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Mis_stood1
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Hello,
I decided to join today. Here goes!!! I have been using the Iching for about a year....and I have been "trolling" around this site for about the same time getting insights into readings for various situations I have been in. I have gained alot of insight about myself and certain patterns, especially relationship wise. I have noticed I have gotten quite a bit of the same readings for different guys, so it's safe to say I have realized a lot of the messages were for ME....which is comforting when I get hexagram 29, 44, 28, etc.
Anyway, down to business. I have known a certain guy for a little over 2 years. We met in a poly-amorous type environment. Things were physical between us one time, but then we just mainly kept in touch on a platonic basis. His girlfriend at the time felt threatened by the friendship, so he ended the friendship, and started back up once they broke up; however, I had begun a fling with someone at the time. Things were platonic. There was definitely chemistry and about last year, things hit the fan when his cousin posted a pic of us on Instagram. I was the only one that he invited that came out to his mother's birthday party. My son was staying with his sons (as he is a single father) while we were out, and I stayed the night...and nothing happened....but the ex (who was pregnant at the time) and his ex-wife had a field day with all the propaganda, which made me shy away...plus, I was still hoping things would turn around with the fling I had. Then, things began to be really stressful in my life, total upheaval...I left social media altogether and isolated myself up until about 2 weeks ago. I spent the past 6-8 months getting healthy...I lost almost 40 lbs....and in between all of that....I still thought about this particular person because I thought of his as....well....family. He was a good person to actually TALK to and converse with outside of the bad choices he has made with the women in his life lol and I actually knew that he had started seeing another...."associate" of mine....but he had always maintained that he had a real interest in me...and in her....I shied away because I was obsessed with another.
So anyways, I sent both of them a message on social media, reaching out....trying to pick up the pieces of what was lost (hexagram 28...I had to get to ground zero) and I was fond of the both of them...and I didn't want to be disrespectful in any kind of way because I did not know what kind of relationship they had. About a day later, I and my son came over, and then she came over after work...we all chatted, and caught up with one another for a few hours...she and I left at the same time. I am still thinking in the frame of mind that I was being friendly...and open minded too because I had history with the both of them. So he calls me the next day, and still expresses interest in having a partnership with me...not unlike the one he has with her....he broke it down that as a patriarch, he needed someone like her, who did certain things for him such as providing lots of affection, etc. and I was his "light-bearer"....which really does apply to me and intuitively, I didn't get any red flags....I just wanted to make sure everyone involved was comfortable and a picture of what it would look like. I am an unconventional person....these kinds of arrangements suits me as a free spirit and a loner of sorts....I can come down off my mountain ever so often and have the freedom of coming back home when I need to...to replenish I guess. So he and I hung out...he said she was aware...and when we came back home...she was there...to make a long story short...she felt threatened....and felt the need to take stabs at me based on things in my past that she continues to do to this day....and after a few days of really trying to ease her mind...she just could not get past the affection he showed towards me...and said she felt like she put in WORK....for me to come in and just get that type of affection from him...and he is so mean to her...and I just told her that is between them....I understand why she feels the way she feels; however, if she wants to be in a lifestyle like this...she needs to learn to detach from her ego a little more....lessons which I have learned from the Yi over the years. The "fairy tale", "happily ever after" does not suit my needs....and like I said, there are more things I value in him other than sex....so if we become strictly platonic again, I still would come around and bring my son around his sons, etc. and still communicate...no hard feelings because I do not feel lied to or objectified by him.
I asked the Yi today what else do I need to know about his intentions towards me...and got hexagram 52.2.4<50...which tells me to basically chill out, be still because something is cooking....what I do not know...but I have been getting 50s in this situation.
I then asked on this site: Show a picture of what is going on between me and him and got hexagram 53...again....what I have gotten with other situations and I guess I wasn't patient enough to see that gradual progress come to fruition....or it could mean that I am progressively going to see the situation won't work....? I am not sure...so I asked what is the situation gradually progressing towards....and I received hexagram 14.1.2.3.4<23. I am not sure. I never got this one together. I know line one means freeing myself from negative, harmful people...but that could mean the fact that I distanced myself from the girl (with whom I could feel her severe anxiety over the situation...which was detrimental to me...as well as the other women...or it could be him....not sure...harmful thoughts....all of the above...and based on the other lines...working as a team...and not dominating the situation (which I have a habit of doing as a "light bearer"...I just shine
) and hexagram 23 means for me a lot of the time....not an end of something....but just peeling back layers and laying things bare....if it results in a "split up" of me and a person whether permanent or temporary....then it is what it is...but if I want to use my intuition....this is another relationship that is going to strip away some layers and really cause for me to get to know myself a lot more....any thoughts?
