New Day, New Guy?

[samoyedgrrl]

Well, as many of you have read on Clarity, I've had this on again/off again relationship with Terry that seems to be going nowhere for many months. So, as any gal with pride would do, I've picked myself up, dusted off and I am moving on. It seems as though nothing is going to happen with Terry, unfortunately. I love the fella, but the time just isn't right for us, I'm convinced.

So, I put myself up on a dating website and met up with a guy named Rodney. We immediately hit it off and have been talking daily for nearly a week now. So far, so good. I think we shall meet in the very near future (which I'm both excited and scared of at the same time). It seems as though we have a lot in common and he has this charming quick wit.

I asked the IC today, "What are the romantic possibilities with Rodney?" and got 31.2.4 > 37. I take that to mean that there is an attraction there and it has kind of knocked us for a loop. I think that also means the possibility exists for a deep connection, but right now we're not sure where to start as it is an overwhelming feeling.

I asked if I would be attracted to him when we meet and got a 30.2.4 > 26. I think it's saying yes, but that the attraction will be more than a passing fancy. This could be interesting. I appreciate your insights on these castings, as I know there's more here than I have read into them so far...

 

[willowfox]

I asked if I would be attracted to him when we meet and got a 30.2.4 > 26.

This suggests yes, like being attracted to a big cream cake which is not going to be good for you, so you will feel quite excited in the beginning but sooner or later you will realize that he's not the man for you.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Well, ding dang it, Willowfox. Oh well, I'll enjoy the sweetness until I get a toothache, I guess. LOL! Who was it that said love is easy? Oh, that's right - no one!

Thanks for your interpretation of the casting, I appreciate it.

 

[gato]

yes, it will be love at first sight, but a short one.

 

[iesha]

Oh samoyedmom, it happened with me once. I tried this internet meeting once.

The same happened to me. We talked for a week and so, and everything sounded perfectly matched. I met him, felt really a thing, and it developed very quickly to passion and we became girfriend/boyfriend. And then, the perfectly matched view of us suddenly start to break down little by little. And the relationship ended as if it has never even happened. It's not good. Now thinking about it, looking back, I realise what was my mistake. I have let me be taken by anxiety and impatience. we met too quickly, just after one week and a half talking by e-mails. Now I know it wasn't enough time to know each othe since I was looking for something more stable rather than a fling.

My sincere advice to you would be, wait a little bit more before meeting him. Just to be sure if it is really a perfect match or just a game of white lies.

I wish you good luck!

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Wow, Gato. At least it will be a bright and sunny flash in the pan while it lasts. LOL!

Thanks for the words of wisdom, iesha. I think I will definitely follow those sage words of advice. I'm ready to meet Rodney now, but I need to make sure I cool my jets first. I'm with you (as I think he is as well) that it's more important to be something of substance that lasts than for it to be of the "fling" variety. Rodney jokes that I'm on probation and will be throughout the first 90 days, as that's when everyone's on their best behavior. We're trying to impress one another and be the best version of ourselves as we can be.

I hope this has the potential to be more than just a passing fancy, as I've certainly had my fair share of heartache this past year and he seems like such a nice guy that I could possibly be happy with. All I want is to just have someone to spend time with and care about. Somehow that seems to be a difficult proposition as of late...hrmph. Thanks for chiming in with your interpretations and advice, gato and iesha!

 

[iesha]

You're welcome! :bows: I'm glad I can help in some way.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

I thought I'd ask if Rodney and I could have a long-term romantic relationship and got a 31.1.2.4 > 5. It seems to reiterate iesha's commentary that I should wait, learn more about him and once I feel confident in the knowledge I have, then my doubts should disappear and that's when we should meet. I think it could also be saying the potential is there for a long term relationship, but we should not rush things.

 

[gato]

Thanks for the words of wisdom, iesha. I think I will definitely follow those sage words of advice. I'm ready to meet Rodney now, but I need to make sure I cool my jets first

why do you worry, nothing lasts forever... take a sip if you're thirsty or die of thirst awaiting for the everlasting river.

