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This one has always been difficult for me, and I really need to understand what is happening in this reading. I mentioned in another thread recently that while waiting (hex 5 kind of waiting
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Since then I have talked to him online, and he seems wonderful, everything I could ever want. He is professional, looking for a soulmate, believes in fate, extremely romantic, wants the same things out of life as me, no problem with my having a child, but does not want any more, not to mention in his pics he is totally gorgeous. I have gotten very positive readings from Yi and Tarot, at least I think so, but we all know I can see things the way I want to see them when I really want something to work out.

Plus there are a couple of questions about his pics, he appears to have blond or light brown hair in them, but profile says hair is black, and in one pic he appears to be wearing a ring that looks suspiciously like a wedding ring, but he told me he was never married. There could of course be completely logical explanations for both. I have not had a chance to talk to him since my mom and friend noticed these things (yes, I was oblivious). Admittedly, I had been thinking he appeared too good to be true, but with the experiences I have had, I think it is just difficult for me to trust that someone this wonderful even exists.

So, I asked Yi please tell me if I am getting carried away and if there is anything about this guy I should be wary of. 37.1.2.5. Seems pretty positive, especially line 5, but I have only had time to look up one interpretation, and as I said I can sometimes be prone to seeing what I want to see. I would of course proceed cautiously in any case, but it would be nice to have some warning if there is something off. I hope not, as he seems to be the guy I have waited my whole life for, and from what he has said, he thinks the same about me.
 
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i'm going to approach this a bit backwards because if i received this reading in such a situation it is the resulting hexagram 18 that would have the most impact upon me, what 18 would say to me is go back and work out the past relationship or at least try to, the first thing i would do if i received this reading is approach the yi again and ask about the past relationship, it may well be that it is reminding you of mistakes you made in the past relationship or warning you of making similar mistakes again but i would definitely ask,
line 1 would be saying to me to impose order upon the development of the relationship,
line 2 is very definitely saying be careful, be conscientious, not just for your own sake but for the sake of others, there are the feelings of at least two people involved here, don't follow whims, don't be impulsive because you have a responsibility to both your own and other people's feelings,
line 2 i think is specifically to you, what you should be wary of in yourself in relation to this man,
line 1 is saying to you to insist upon such conscientious behaviour from him as well,
committment, steadfastness does'nt happen overnight, it takes a length of time,
line 5 is good, it's about trust and love, if there is a warning in it then it's about being open and honest both with yourself and others,
my viewpoint of 37 has changed quite dramatically over the last two, it is still changing so that i don't really have a fix on it at the present moment but it is far more meaningful in terms of the relationship between a man and a woman than i thought it was, i really think you should have a chat with the yi about your past relationship,
the other other thing that just occurred to me, considering your question it may well be, i have never asked such a question, but it could be a warning in relation to some past relationship of your new friend,
18 is definitely to do with something in the past,
i'm sorry if that upsets you, don't let it, deal with it objectively, form a coherant question within yourself and approach the yi and ask,
again apologies if i've upset you, hope i've helped,

paul
 

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Hi Seeker,

In my experience, 37 could mean one of two things. It can mean that this is a good prospective partner or, if you don't know him so well, it could also mean that he is married...

I am a little curious, how did you meet him? Have you seen him in person?
 
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Interesting comments from both of you, maybe it will help if I give a bit more info. As far as my past relationship, the person I recently tried to get back in touch with was a guy named thomas, and many of the people here rode the roller coaster of that relationship with me last year. Much of it is posted here online, but the short version was I had an open marriage with my now ex-husband, and I met Thomas online. I ended up realizing the reason I had agreed to the open marriage my husband wanted was that I was not happy. I was looking for love in all the wrong places so to speak. Unfortunately I found it, but he was never in love with me, and though chances to be with him seemed to present themselves nothing ever materialized. He keeps popping up on the same personal sites as me, but he never responds to any overtures from me, and he has not responded to the latest either.

