Men let me down Hex 3.6>42

[goddessliss]

Good evening,
Well it seemingly looks like men keep letting me down -
Supposed friend who said he would help get the kombi going says he will come and help but doesn't.
The electrician who appears to have taken a dislike to me because I disagreed with him wanting to come and work on a Sunday. His history is about 15 years ago he wife left him for another man - he has never had another relationship. He was supposed to come back and fix something and didn't until I made a phone call, again.
I have been trying to speak to a teacher about my sons education I have rung 3 times he has not returned my call.
This recent near relationship I had - well as lovely as he is - he did let me down, not just cause he backed away from a relationship with me.

The women in my life are great but the men argh!

OK so I asked Why do men keep letting me down Hex 3.6>42

Thku I really don't have a clue what this means. xx

 

[Trojina]

well thats a question that rests on a possibly false premise that there is a reason why men keep letting you down.....rather than much of life is about the ups and downs of life that can be nothing to do with us at all.

We naturally try to make patterns out of things thats how our brains are wired...but here you have a series of unrelated events where it happened to be men who didn't follow through....but that doesn't mean theres one reason why it happened ?

3.6 is generally about something being finished before its even got off the ground so i feel its possibly just descriptive of what happened to you...and thats your 'why'. What happened in these instances is that plans were aborted, they never got off the ground...because thats just how it was...no other reason so Yi can't give a why if there is no one reason these things happened to you

The first way I saw 3.6 for you here though is that you may be giving up before you even got off the ground. I guess 3.6 is the line of 'throwing in the towel' and thats what you do when you have had enough. So you sound like you have had enough already...but maybe you need to just carry on regardless...don't give up too easy if one lets you down, get straight on to another and so on. One could possibly see these events as a test for your endurance, your spirit, so don't give up too easy or think things are against you. Your mindset is that events/people are conspiring against you by the sound of it so maybe you need to be more detached from it, its just life and carry on carrying on.

BTW I am wondering if unreliabilty is now kind of in fashion because i was chatting to a friend the other day about how many people promise things they are going to do and so on and just don't follow through and we both said we were sure it was happening more now than it used to. Perhaps people don't feel keeping their word is as important as they used ...? I don't know.


So if it isn't the case that men are always letting you down but that you have had a run of misfortune with situations where men were meant to do something they didn't do you need to know how to meet those circumstances in the best way for you. Maybe you could also count the times men did do something they said they were going to do.

You have subtly positioned yourself as victim in the question without realising it, its something others are doing to you. If its random then your question to yourself is how to deal with it


I go through phases where every household appliance and my vehicle breaks down. yesterday the toilet flush handle broke off, today the oven has broken and my car radiator has a leak...and there will be more I am sure !!! These appliances and so on don't have an agenda with me, but it does all seem to happen at once...I can go for years with nothing going wrong and then......all I'm sayingis maybe it can happen with men too....you get the problems all at once yet its not personal.


At least i can now flush the toilet LOL

 

[goddessliss]

Thks trojan I appreciate your reply as I think I seriously need a kick up the b....it is just that I have had such a mindset for a long time that everything that happens to me MUST be because I am attracting it and I MUST look to myself as to why, but your words ' much of life is about the ups and downs of life that can be nothing to do with us at all.'
And now I am starting to realise this is true especially about unreliability. I guess our generation was about keeping your word and it doesn't seem so much so now.... xx