My love life is odd!

[kkappa]

Hey everyone,

Seems that when only a little over a month my love life was at a complete dead end, suddenly an ex resurfaced, then another old pursuer resurfaced with even greater vigor than before, and a male colleague who is completely out of line with his behavior is also relentless at hovering around me even though he has a girlfriend. What just happened?!

While I'm not even remotely considering being receptive to the advances of my colleague, I wondered what Yi would say to the other two. They both have their good and bad qualities, and frankly I cannot make up my mind. For now I am content with waiting to see how it plays out and not making any promises to anyone (hello 44-ness!)

A as romantic partner: 27.2.4.5>10
I see it as he is nourishing for me, I can end up over-indulging myself with him, and I need to be very aware of my dependence on him. Well, sounds much like the way our relationship was before anyway. I'm just more aware now. I can see 10 being both of our feisty natures so we need to tread carefully around each other. Funny that both hexes have something to with strong images such as a tiger and jaws.

B as romantic partner: 13.2.4.6>5
Well, 13 is not exactly very romantic. All in all it seems like he is sort of detached? Or is it me that needs to let the man grow older a bit (he is younger)? He does not live in the same country as me, so maybe that is 13.4, but I'm not sure.

What do you think? Any hope with either?

Thank you as always :bows:

 

[Trojina]

I'm too lazy to write a full answer but overall my sense is "why would you return to the past ?"..."exes are exes for a reason" as the saying goes. Unless you yearn to be back with one or the other of them (?) then why not just find someone new ? You don't sound very interested in either of them and it looks to me like the answers are descriptions of how the relationships were and why they broke up.

The 27>10 one looks like not quite the right food for you and the 13>5 looks too remote to consider.

However if you have feelings about either of these people then it's a whole different matter and you must interpret in the light of them. For example perhaps things have never been in quite the right place with the 13>5 guy but now you get the sense they can be ?

It's not possible to interpret these answers IMO without the important factor of your feelings to inform the interpretation. You sound pretty detached, you already broke up with them so why not look for pastures new ?

 

[kkappa]

I'm too lazy to write a full answer but overall my sense is "why would you return to the past ?"..."exes are exes for a reason" as the saying goes. Unless you yearn to be back with one or the other of them (?) then why not just find someone new ? You don't sound very interested in either of them and it looks to me like the answers are descriptions of how the relationships were and why they broke up.

The 27>10 one looks like not quite the right food for you and the 13>5 looks too remote to consider.

However if you have feelings about either of these people then it's a whole different matter and you must interpret in the light of them. For example perhaps things have never been in quite the right place with the 13>5 guy but now you get the sense they can be ?

It's not possible to interpret these answers IMO without the important factor of your feelings to inform the interpretation. You sound pretty detached, you already broke up with them so why not look for pastures new ?

Hihi, Trojan, I am not one to show or express emotions even when they overwhelm me. I have always had strong feelings for the ex and recently it turned out that neither wanted to break up with the other, but somehow we miscommunicated so bad that we did anyway. I guess right now we're both recovering from the shock of having to relive the breakup (which neither wanted) many months down the line.

You said it quite right, the 13>5 guy has always been a very remote experience for me. It's not like I don't like him, it's that being with him would take more sacrifice than I am willing to make at this stage. If he were to suddenly move where I live, then sure, I would give it a go, but no long-distance relationships for me, thanks.

My question was posed more from the perspective of compatibility.

 

[mirian]

Dear kkappa,

Compatibility-wise I would say neither. Option A reading does not seem to bring to you the kind of nourishment that you need. I don't think that you would be happy in this relationship, considering the changing lines. Option B reading lacks the real bond that keep two people together regardless of distance.

Sorry, I just don't see any of them being the partner for you.:bows:

 

[kkappa]

Now that kind of clears the scene, no?
I guess it's out with the old and in with the empty space for someone new one day.

Dear kkappa,

Compatibility-wise I would say neither. Option A reading does not seem to bring to you the kind of nourishment that you need. I don't think that you would be happy in this relationship, considering the changing lines. Option B reading lacks the real bond that keep two people together regardless of distance.

