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"It is advisable to make no move but to remain determined." I think the I Ching is reflecting you and your ideals back to you so that you can examine them. You want unconditional love and that indicates that you are "leaving lowliness behind." There is nothing impossible about unconditional love. It is quite achievable.
Hex 17.3>49
Maybe I could clarify.
In my studies of psychology when I was in teacher training, I came across the idea of 'good enough mother'. Now for me that simply means a basic acceptance the child for who she or he is. If not actually 'unconditional love' in any mystical absolute sense, it is as near most of us as get to it as humans perhaps.
For many individuals that basic need was not met. Their development can be disturbed, arrested, or whatever term you want to use as a result.
And until those human beings are able to experience a minimal experience of this kind of acceptance,
they may find it very hard to make a normal or conventional way through their lives.....
As a teenager I experienced in a more absolute, mystical sense, Unconditional love ---thereby hangs a tale--but I never experienced 'good enough mothering'.
Hence not only is my personality development rather skew-whiff from a human developmental point of view, it has also remained Unintegrated because of lack of bringing together of different strands of growth i.e. human and if you like, something a bit more beyond......
Presentation of my 'self' as a result of all this,-- and a catalogue of chaotic or/and abusive experiences along the way triggered by trying to find a way through all this--- has been incomplete, confusing and confused.. and rather 'split' resulting in enormous problems with communication etc. (despite some level of eloquence).
Our environment/relationships mirror us. Imagine.
"The young starts off as impulsive, spontaneous, foolishly creative, intuitive and not a little bit silly. By losing this, one becomes mature, dependable, and a predictable stuffed shirt."
Impulsive would be the only thing I think one has to lose to mature.
the other attributes; spontaneous, foolishly creative, intuitive, and a bit silly can certainly exist in a mature developed person. The bad thing with impulsiveness is, when one gives it free reign, one often doesn't know what kind of energy is actually being expressed until it comes and you can see it. (Surprise! Sometimes followed by "oops, that was rather F'd up by me now wasnt it?)
To embrace impulsiveness is to Enable hidden forces (our shadows) that are often....
shall we say "f'd up" ?
Hex 17.3>49
When I referred to an experience of unconditional love I am talking of a mystical/transpersonal thing that happened - no via any human relationship but when I was alone as a teenager in my bedroom! That is why the feeling of total acceptance, total innocence, light, clarity, wonder, beauty, freedom......coming in that way caused me to come to an awareness that skewed my development over all -- even though it was obviously an extremely precious event.
The disparity between that 'knowing', and the realism of 'human' dysfunction of the mothering I experienced left me with an knowledge of one ideal, but on a human level something seriously amiss. it left me feeling extremely lonely, misunderstood and unable ever to feel properly earthed...
Sorry if this isn't making much sense.
My comment spoke to the entire concept of loving someone unconditionally, which I do not consider to be loving but enabling.
Hey sooo,
Language is a funny thing ain't it?
A word means one thing to one person, something else to another.
My understanding of impulsive includes the negative connotation like this one:
Impulsiviness ..a tendency to act on a whim, displaying behavior characterized by little or no forethought, reflection, or consideration of the consequences Impulsive actions typically are "poorly conceived, prematurely expressed, unduly risky, or*inappropriate*to the situation that often result in undesirable consequences,"
I think you may associate the word with spontenaity, intuition, and inspiration.
I play gee tar too. Do you prefer a pick or fingerstyle? (Im a finger noodler)
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Specific impulse, the change in momentum per unit mass of propellant of a propulsion system
Impulse function, a mathematical function of an infinitely high amplitude and infinitesimal duration
Impulse response, a system's output when presented with the impulse function in Electrical Engineering
Impulse (psychology), a wish or urge, particularly a sudden one
Impulsion, a thrust of a horse
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I think we do differ on this, So.
When I met my husband, he was a smoker and so was I. I don't remember him ever pressuring me to quit, but he joined Nicotine Anonymous and became a group leader. I attended his group and I attended other groups, too. He was successful in quitting and later I quit, too, when I decided to. You could say we were both addicts but nowadays we are both smoke-free and neither of us has residual cravings. There is something to be said for toleration and acceptance as providing a ground for sheltering what is best in ourselves. It's as if unconditional love creates a space in which people can grow. Yet I know that there are types of people I find to be 'beyond the pale' and whom I have no sympathy for. So I guess we're all different when it comes to whom we might tolerate and accept in an unconditional way.
In human life too the individual achieves significance through discrimination and the setting of limits. Therefore what concerns us here is the problem of clearly defining these discriminations, which are, so to speak, the backbone of morality. Unlimited possibilities are not suited to man; if they existed, his life would only dissolve in the boundless. To become strong, a man's life needs the limitations ordained by duty and voluntarily accepted. The individual attains significance as a free spirit only by surrounding himself with these limitations and by determining for himself what his duty is. - Wilhelm h60
He not only became adapted to being vacuumed before being allowed inside at night or during hot desert summer days, he'd deliberately roll around to get a nice thick coat of the dust covering him, so that he'd get a thorough 'vacuum massage' every evening before his bed time
what I'm really needing and looking for is.........Unconditional Love.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).