The references to the past could also just refer to my approach. I tend to jump in with both feet and see where I land, and I have been known to scare guys off by expecting too much too soon.

The current guy is someone I met online at one of the personals sites. I have not met him in person, but there are pics on the site though of course there is never any guarantee it is actually him. The other night we talked online for 3 hours. His story is that he has never been married, his last relationship was 3 years ago, ended badly because she lied to him and played games, he was then "just tired of women" so concentrated on his career, which blossomed into a position where he traveled a lot and was too busy to have relationships. He has now taken a position where he will not have to travel as he has decided he wants to find that special someone, his soulmate and make a life together. This could all be false of course, but he has said he wants to hold off on us meeting until we are both sure we are compatible. That could mean he is married or not who he says he is, or it could mean that, like me, he has very bad experiences and wants to avoid wasting his time. Its alot easier to end and online friendship than an actual dating relationship. I can see in the reading, from the interpretations here a warning of us going too fast. I have finally found someone like me, who is ready to leap without looking, because although he says he wants to hold off on meeting until we get to know each other, he is moving very fast in trying to get to know me. He is well, to use my grandmothers term, wooing me. He is very big on honest and has said numerous time he does not want someone who lies or plays games. One of the first things he asked was was I an honest and trustworthy person. So does that make it any clearer???
 
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lets see if the helps

asked what about this (the interpretations here)
11.1

what do I need to be aware of from the past?

35.4 (the one line of that hex I have the most trouble with)

what should I do not regarding this person?
22 unchanging

I think I am being told that there is potential here, but not to rush in too fast and not to become too clingy or compromise myself. I have has a history of becoming what the other person wanted instead of allowing them to get to know me and like me for me. Eventually, of course, I realize I have become someone I am not and am totally miserable. not sure about that 22. so, any clearer???
 
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seeker

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one more thing, I asked yi to give me an image of x. 46.3.4.6 to 64

I dont see any kind of warning in that, do you???
 
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11.1...the interpretations here are connected to your situation at the grass roots level....pay heed to them

35.4...dont want love so badly that you are willing to cut corners...be patient and discerning; hold back . dont be overeager to make progress

46.3.4.6 You could put it this way...Yi is saying that this all looks easy with this guy, and almost too perfect.....but DO be cautious, you are heading into unknown territory.....you may not know all you need to know... it aint over yet
 

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"46.3.4.6 to 64

I dont see any kind of warning in that, do you???"

46.6 not a warning? "Fools rush in..."

But, Seeker, I think you gotta follow your heart on this one. I mean, if you want to meet the guy, meet him, ya know.

My 2 cents, I'll butt out now... :)

- Jeff
 
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not exactly what I was hoping for, but that does seem to describe the situation. It does seem to be very easy with him, as I said he really does seem to be trying to woo me. Thats just the best word I can come up with because it isn't like he is trying to seduce me, woo is the only way I know how to explain it.

"It aint over yet" - well that would explain the 64 I got later. I got frustrated and cannot even remember what I asked, I think it was something like cant you just tell me if I should pursue this or not or is their any potential in this, with the idea behind it that I had been receiving very positive answers and now I was suddenly getting not so positive ones and what was going on. The first interpretation I found after receiving the 64 was as follows"

"As the twig is bent so the tree grows.

This is a period of formation when all that is done and thought influences the development of things. From stagnation you are moving in this issue toward powerful growth. Recognise the responsibility of shaping events.

There are many directions possible. Choose carefully. In mid- stream do not be too eager to reach the far bank by having firm destinations. Like an old fox, watch every sign in order to choose ones direction. Work with the forces of creation and honour the directions innate in each thing as you create your world.

Light is dawning, but it is twilight and things still cannot be seen clearly. So do not rush forward at shadows. Go slowly and let the dawn come fully.

In relationships let time pass to determine where growth together will lead, and what will blossom from togetherness.

Although success is indicated, the issue is still only in the beginning of progressing. Like crossing a river a great deal of uncertainty lies between now and getting to the far bank. But you are moving across so success is in sight. So go slowly and complete the crossing.

