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Never-Ending Tale: Hexes 38 and 60

arabella

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I know that Rodaki and Trojan will probably remember every step of this path -- but for the uninitiated -- I thought I drew a line in the sand a couple weeks ago and ended a connection with a man I've known for three years, friend, neighbour, date, compatriot of North America living abroad. It was appearing to me that he has made a more serious commitment elsewhere -- and I could be wrong but women's intuition you know.

We haven't been officially "out" anywhere for a month or more. We were supposed to meet up recently and I couldn't. Since then, it's all too complicated and since the only thing that "requires" us to meet is the fact that he has a few things of mine, I suggested he just drop them by with relatives who live near him and call it a day. I'm TRYING to simplify this for him -- and me.

Last week he called again but I wasn't in the room and found a message on my mobile phone. It sounded, I don't know, frustrated, angry. And the word that got me was that he wanted to "speak" to me -- not chat, not have coffee, not meet up -- "speak to" me. And he asked me to call back, which I did. And left a message saying i've been really busy, but here's my landline number as well, perhaps making it easier to connect. All week long, there's been nothing and I left an email message as well repeating what I said. Here are two numbers to reach me, in the alternative, if it's my belongings you wanted to "speak" about, just leave them with the neighbours. Nothing.

I've asked the Yi: why is this guy so rude? and got -- Hexagram 38.1.5.6 becoming Hexagram 16.

Then I asked the Yi: why won't he give back my belongings and let this go? -- Hexagram 60.6 becoming Hexagram 61

Okay Hexagram 38.1.5.6 -- he seems like a skunk but he's not a skunk? How so? For god's sake just give my stuff back.

Hexagram 60.6 -- He was attacked by burglars and tied up in the closet, he's just worked the knots loose and is about to give my stuff back? :brickwall:

If you can do better - you are cordially invited. Dragona predicted this "isn't over" but I had no idea what that meant until now. I am trying to be gracious about his mysterious relationship with somebody else, let it go with style. Why won't this guy HELP even a little. Is he so dense? :confused:
 
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I would say that your initial question about why is he being so rude seems like first of all, this guy knows that you are both very different, and it seems like his outward reactions were to do with trying to initiate conversation with someone who doesnt speak the same language as you, his anger and frustration might be because he was getting hung up about having to be the one to initiate more communication, trying to resolve something that aint easy to resolve when two people are on complete seperate ends of the spectrum.

Initial 9 : Regrets go away. Lost horse, do not chase it, it returns by itself. Seeing evil people, without fault.
Many situations can be solved by waiting instead of action, often even especially then. Do what you want to do, but refrain from reacting. It is not you, who reacts, it is the situation causing you to. And if you suspect someone of doing harm to you, then wait with action until you have real proof. Then you act according to reality, instead of reacting to emotions.
(Changes to hex.64)

6 at 5: Regrets go away. Their ancestor bites through the skin. Proceed, carry the fault.
Often it is scary to take the first step towards people. Most people don’t even conceive the idea, they see differences as obstacles instead of appreciating them. Once the contact has been made, the reward is usually great. But the greatest profit is having the guts to do it. These guts will shape your entire life differently, because everybody is always waiting for the one who initiates the contact.

Above 9: Looking askance, alone. Seeing a pig with mud on its back, a cart loaded with ghosts. At first he draws his bow, later he relaxes his bow. No bandit, a marital suitor. Proceeding encountering rain: as a rule auspicious.
Make your looks and actions comprehensible for other people. If they have to guess about you or your aims, they might guess wrong and shoot. Never expect them to accept you just like that, give them reason to trust you. Show your intentions. A meeting is always tense until each knows the other, then comes relief.

seeing as all these lines are really an indication that your venusian and he's a marshian :)P) and its near impossible to get your point across to him or his to you, the next hex seems like he is thinking 'big thoughts' that might actually have no basis in reality

Touch the elephant first: is it real? It might be a dream, or someone might try to cheat with a virtual elephant. But if it can really carry the things promised, then it is the means to surpass the borders of an idea or existence that is only-human.


I think he thinks he has this 'elephant' down, (whatever big 'speak to' thing he's thinking of) but really its just an idea that he believes has solid foundations, but in reality it might just be a dream.

I dont know the ins and outs of this, but i reckon that not only is communication extremely difficult, the conclusions he has drawn in his head are not accurate.
 
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:hug:I was so baffled by this, I finally called at an unsociable hour and asked what is going on and how I can expect to retrieve my things. Apology, apology, apology. And we are having coffee in the morning. I expect that this will end on a good note, but I don't know which one. Not everything is being said. Maybe it will be said tomorrow.

I cast for "The outcome of this meeting?"

Yi said: Hexagram 41.2.5 becoming Hexagram 42.

That seems of good will and auspicious, but not extremely specific as I sometimes see in castings. I suppose the key from line 2 of Hexagram 42 is to go without any preconceived notions about what has caused all of this confusion. In keeping with the augery then, I will abandon what I had thought and see what turns up. Frankly, I have some difficulty seeing how this could turn into a Hexagram 42 situation. I feel rather jaded by the experience. But then, there is always the story of the Crazy Bald-Headed Midget.

In short, it goes like this. A small town had a large deserted estate on its outskirts that was suddenly, overnight, occupied by a mysterious person who didn't come to town to introduce himself. So the people began peering over the walls and trying to deduce what was going on at the property. No one could see a thing except this bald head, about three feet off the ground, within the thick thrushes by the lake moving slowly around and around, day after day, without ceasing. And thus began the legend of the Crazy Bald-headed Midget. People were fearful, suspicious and anxious to be rid of him. A town meeting was held and many wanted this person evicted, considering him a danger to their children and who knew what else. They hired a service to film this activity by the lake so that they might seek an eviction notice from the mental health authorities.

A third party was hired for the job of perching outside the high wall next to the lake to make the video. And he was there for several days, tracking this monotonous acitivity; and, having no opinion in the matter, he was thinking maybe the townspeople were crazier than the midget. One morning as he took up his accustomed spot, he saw the bald head suddenly charging toward the lake at an unaccustomed speed, and disappear beneath the water. In an instant, he decided that the reclusive midget had been deliberating all this time --- and decided to drown himself! The shocked cameraman leapt over the wall to rescue the poor man and he hauled out a relatively dignified swimmer about six feet tall who was screaming, "What are you doing you're ruining everything!"

On the shore, the normal-sized person showed the snooping camerman a contraption that supported him in a crouched position hour after hour as he followed a mother duck and her babies quietly through the rushes. He was a scientist, tracking the behaviour of a rare, endangered species of wild duck whose babies were not thriving for some reason and his investigations involved mimicking their behaviour, including the day that they launched onto the lake. He was mirroring their behaviour, trying to understand what was causing their demise.

You never know when you'll meet a crazy bald-headed midget. There is no such hexagram, but maybe I will see him tomorrow. :hug: Arabella
 
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Then I asked the Yi: why won't he give back my belongings and let this go? -- Hexagram 60.6 becoming Hexagram 61

61 delays executions.

is your belonging and how you are going to get them back THE issue here? (You don't have to answer to me )
 

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61 delays executions.

is your belonging and how you are going to get them back THE issue here? (You don't have to answer to me )

Well I know you don't insist on an answer Anemos, but your question is to the point and well worth answering. What is the REAL issue? And maybe the Yi, in its wisdom, knows I'm asking the wrong question too and is answering one of the questions I should have asked:

Is he going to explain what has happened in a way I can cope with?

Have I misjudged his behaviour?

Those are two that spring to mind. I suppose it can't be TOO dire a situation if the result is 41.2.5 becoming 42.
 

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