Need help with 31

[seeker]

So, I have been trying the last few days to focus on other things and move forward. I actually put a post on a personals website, but not sure that was the right thing, because when I asked Yi today what to do I got 56.1.6. In the last couple of days I have had answers that mentioned dubious action or unscrupulous people. I think I am being warned not to jump into the wrong kind of relationship just to ease my pain from Thomas. Of course, I was already to just forget about him until I got that 46.5, then I thought well, maybe it just referred to a better future for me, not us together, but then I found a post in the archives from Hillary that said we should trust that Yi answers our questions directly as 90% of the time it does, and the question was about me and him, so now don't know.

Anyway, enough babbling, on to 31. I asked how thomas felt about me since our conversation the other night, with the idea in mind of how did it affect things, and got 31 unchanging. I expected 36 or 33, so was caught off guard. I have looked at Wilhelm and Lise, will look up more when I get home, but I am a bit unclear, and like the answer of 46.5, hesitant to think anything too positive, plus I know the question I asked is one that can give convuluted answers. Anyway, would like some help if anyone is around. Thanks

 

[pam]

Seek,

I think he is influenced by you and thinks fondly of you, but the fact that the influence has no changing lines makes me think that it is what it is. I still think of a man (boy) I loved in college and we only had a brief affair - I left him to go back to the man who became my first husband. I'm sure I will always be influenced by him to some extent, as well as by other men, and he will be likewise influenced by our relationship. But will I ever see him again? I doubt it.

You may see Thomas again, but I don't think that the outcome will change. I don't think he is the one you will ultimately end up with. Maybe you should retreat into yourself for awhile and take care of your daughter. Develop some area of your life you have neglected - spiritual, physical, psychic, intellectual....maybe just giving of yourself to others who need your help in some way. Many times this turns into a new avenue for meeting someone who really IS the right type of person. When you discover something you love to do and throw yourself into it, others who love that also will be drawn to you.

Anyhow, think about it and start pushing upward yourself. I think you will find it is more rewarding than being the wanderer forever. You are not creating any options by hanging onto someone who is not there. If he arrives on your doorstep, then trust the next step to be good. Otherwise, move on.

 

[seeker]

Well I know he thinks fondly of me, he has said more than once that he thinks I am one of the sweetest people he has ever met, plus the fact that he was so receptive to my call the other night. I would not have thought anything about this hex if I had not also received that 46.5. But you are right, it will either happen or it won't. My lesson for this year appears to be patience. I keep getting answers that say this cannot be rushed, I have to follow the step by step process. Thanks for help.

 

[seeker]

or in other words... if you love something, set it free. if it comes back, it's yours, if it doesn't, hunt it down and kill it

just kidding, honest. if it comes back, it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.