Sorry, I just don't see any of them being the partner for you.:bows:

 

[littlebuddha]

Me too, like Trojan and mirian think none of the two deserve you, kkappa A) seems indeed a bad influence, albeit my experience with 10th hexagram as relating - is that nothing really bad happens, just unnecessary drag or something like that.
As per B), just a thought - is he from quite different background than you? I had 13th hexagram in relationship readings for people from (very) different religious background and/or for people from other (than mine or whomever i am reading for) sides of the planet... To me the casting felt as if there would be opposition in that part, maybe more complicated than you'd like to bother with.

 

[meng]

A as romantic partner: 27.2.4.5>10
I see it as he is nourishing for me, I can end up over-indulging myself with him, and I need to be very aware of my dependence on him. Well, sounds much like the way our relationship was before anyway. I'm just more aware now. I can see 10 being both of our feisty natures so we need to tread carefully around each other. Funny that both hexes have something to with strong images such as a tiger and jaws.

It seems natural that a pragmatic sort of person would require a proverbial tiger, and a tiger nature would seek someone comfortable enough to be the lamb that lays down with the tiger without a bleep or worry. That requires trust more than it does sameness.

B as romantic partner: 13.2.4.6>5
Well, 13 is not exactly very romantic. All in all it seems like he is sort of detached? Or is it me that needs to let the man grow older a bit (he is younger)? He does not live in the same country as me, so maybe that is 13.4, but I'm not sure.

 

[littlebuddha]

Meng, it's a poem... GENIUS. (Btw, i swear i missed "he lives in another country" part, it was early in the morning in my time zone when i replied and i was close to brain dead )

naturaly
a pragmatic
requires the proverbial tiger
a tiger nature
seeks someone
comfortable enough to be the lamb
that lays down with the tiger
without a bleep or worry
that requires trust
more
than it does sameness

 

[kkappa]

Thank you everyone for your comments! Actually, both are from a different culture, and it is with A that the cultural differences cause the biggest issue. With B the cultural differences are close to none.

Meng, I couldn't quite tell whether you were supporting this or not, but it's an interesting poem you found. In Tarot, the card I keep getting with A is Strength - the woman has the power to tame the lion. A and I had a very heart-felt conversation last night (the first in a long long time) and let's just say that the lion realised that he should stop biting the hand that feeds it if he wants to feel safe and secure.

What a good lion (pats it on the head)

 

[anemos]

Kappa, isn't 27.5 the reason you broke up and the way you wish to continue with this guy ? ( i remember a previous thread about this matter) . I personally like this reading as its lines depicts the matters you have to face (past and present ones) and ask yourself if you are in for this ride on not. It can be challenging but I can't say its a bad reading...

eta : just noticed that :"the woman has the power to tame the lion". Just a thought ;what if the lamp and the lion live inside Kappa ?

 

[littlebuddha]

Thank you for feedback, Kkappa!

it's an interesting poem you found.

Lol, it's MENG'S POEM, he wrote a perfect poem in prose (probably) without realizing it, i quoted his words and (forgive me for that) removed couple of conjunctions which spoiled the rhythm

In Tarot, the card I keep getting with A is Strength - the woman has the power to tame the lion. A and I had a very heart-felt conversation last night (the first in a long long time) and let's just say that the lion realised that he should stop biting the hand that feeds it if he wants to feel safe and secure.

Kkappa, on another level - Tarot says very direct messages - except metaphysical ones, ie. simultaneously with those; with A - something big could be happening in August (Sun in Leo)

 

[kkappa]

Kappa, isn't 27.5 the reason you broke up and the way you wish to continue with this guy ? ( i remember a previous thread about this matter) . I personally like this reading as its lines depicts the matters you have to face (past and present ones) and ask yourself if you are in for this ride on not. It can be challenging but I can't say its a bad reading...

eta : just noticed that :"the woman has the power to tame the lion". Just a thought ;what if the lamp and the lion live inside Kappa ?

Hey Anemos, maybe you're confusing me with someone? I wasn't part of this forum when we broke up and haven't posted about him until today and once about a month ago. I'm still wrapping my head around 27.5, to be honest. I had it as my weekly reading last week and I still don't quite see it. Once I read on this forum what a relationship described by 27.5 is like, challenging yes, but as long as one is aware of those challenges, there can be plenty of happiness.