 

[pocossin]

Will I be attracted to Rodney when we meet?
30.2.4 > 26

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In my understand, the casting is auspicious. Hexagram 30 (clinging as loyalty) corresponds to the Dog in the ancient Chinese zodiac, and you are a dog person. You are athletic and a runner, and hexagram 26 is a loaded harvest basket, a heavy object. Does Rodney jog or lift weights? You'd harmonize with someone as fit as you are, someone like a samoyed.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Okay, pocossin! That just absolutely blew my mind! He is very fit and his previous profession was that of a personal trainer. We do talk about fitness and he does lift weights on a regular basis, as well as taking spin classes. Very interesting perspective!

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Update: Rodney and I had our date and the chemistry was definitely there. It was a neat feeling, one of a great friendship and that of an established relationship. Unlike Terry, where it was nothing but the overwhelming sexual attraction (and oh, yeah, the guy does have brains, but I never noticed), the connection with Rodney seemed to go much deeper than that. Yes, he did make my heart beat a little faster with the goodbye kisses, that's for sure.

Unfortunately, the day after our date, Rodney was involved in a car accident and the following day he was laid off of his job. We remained in contact, but his stress level seemed to be increasing. Tonight, we spoke and he wanted to remain friends, but needed time and space to deal with the accident and the job loss. Oh yeah, the "you're a great gal, but right now is not a good time for me" kind of thing. Oh joy. I appreciate his candor and thoughtfulness to at least tell me what's going on. It doesn't make the rejection any easier, though.

I asked the IC "Will Rodney return to me romantically?" and got a 14.2>30. I dunno. I would like to believe Yi is telling me to let him deal with his stuff and we can possibly rekindle things, but I think I'm interjecting my feelings of being rejected here and can't see the positive in it all.

I appreciate any insight you guys can give. Thanks for being there for me.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Just sitting here contemplating what's ahead in my life, I asked "What should I do in regards to my love life?" and got a 12.5>35. Could it be that the IC is giving me a "it'll be okay, hang in there" kind of response?

 

[willowfox]

Well Rod went out the picture quicker then I thought he would.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

You're not the only one surprised at the speed of his departure.

 

[pocossin]

Unfortunately, the day after our date, Rodney was involved in a car accident and the following day he was laid off of his job.

I'm not overly surprised. Isn't personal trainer typically a transient occupation? I still think you need a more dynamic partner than the first guy. But I'm learning too. Being a rural person, when you mentioned "spin classes" I was thinking dervish -- but no, it's stationary bicycling

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Well, his personal trainer gig was that of his personal trainer business and was also a fitness director at a major hospital. For him, it wasn't a job for just a short time frame. He did that for many years. Since 2003, though, he's been in the financial services industry. So, he has had some steady employment which is always good. Unfortunately, last Friday that all changed. The entire department was laid off.

I am so disheartened with the turn of events. I give up.

 

[pocossin]

I am so disheartened with the turn of events. I give up.

Well, before you do let's look at 12.5>35.

What should I do in regards to my love life?
12.5>35

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Hexagram pictures: Inverted Clump of Grass, Baby

Overall judgment: Although the cohesion you seek has been disappointed, a new beginning can be made.

12J
Standstill. Evil people do not further
The perseverance of the superior man.
The great departs; the small approaches.

Lowered expectations for a time. The great doesn't depart forever.


12I
Heaven and earth do not unite:
The image of Standstill.
Thus the superior man falls back upon his inner worth
In order to escape the difficulties.
He does not permit himself to be honored with revenue.

A reference to unemployment, whether in love life or work.

12.5
Nine in the fifth place means:
Standstill is giving way.
Good fortune for the great man.
"What if it should fail, what if it should fail?"
In this way he ties it to a cluster of mulberry shoots.

The standstill isn't going to last forever. The person seeks a secure relationship.

35J
Progress. The powerful prince
Is honored with horses in large numbers.
In a single day he is granted audience three times.

You are too young and vigorous to be down for long.

