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I don't know if this will be of any help, but I was seriously involved with a much older man. Of course these thoughts used to go through my head but I'll tell you about perspective. It was me who had a serious car accident, and me who was diagnosed with a heart condition, both in my twenties. So that made me realise that just because my then partner had a head start on life, it didn't mean that as we got older, it would be my attraction to him fading - it was him that saw me debilitated through serious health problems, not the other way around.My relationship problem is this: A much older woman is in love with me. We dated, several months ago. I think we are very compatible; we like being together, share interests, have amazing chemistry. Everything seems perfect - except the age difference. I suppose it is a bit superficial. However, she's 20 years older than I, and I just can't see myself reminaing attracted to her, as we both age.
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The most recent counsel I received from the oracle: "A philosophical perspective can do wonders at this time, whereas a focus on the eccentricities will lead you astray."
The most recent counsel I received from the oracle: "A philosophical perspective can do wonders at this time, whereas a focus on the eccentricities will lead you astray."
it makes me wonder: Is focusing on the age difference, the "eccentricity" in this case?
:bows:
A more philosophical point of view [on relationships] can do wonders at this time, whereas a focus on the more eccentric aspects of your relationships can lead you astray.
"I got a woman, way over town, that's good to me. Oh yea! She gives me money, when I'm in need! Oh, she's a kind friend, a friend indeed! I got a woman, way over town, that's good to me. Oh yeah!"
--Ray Charles, from I Got A Woman
Lt. McCaffey: "I want the truth!"
Col. Jessup: "You can't handle the truth!"
---A Few Good Men
I do wonder though how do you reconcile this approach with the fact that obviously (since you are trusting a method of divination) you do believe there are things that decidedly influence our lives without being countable, concrete and obvious
romantic doesn't necessarily mean naive and romantic love doesn't necessarily mean americanised versions or romance.
I guess I was waiting to find more elements pertaining to your very personal interrelation with your girlfriend (both good and bad) since this is a personal bond you are talking about, not a corporate merging
I do have the feeling that you yourself are not very sure of this whole approach and are trying to provoke the reaction that plays out silently in some part of you
What counts in a relationship, and makes it
successful, is how compatible the two are.
i must say that if i ever heard my boyfriend speak like this about our relationship, i'd throw him
out in an instant.
If there is high compatibility, on all the important levels, then the relationship will be successful.
Can you honestly say, that if your girlfriend read what
you just wrote, would be happy and agree with this take on it all?
is this also your gathering up your forces to ward off enemies?
Are we the unaware participants in some Socratic maieutics? I mean, it was quite clear you wanted to enact a (philosophical) debate but who are you trying to convince?
is this really what you should be doing or is it a distraction from the real site of combat?
as i'm not thus inclined (ie i'm not inclined to give top priority
to practical considerations - not saying i'm giving no consideration to them, but, when
contemplating a relationship, they would not be top of my criteria
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).