New potential relationship (sorry)

[Dive00]

Hell everyone! Sorry to boar you all with a relationship question as it is so common these days on this iching board. But would like to share this with you

Would also like your insights to this, as I have met somebody new. And since it has been sooo long for me that anybody new has come in to my life. I would like to know as much as possible where this new relationship could goto.

Background stories (long story short):
Mine: Had a love of my life a long long time ago, still haunted by it, so fully aware as to what to expect when it comes to a new relationship. The opportunity has (finally) been presented to me to move on, and start fresh with somebody as beautiful as her. I am excited about it!

Hers: First time we met a while back, instant connection. Had a boyfriend at that time, broke up with him beginning of last week. Between the time we met until now, we have approached each other from time to time online, and bumped into each other once in the street (nice coincidence!), and met up yesterday. Attraction and interest was certainly present! The times she approached me online, I could not help but have a gut feeling she was probing my gently and something 'was up', had a gut feeling she broke up him. Inevitably, like any relationship (which i understand well from my break up long ago), it takes time to heal and move on, so I know in what position she now is. But as of right now, I don't want to come over as someone she might want to avoid if I accidentally add pressure due to my own enthusiasm.

What hope do I have of her becoming my girlfriend?

33.2 44

33.2 TIe up a yellox ox? "Once retreat is set as your course of action, don't look back." ? I find the Hexes are negative, such as 33 retreat? Or does this mean I shouldn't give up? And head straight on with out looking back and "get her" (44?) Or do these Hexes mean: "drop the idea, tie up the yellow ox and give up"?

So in retrospect, I changed the question, and asked for a second time as 33.2 was unclear to me.

How will she become my girlfriend (in the future)
55.4.5 63

I get the impression from these lines that there is a temporary "hold up" with line 4? 5 speaks for itself with "Completion" in the end? As in, she could become my girlfriend?

Asked for extra hexes for clarification, our positions;

In which direction is our "relationship" heading?:
61.1.4.5 64

61.1 Cultivating Stability
61.4 Receiving Light
61.5 Unifying Through Love of Truth

64 Before completion.

Can't help but think/see that this is very positive for us!

Her position:
11.5.6 9

11.5 I have the impression she is kinda lingering behind from her recent break up.
11.6 She might be feeling emotional about it
9 uncertainty

My position:
41.4.6 54

41.4 Calm down
44.6 To give is to receive, could this mean... be natural, magnetism, attraction?
54 Longing, incomplete "marriage"?


Thank you

 

[moss elk]

What hope do I have of her becoming my girlfriend?
33.2 44

It is telling you strongly to retreat from this idea/person.
Now look at the rest of the readings knowing what the first one means.

And don't be sorry for being human!

 

[Dive00]

Actually, in relation to the other hexes, I don't understand at all now.

Follow up:

What should i do about X then?

28.1.2 49

28.1 Strengthening the Foundation
28.2 Fertile Ground

49 Transformation.

The results seem very contradictory, again, I have the impression that I should continue and persevere? uch: or 49 transformation to nothing?

And 1 hour after the first post, I asked about the relationship potential and got 58, Joy... uch: uch:

 

[moss elk]

58= friends.
You can be friends.

 

[Dive00]

Thanks Mos_Elk!

Although, as things have progressed today with her, I still have no idea what she wants from me. Nice to have as a friend and all. But to me, I can't help but think she wants more from me.

What does she want from me???
34.4.5 5

Opened gates, and letting go of the goat. Then patience.

Honestly, it makes no sense to me what so ever. Her way of approaching me, and reading these hexes have made me very confused uch: uch: uch:

 

[mulberry]

No need to apologize, but I think you might be finding these readings are making you "confused" because you are asking too many. Slow down! I often ask a lot of questions myself, but I tend to make it into a conversation with the oracle, basing each question off the last... rather than a strict set of questions, which you seem to be making, that arise separately from the previous reading. It DOES become a bit muddled very quickly when you do that! For example, I don't understand how you got "how will she become my girlfriend" as an appropriate follow-up question from your first reading-- "what hope do I have of her becoming my girlfriend" 33.2 -> 44. (I'm not sure how familiar you are w/ the I Ching, but 44 is a very complex hex to show up in a reading about a female person-- usually it means there's some trouble or learning curves ahead, and it does not usually show an easy path towards balance and harmony).

33.2 seems to me to be Yi talking to you about yourself. The "superior" and "inferior" men (to use Wilhelm's terms) are really just parts of yourself; Yi is telling you, hold on to your dignity and the superior qualities that are your own. Don't give in to desperate, clingy measures. But there's no promise whatsoever in there about her becoming your girlfriend, and hence no grounds to extrapolate from that "How will she become my girlfriend". Does not compute.

Yi giving you 61 and changing lines to your later question seems like yet another urging to focus on maintaining your own virtue and good qualities. Also, are you reading past the brief two or three word phrases you're posting for the lines? Because they aren't making sense, really. I'm not sure how you get "cultivating stability" from 61.1... 61.1 is all about not cultivating secret relationships and secret designs. Being honest and forthright, rather than secretive and manipulative. 61.4 is a strong reminder not to look to someone else for satisfaction, energy, and strength in your life. "Only be pursuing one's course like a horse that goes straight ahead without looking sidewise at its mate, can one retain the inner freedom that helps one onward." This can be a warning about the need to get rid of codependent relationships (and your questions make me think you might be a bit codependent towards this woman). 61.5 is saying you have to be a source of strength for yourself. If you look to someone else to supply this strength, nothing will go right: "Without this central force, all external unity is only deception and breaks down at the decisive moment."

So, no, I don't find 61.1.4.5 to 64 to be automatically auspicious. It's a lot of warnings about, well, inner truth-- being true to yourself. Without that inner strength and stability, she will not be attracted to you. And 64 can go either way-- don't forget, the fox might get his tail immersed in the water (ie, fail). I've had 64 situations not work out for the best (though it's never totally terrible, either).

Unfortunately I don't have time to go through all the other questions you posted, but I strongly agree with Moss Elk-- this looks like a relationship that is best stepped away from, or one in which you just remain friends. You can meet someone else who is more compatible, or in a better place to be a partner!

Best of luck.

 

[Dive00]

Unfortunately I don't have time to go through all the other questions you posted, but I strongly agree with Moss Elk-- this looks like a relationship that is best stepped away from, or one in which you just remain friends. You can meet someone else who is more compatible, or in a better place to be a partner!

Best of luck.

Things have improved, within doubts, and the speed of how things are developing between us. Myself going back and forth with the experiences i've had in the past. There is undoubtedly a very strong connection between us, so strong that it has made us realize that there is something familiar between us, like as if we met before. I asked a simple question:

Show me in image of X

56.2 50

56. for about 3 years i have been feeling like a traveller.
.2 ""Your Needs are Met Easily"- There will be sufficient funds, food, shelter and friendships to help you on your journey. Relax. This is a time when you are touched by grace."

Would .2 mean as something temporary on my "yourney"? Or as the line would imply, as a place to call 'home"?

50. Cauldron, I would image this is a positive sign as nice things are warming up?

PS. well aware Mercury is in retrograde. Weird stuff in communication always happens as I have noticed before. Perfect timing for me! lol