message and response

[redoleander]

I received a message that was very sweet but I’m sort of cautious about the motive as they’ve been inconsistent in the past.

What’s the meaning of those texts?
38.1.2 > 35

How should I respond?
50 UC

I never know what to make of 38. I feel like those lines sound pretty sincere. The “lost horse” seems straightforward, this is them coming back. Meeting a master in the lane though… isn’t that sort of fleeting? Like does it have any real weight to it? I think it’s sincere but it also sounds to me like it could just be fleeting. I could be wrong. I’m not sure. 50UC made me feel like I shouldn’t immediately respond. Or that I need to be grounded in response. Sincere? Mostly what I picked up was not responding right away.

Someone will probably (rightfully) ask what I would hope to get out of responding and while I’m actually not sure what I want with this person anymore, I do care about them. I also don’t want to indulge whims of emotion etc and then have it go nowhere satisfying for me. Past actions would need to be addressed for me to feel comfortable in connection again and they are resistant to accountability. I’m wondering if this is sort of just a flight of fancy.

thanks

 

[dfreed]

What’s the meaning of those texts?
38.1.2 > 35

Just to clarify, this is a 'text message' you got from someone, correct? And is perhaps a potential (or former) romantic interest? Or perhaps you have another connection? Friends maybe?

 

[becalm]

38.1.2>35
Means they're not going to pursue you but hope you'll return on your own so they sent you a text (narrow lane, phone line) to feel you out and see what Progress might come.
50 un
Say exactly what you said about past actions needing to be addressed if you're to have any kind of relationship/connection.

 

[diamant]

I agree with your interpretation, and with becalm's one too.
I'd like to add:

In line 38.1 there's a fleeing horse, which we shouldn't chase. It will come back, if it belongs to us. Also in line 38.1:
meeting an evil person - 'the evil person will behave more wickedly and discrepancies will heighten if he is completely repulsed'.

35, they might just be after quick sex.

About 50 I agree, don't answer immediately, or perhaps even not at all. Let them stew. 50 is about slowly creating something of real value. It's a slow gestation. Do you feel such a thing is possible with that person?

 

[redoleander]

Thank you! I totally agree about the “feeling out”. Which I am apprehensive about mostly because I’ve usually had to be the “adult” emotionally and it sort of feels like it be my work to force the essential conversations which is not what I want (at all). I would much prefer a direct and transparent approach. But that takes more maturity I think. :/

The question of slow gestation… is a good one. I’ll have to think about it. I am honestly not sure if it’s possible but then again we became close very quickly and then there were some glaring issues which actually I was willing to work through but they really were not.

Very interesting about the “evil person” and the hidden line as well (is that what you’re referring to?). I’ve read elsewhere, I believe, that sometimes it says the horse should have left (it’s for the best); that’s more emphasized than the return in a particular translation but I completely forget which one.

 

[diamant]

I wasn't referring to a hidden line, the 'evil person will behave...' text was from Tuck Chang's commentary on line 38.1. Sorry I should have specified that.

 

[diamant]

the horse should have left (it’s for the best)

The horse is considered highly useful and powerful, so it's not a good thing to lose it. I believe the meaning is that if the horse belongs to you, it will return to you without you needing to chase it.

 

[dfreed]

What’s the meaning of those texts?3 8.1.2 > 35 - and
How should I respond? 50 UC

I think this person is approaching you, both with a sense of clarity and also caution - a need for them to also feel safe. I sense you're more conflicted than they are; your heart is divided: on the one hand, this feels like a gift - like someone you desire returning (like a horse returning home on its own); on the other hand, something doesn't seem right, and you wonder, is this a gift horse, or a bad or hideous person (or a bit of both)?

I feel that you need to be practical in how you respond. You need to be caring towards all involved, but also approach this slowly and gently, and be clear what it is you want (and need).

I wonder if you two might find common ground in unconventional or unexpected ways - like meeting an important person in a side alley, instead of in the main square? And here you might both be a bit less guarded, and find unique ways of being together.

Stephen Field says some early meanings for hex. 38's title are 'seeing something that others don’t see' and 'to observe the sky'. Whatever the outcome, I think things will work out - but perhaps in unexpected ways: like looking up at a night sky full of stars and seeing new constellations - i.e. new ways they fit together.

Best, D.

 

[my_key]

I received a message that was very sweet but I’m sort of cautious about the motive as they’ve been inconsistent in the past.

What’s the meaning of those texts?
38.1.2 > 35

The meaning of those texts for you is is a stirring of old thoughts and emotions that bring a sense of tension into your world (38). There is opportunity for you to flush out the old and see things in a new light (35) or you can chase after your old nag. The latter course of action may bring to the fore old vulnerabilites (38.1), but whatever sense of meaning evoked in you through receiving these texts, rest assured, changes have been set in motion and you will see certain things more clearly (38.2). After all is said and done, it is important to recognise this situation is being motivated by the deeper nudgings of 63 Already Across

How should I respond?
50 UC

50 meaning 'grasping renewal'. A noble one corrects his situation to solidify his fate.

...or it may mean nothing like this for you.

Good Luck