Life is a mixture of good fortune and bad, but the bad is an opportunity to strengthen ties. Rodney's trials are those in which he should not be alone. Probably he feels humiliated by the turn of events. Accidents -- even if you aren't at fault -- are embarrassing. In a way circumstances have dumped him, but he can rebuild. You could sent a note expressing your sorrow at the turn of events and saying I'm here if you'd like to talk. If he doesn't respond, then you'd know for sure to look elsewhere. So Yes, "it'll be okay, hang in there" kind of response.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Pocossin, that was very nice of you to interpret that latest casting for me. I really appreciate it and it did bring me some comfort knowing I'm kinda getting what Yi is trying to tell me. I did not glean that amount of detail from the cast, however. Wow. I'm constantly amazed at how much information is there if only you look (or in my case, know WHERE to look for the info). Thank you.

I did leave Rodney a voicemail message this afternoon. It was an idea I had in regards to a personal trainer position. I had spoken with the owner/franchisee of my local gym and let him know Rodney's credentials. He was very interested in speaking with him, although what position he'd offer would not be a management or program director type one. It would be a basic personal trainer job. However, the owner said that Rodney could call and speak with him about it and that he'd be glad to discuss the opportunities they had to offer him.

I know it would be impossible to not detect the sadness in my voice during the message, but I said that although it might not be worth mentioning, at least he could consider it. Curious as to what his reaction would be to the message, I asked the IC "What will Rodney think about the message I left?" and got a 2.1.4.5>17. I took that to mean he was receptive at least to it, but I don't get the following side of the equation. I think I saw somewhere that 17 could mean a physical move. Rodney lives about 1.5 hours from me. Could that be meaningful in the interpretation of this casting? Any ideas?

Thanks again for your response. You have no idea how much it means to me right now.

 

[iesha]

Oh, Samoyedom, sorry to hear about that .

"What will Rodney think about the message I left?" and got a 2.1.4.5>17

I'm not sure. I'm using more intuition than experience here, but I think Rodney is going to see the message, but he will not follow. He prefers to deal with things by himself. He has got a yellow underwear(? I'm using other language translation). I think it means he has got his own power to deal with things. And that he does not know you enough to accept your help.

But I might be in the total wrong track.

xxx

Iesha

 

[iesha]

It is better to wait for other people's reading.

 

[Trojina]

Oh, Samoyedom, sorry to hear about that .

"What will Rodney think about the message I left?" and got a 2.1.4.5>17

I'm not sure. I'm using more intuition than experience here, but I think Rodney is going to see the message, but he will not follow. He prefers to deal with things by himself. He has got a yellow underwear(? I'm using other language translation). I think it means he has got his own power to deal with things. And that he does not know you enough to accept your help.

But I might be in the total wrong track.

xxx

Iesha

uh oh

 

[iesha]

Why uh oh? Does it mean I am really wrong?

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Thanks for the intuitive response, iesha. I don't know him well enough to have knowledge in regards to his underwear, but I am familiar with the line that mentions the yellow garment. I guess I'll just have to wait and see what transpires here. I appreciate you taking the time to respond on this thread. Thanks so much.

 

[iesha]

Samoyedmom,

Sorry, I was wrong in my reading. As Trojan said. Sorry.

 

[samoyedgrrl]

How do you see things, trojan? I'd be interested in your take on the casting. Thanks in advance for your response.

 

[gato]

I asked the IC "Will Rodney return to me romantically?" and got a 14.2>30. I dunno. I would like to believe Yi is telling me to let him deal with his stuff and we can possibly rekindle things, but I think I'm interjecting my feelings of being rejected here and can't see the positive in it all.

I appreciate any insight you guys can give. Thanks for being there for me.

14.3 don't give up , is not over yet (12.5 says the same thing)

 

[samoyedgrrl]

Thanks, gato. I certainly hope so. It's just very hard, taking so many disappointments in my personal life in a short period of time. It makes this rejection a lot more difficult than it should be. I appreciate your interpreting of the castings. Thank you.

 

[willowfox]

Just sitting here contemplating what's ahead in my life, I asked "What should I do in regards to my love life?" and got a 12.5>35. Could it be that the IC is giving me a "it'll be okay, hang in there" kind of response?

Line 12.5 don't give up as a new dawn is coming, its only your own fears of the future that are currently bringing you down, so you need to remain positive as you will indeed be asked out by someone else sooner or later. Your time is far from over.

 

[willowfox]

He has got a yellow underwear

Probably best to avoid a man who wears yellow (frilly) underwear don't you think?