Hihi, I would say there's a lamb and a dragon in me, a lamb and a lion in him It's a problem when the two lambs are sleeping and the dragon and the lion get all up in each others' grill

 

[kkappa]

August - oh dear, I don't think I can take any more stimulation with this relationship. I would just like us to get to a safe footing first!

Well, Meng, it's an awesome poem, and littlebuddha, thanks for sharing it - it made me smile!

 

[anemos]

Hey Anemos, maybe you're confusing me with someone? I wasn't part of this forum when we broke up and haven't posted about him until today and once about a month ago.

Was talking about the one you posted one month ago, when he reappeared


Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon

you might like read this : http://www.biroco.com/yijing/dragon_tiger.htm

 

[meng]

No poetry intended, but thanks, littlebuddha, for keeping the essential while pruning the extraneous to make it so.

Hi kkappa,

I didn't consider taking a position on either chaps, I merely offered my impression of each by the readings. Imo, it really depends what you seek in a partner, and you distinctly qualified that by specifying a romantic partner. Hence, the pleasantries of fellowship with B appear to lack the elements for natural passion, which, odd as it may be, is very often due to lack of opposition. But just as easily opposition could chase away the tiger, the great change you seek. For tigers are generally meek, and when in their field, there are no stripes. Treading through the home of a tiger requires discrimination. But here, the compatibility factor is based on personal preference and what will nourish one another. I'm not so sure that the romantic emphasis is primary for lasting relationships, though it would be a wonderful to keep alive, perhaps sublime.

 

[kkappa]

Was talking about the one you posted one month ago, when he reappeared


Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon

you might like read this : http://www.biroco.com/yijing/dragon_tiger.htm

Very spacy reading!! I have no words.

Ah, it was 41.5>61 mostly that kept coming up. I've figured it out by now what that meant and actually had little to do with a codependent past.

 

[kkappa]

No poetry intended, but thanks, littlebuddha, for keeping the essential while pruning the extraneous to make it so.

Hi kkappa,

I didn't consider taking a position on either chaps, I merely offered my impression of each by the readings. Imo, it really depends what you seek in a partner, and you distinctly qualified that by specifying a romantic partner. Hence, the pleasantries of fellowship with B appear to lack the elements for natural passion, which, odd as it may be, is very often due to lack of opposition. But just as easily opposition could chase away the tiger, the great change you seek. For tigers are generally meek, and when in their field, there are no stripes. Treading through the home of a tiger requires discrimination. But here, the compatibility factor is based on personal preference and what will nourish one another. I'm not so sure that the romantic emphasis is primary for lasting relationships, though it would be a wonderful to keep alive, perhaps sublime.

You are definitely on to something here with regards to the opposition. Everyone I've ever been with has had no opposition to me, so to speak, and with this tiger/lion I am for the first time actually intrigued. Frustrated, but intrigued. This one can actually keep me interested for a long time to come, because he is my equal in a completely different way. Who know, maybe I'll get so scratched up by him this time around, but I dare say the dragon knows better by now to use better tactics.

Just for giggles, my daily reading was - 1.5! Yi has a real sense of humor.

Thank you all for your input, it has been most enlightening! :bows:

 

[littlebuddha]

Just for giggles, my daily reading was - 1.5! Yi has a real sense of humor.

That's too cool! Especially having in mind that you mention 44-iness, i get that a lot too - and i think many contemporary women do... We'd probably be burned or stoned backed in the day (or whatever was the preferred method of dealing with "powerful maidens" ), but even nowadays, where i am - for a woman who doesn't go along with patriarchal matrix, at least seemingly - it is tough. For what i lived with and interacted with Chinese - their women are far from submissive, it's a myth BUT their dominance is way more tiger-ish, hidden... Which isn't really what we are thought in the West, but sometimes it does seem in romantic relationships it is better to let the guy / dominant energy be the dragon, while sticking to hidden tiger strategy for oneself... That article is most informative indeed, due thanks to anemos for linking to it (and to you for replying and posting feedback) :bows:

 

[meng]

or

With a little imagination, A is the one above, B is the one below.

 

[kkappa]

Update: A was indeed not the right kind of nourishment for me, but I had to find it out myself. We have separated after 8 months of pleasant times together, but ultimately I am too much of a 44 for him. He was in no way a tiger. A fluffy sheep at best and me with my dragon fire could burn his wool in a flash.

With B nothing ever transpired, thankfully, no spark whatsoever.