problem with asking yes/no questions even if it's sometimes hard to find their answer based on the cast. After all, must people ask divination about the vague, complicated aspects of their lives, including relationships, and they expect fairly clear answers. I know some experts prefer not using I Ching as a divination tool, however that's how I know & often use it.

Why isn't the right time for a boyfriend? Hex 5.2.3 to 3.
Because you should wait in a "proper place", not a desperate position that invites "robbers".

What is the reason for the waiting? 34.1.3.4 to 7.
Because going without control and using your "horns" leads to problems. Instead you should wait for the hedge to break & allow free moves.

What am I exactly waiting? Hex 38.1 to 64.
You're waiting for a horse to return- it may indicate a person, an emotion, or a lost vigor.

 

[Miglix21]

Hello Miglix21,

personally I see no problem with asking yes/no questions even if it's sometimes hard to find their answer based on the cast. After all, must people ask divination about the vague, complicated aspects of their lives, including relationships, and they expect fairly clear answers. I know some experts prefer not using I Ching as a divination tool, however that's how I know & often use it.

Why isn't the right time for a boyfriend? Hex 5.2.3 to 3.
Because you should wait in a "proper place", not a desperate position that invites "robbers".

What is the reason for the waiting? 34.1.3.4 to 7.
Because going without control and using your "horns" leads to problems. Instead you should wait for the hedge to break & allow free moves.

What am I exactly waiting? Hex 38.1 to 64.
You're waiting for a horse to return- it may indicate a person, an emotion, or a lost vigor.

Thank you very much for your anwser marybluesky; It is interesting as yesterday I happened to dream about this subject (I asked myself internally to have some kind of anwser through a dream) but, before going on further details on that, there is something else I want to share:

I used one question that Hilary suggested on here post about relationship questions, and I got this:

What's the potential of a new relationship with a new person (someone I don't know)?
I got Hex 32.2.3 to 16.

What's the potential of a new relationship with someone I do know?
I got Hex 16.5 to 45.

What's the potential of new love relationship with an old friend?
I got Hex 19,1 to 7.

My dream was pretty long, but, in order to make it shorter as I can I will resume:

I have a dream with two of my classmates when I was in primary school. I know one of them (A) is gay because it was always pretty obvious even though he never acknowledged it. The other one (X), is a person I've always considered straight (but I started to doubt it more or less two years ago). In my dream, this person was surrounded by gay people, I don't remember exactly if I passed by or If I was able to look through the wall of a building in which he was "gathered" with these other guys. He seemed to be aware that I knew he was there, as, well as I knew he saw me, somehow.

I asked my other classmate (A), stranged, "What is "X" doing there (or here)? -don't remember the exact words-. And then I ended up in and old building, inside a room with bad conditions, alone.

In the "waking life", I did have a crush on this person. I eventually expressed the feelings I had, but, not exactly with the intention of having a relationship with him, because, as far as I know and as I said, this person is "straight". I choosed to express my feelings because I felt not doing it was harming me, and, I knew that there were going to be consequences, yet, I was calmed inside myself because, I thought that perhaps that was what I needed to move out with another person, and, carrying those unexpressed feelings was for me like a burden.

It happened that, this person said, that there were no problems at all -this happened through a phone-. Some weeks later, I needed to go to the capitol -where he lives- because I needed to buy a medicine for my mom who was dying from cancer, and I had to stay three days. I also needed some help, and I talked to him for us to meet -of course, I didn't say anything about the situation I was going through as I wanted to talk to him in person-. Well, I don't know how to say in English, in Spanish we say "me dejó embarcado" (he left me on the ship and never came) twice.

I travelled back home, sad and angry. I didn't feel and don't feel hurt for not having my feelings corresponded by this person, but, more for not having had support, I could also had travelled a little earlier to home. Two days after that, I wrote him back, and, again, as I would say in Spanish "I sent this person to eat ten thousand galons of sh*t". He told me he considered our friendship to be over, to what I replied that It was over long ago, but, that anyway, thanks for the honesty -it wasn't the first time I felt this person had some kind of rejection towards me, if you ask-. He belongs to the Church of Scientology that by the way have a very bad standing on gay people, so, everything for me is still rather confusing.

I asked Yi once if "X" could be my next boyfriend to which I received Hex 58.5, to which I understood, "no". I will let the post this long, if not, I would have enough content to print a newspaper.