The materials for success are at hand, but they must be put into the correct relationship.

Key words: Formation. The possibility of creating a new world. Take care in this."

Every so often, I get a very solid answer that really clicks. I think it is saying there is a lot of potential here, but it has to be approached in the right way. To use a cooking analogy, this is not a microwave dinner, this is a dish that needs to simmer, adding spices, tasting and adjusting along the way until it all comes together in the perfect mesh of flavors. Done right, it will be a culinary delight, done wrong and it wont be fit to feed the dogs. Might be overstating it a bit, but I think that is the jist. Or did I miss the mark again???
 

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Hi Seeker...

I had just shut down my computer and had my hand on my purse to walk out the door when it hit me... hard. I turned my computer back on to write to you immediately because I think this is important.

I don't believe the Yi is answering you about this man. I think the Yi is telling you what you need to know rather than what you want to know. This kind of answer isn't about a future relationship. It's about an existing relationship that needs repair. I think the Yi is warning you about your relationship with your daughter... if she's not suffering now, she will be in the near future. So might you. And the Yi wants to make you aware of it, so that you will be able to set to work arresting the decay immediately. I've received this answer a few times about my own relationship with my daughter. It was important, and when I heeded the Yi's advice I was able to repair the breakdown and get back on the path of loving each other.

Okay NOW I'm going to shut down my computer and go home. Ciao for now.

Love,

Val
 
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Jeff, please dont butt out, I value your insight. I wasnt reading the line that way, the translation I have says you may not gain as much as you wish, but you need not lose all, and Karcher has climbing in the darkness you cannot see where you are going, do not stop, go through it, this will bring profit and insight.

Sometimes its in the translations you use. I did not take this as a warning he was not a good person, more that there might be things to work through, but looking at karcher, it seemed like staying with it and working it out was the best option.

So, what do you make of this, on a different note I asked Yi how honest I should be with him in regards to my past. He has stated many times that he is looking for someone trustworthy, and although I have done many things I am not proud of, especially while married to my ex, I would feel deceitful not telling him. But my family and friends say he doesn't need to know any of that, even if we get into a serious relationship. Yi answered 8.6. Wilhelm says If the beginning is not right, there is no hope of a right ending. If we have missed the right moment for union and go on hesitating to give complete and full devotion, we shall regret the error when it is too late. He actually asked me the other night why I left my husband, I gave him a brief explanation, but told him there were other, more personal reasons I wanted to wait to tell him about. He wanted to know, but accepted it when I said Id rather wait. Is this saying I should have gone ahead and told him, or is this saying at some point I should tell him, or am I misreading it???
 

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"Jeff, please dont butt out, I value your insight."

No worries, I just wanted to be sure you get input from other folks so you're getting more and different perspectives. (In the past I perhaps went a little overboard in interpreting your readings). That's all!

- Jeff
 

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Well, the only warning I see in is in 46.3 and 46.6 - I think it just means that you or he (or both?) are moving a bit fast into this.

But hey, you're both adults, no? You can always slow down again if you need to... and 46.4 is a nice auspice, too. So, overall, I wouldn't worry overmuch.

That said, I'd look into what Val is talking about, too, in case her intuition is correct...

My 2 cents,

- Jeff
 

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Seeker,

I think you can be a completely honest person without having to disclosed details of your life that you are not comfortable with. Specially with a person that you really don't know that well at this point.

The guy sounds like a great guy but, where is the evidence? I think it should be for you to decide over time whether he really is very honest and very romantic and so forth. Wait for him to "show" and not "tell".
 
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Since I couldnt remember the one from last night, and I figured was probably not the best time to ask since it was late and I was really tired, I asked again ( with sincere apologies for not paying better attention the first time) and got 17.5 I have found several different interpretations, but they all seem to indicate following something with conviction and that there is good fortune from doing that. I'm going to stop asking now and chew on all that Yi has said, lest they get irritated and smack me in the forehead, which I'm actually surprised they have not done already
 

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