I decided to join today. Here goes!!! I have been using the Iching for about a year....and I have been "trolling" around this site for about the same time getting insights into readings for various situations I have been in. I have gained alot of insight about myself and certain patterns, especially relationship wise. I have noticed I have gotten quite a bit of the same readings for different guys, so it's safe to say I have realized a lot of the messages were for ME....which is comforting when I get hexagram 29, 44, 28, etc.
Anyway, down to business. I have known a certain guy for a little over 2 years. We met in a poly-amorous type environment. Things were physical between us one time, but then we just mainly kept in touch on a platonic basis. His girlfriend at the time felt threatened by the friendship, so he ended the friendship, and started back up once they broke up; however, I had begun a fling with someone at the time. Things were platonic. There was definitely chemistry and about last year, things hit the fan when his cousin posted a pic of us on Instagram. I was the only one that he invited that came out to his mother's birthday party. My son was staying with his sons (as he is a single father) while we were out, and I stayed the night...and nothing happened....but the ex (who was pregnant at the time) and his ex-wife had a field day with all the propaganda, which made me shy away...plus, I was still hoping things would turn around with the fling I had. Then, things began to be really stressful in my life, total upheaval...I left social media altogether and isolated myself up until about 2 weeks ago. I spent the past 6-8 months getting healthy...I lost almost 40 lbs....and in between all of that....I still thought about this particular person because I thought of his as....well....family. He was a good person to actually TALK to and converse with outside of the bad choices he has made with the women in his life lol and I actually knew that he had started seeing another...."associate" of mine....but he had always maintained that he had a real interest in me...and in her....I shied away because I was obsessed with another.
So anyways, I sent both of them a message on social media, reaching out....trying to pick up the pieces of what was lost (hexagram 28...I had to get to ground zero) and I was fond of the both of them...and I didn't want to be disrespectful in any kind of way because I did not know what kind of relationship they had. About a day later, I and my son came over, and then she came over after work...we all chatted, and caught up with one another for a few hours...she and I left at the same time. I am still thinking in the frame of mind that I was being friendly...and open minded too because I had history with the both of them. So he calls me the next day, and still expresses interest in having a partnership with me...not unlike the one he has with her....he broke it down that as a patriarch, he needed someone like her, who did certain things for him such as providing lots of affection, etc. and I was his "light-bearer"....which really does apply to me and intuitively, I didn't get any red flags....I just wanted to make sure everyone involved was comfortable and a picture of what it would look like. I am an unconventional person....these kinds of arrangements suits me as a free spirit and a loner of sorts....I can come down off my mountain ever so often and have the freedom of coming back home when I need to...to replenish I guess. So he and I hung out...he said she was aware...and when we came back home...she was there...to make a long story short...she felt threatened....and felt the need to take stabs at me based on things in my past that she continues to do to this day....and after a few days of really trying to ease her mind...she just could not get past the affection he showed towards me...and said she felt like she put in WORK....for me to come in and just get that type of affection from him...and he is so mean to her...and I just told her that is between them....I understand why she feels the way she feels; however, if she wants to be in a lifestyle like this...she needs to learn to detach from her ego a little more....lessons which I have learned from the Yi over the years. The "fairy tale", "happily ever after" does not suit my needs....and like I said, there are more things I value in him other than sex....so if we become strictly platonic again, I still would come around and bring my son around his sons, etc. and still communicate...no hard feelings because I do not feel lied to or objectified by him.
I asked the Yi today what else do I need to know about his intentions towards me...and got hexagram 52.2.4<50...which tells me to basically chill out, be still because something is cooking....what I do not know...but I have been getting 50s in this situation.
I then asked on this site: Show a picture of what is going on between me and him and got hexagram 53...again....what I have gotten with other situations and I guess I wasn't patient enough to see that gradual progress come to fruition....or it could mean that I am progressively going to see the situation won't work....? I am not sure...so I asked what is the situation gradually progressing towards....and I received hexagram 14.1.2.3.4<23. I am not sure. I never got this one together. I know line one means freeing myself from negative, harmful people...but that could mean the fact that I distanced myself from the girl (with whom I could feel her severe anxiety over the situation...which was detrimental to me...as well as the other women...or it could be him....not sure...harmful thoughts....all of the above...and based on the other lines...working as a team...and not dominating the situation (which I have a habit of doing as a "light bearer"...I just shine
) and hexagram 23 means for me a lot of the time....not an end of something....but just peeling back layers and laying things bare....if it results in a "split up" of me and a person whether permanent or temporary....then it is what it is...but if I want to use my intuition....this is another relationship that is going to strip away some layers and really cause for me to get to know myself a lot more....any thoughts?