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Hello! I remember finding my dad's I Ching book as a child and being fascinated by it. But then forgot all about it until I rediscovered the book recently. It's been both enlightening and thoroughly confusing! In any case, this is my first post, and it concerns (probably to no one's surprise) a relationship.I am best friends with someone, and we had a very, very brief romance but that's all been left in the past because a romantic relationship just isn't possible under current circumstances. And 95% of the time I'm OK with that because we have a special connection as friends that brings us both much happiness. We've been through a lot together and stuck it out when others might have walked away. But then there's that last 5% of the time when I feel so incredibly sad because I want more and know that deep inside I'm waiting and hoping for the impossible. I've been feeling particularly depressed today. 
I asked:1) What do I need to know most about our relationship right now? 29.1.3 to 5There are difficulties right now and "conditions are dangerous" (not sure what this refers to? problems on his end that I'm unaware of? because we aren't fighting or having issues. Or is this my negative attitude right now?) but if I don't take unnecessary risks (1) or hope for unrealistic outcomes (5) things will be OK. I just need to be more patient (and less crazy!) right now (5).2) What is the potential for our friendship to become something more one day? 28.5 to 32This one is harder. I saw some other threads that seemed to think this answer is positive, but I'm guessing that this is really trying to tell me that I need to take the pressure of myself and the relationship--stop obsessing about the future? And if I can do that, then we can have a lasting friendship. Or maybe that we already have a strong relationship and I need to stop heaping unrealistic expectations onto it and fully commit to being happy with what we have now. Which I guess doesn't really answer my question, but does make sense.Do my interpretations sound about right? Thank you for any feedback you're willing to share.
I asked:1) What do I need to know most about our relationship right now? 29.1.3 to 5There are difficulties right now and "conditions are dangerous" (not sure what this refers to? problems on his end that I'm unaware of? because we aren't fighting or having issues. Or is this my negative attitude right now?) but if I don't take unnecessary risks (1) or hope for unrealistic outcomes (5) things will be OK. I just need to be more patient (and less crazy!) right now (5).2) What is the potential for our friendship to become something more one day? 28.5 to 32This one is harder. I saw some other threads that seemed to think this answer is positive, but I'm guessing that this is really trying to tell me that I need to take the pressure of myself and the relationship--stop obsessing about the future? And if I can do that, then we can have a lasting friendship. Or maybe that we already have a strong relationship and I need to stop heaping unrealistic expectations onto it and fully commit to being happy with what we have now. Which I guess doesn't really answer my question, but does make sense.Do my interpretations sound about right? Thank you for any feedback you're willing to share.