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DragerP

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Hello, I was in this relationship that started fast and ended faster or so I think it did. I met this wonderful woman while on a solo travel to a nice island, she owned the hostel I stayed in and we had this daily hyperextended talks lasting til the wee hours of the morning, we could have gone on for more but agreed to continue the follwing day. She is a single mom with 2 kids and knowing that I would have run for the hills,Ive never had kids but always wanted to, but I didnt. I went back to the city and she came to visit me for a week so it started there. We made plans, she started considering moving to the city with the kids and I was cool with that even checking out schools and other stuff kids related. Our communication was constant, until issues that she never mentioned started to pop up, I am not sure she's ready to talk about those things yet but I got really frustrated and things went sour after that. She said she feels lost, scared and really unable to breathe at the moment but I didnt buy that, thought of just alibis for some other reasons she wants to keep me from knowing, I wanted to help but she wants to deal with it on her own, now I told her to just forget about everything out of frustration but she asked that we need to keep in touch, but I said no, but then again realized that it was very immature on my part so I asked forgiveness, she hasn't responded and am not expecting her to, so I consulted Yi and with should I hold on or just let go? Got 56.3.5 > 12, Your help will be much appreciated on what action or non-action I need to do with thus reading.THANKSGerardP
 

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56. Is about moving on but 12. Is about stagnation so I see this as saying it’s time to move on but you are having a hard time with that.
 

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56. Is about moving on but 12. Is about stagnation so I see this as saying it’s time to move on but you are having a hard time with that.
 

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56. Is about moving on but 12. Is about stagnation so I see this as saying it’s time to move on but you are having a hard time with that.
Thank you Rosada, this helps with my next plan of action.
 

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DragerP

I will try and see if this makes sense:

Line 3 is showing me that you made a mistake by telling her no and that if you want this friendship relationship to grow, you may need to show her more than just an apology. You're going through a period of testing and confusion and maybe it's time to ask yourself if this person is worth your sincerity. If she is then you must find other ways to let her know that you're sorry and pursue the relationship so that there's no regrets in the future.

Line 5 showing me that it may take some time for you to understand the whole situation and what it may demand from you. perhaps it's the easy way out by giving up on things however if you want to pursue it further you may have to be more creative and push harder in ways that you haven't tried before. You may feel strange, awkward and sad but if you're wholeheartedly sincere in your efforts, this person may give you another look/opportunity.

Stagnation I think may be a reflection on yourself, that you may be frustrated and giving up on the opportunity just because she didn't answer your emails or calls. It's time to reflect and understand the current situation and why it became so. Go under and inside and ask yourself what you reacted the way you did, and put yourself in her shoes and perhaps you will come to realization on what you could do to sincerely receive a positive outcome. I guess when someone express how they feel and was shut down for it, it will be difficult for them to open up again. Is this the person you want to grow with? If so, you may need to focus on the how instead of the letting go or not? How do you get her to respond, how do you tell her that you're deeply sorry for your reaction? How do you get her to trust you again? How do you build on trusting another? Reflect on your actions and reflect on what you want and why you want it. I see this as a time for you to grow and by growing you can grow with another.
 

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"this as a time for you to grow and by growing you can grow with another."Appreciate it, made a lot sense to be honest!Thanks - Chaptershare
 
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Dear Drager, I would say from your cast that it is clear , you should just let her go.
The situation between you and her was just temporary... just a short journey. Let it go...
Hexagram 12 for me is always separation.
 

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Hexagram 12 for me is always separation.
Maybe you made that experience, but it is of course not an universal truth.
Hex 12 means stagnation; that can be or lead to a separation -- but first of all Hex 12 is indicating a standstill of a situation, it's not said if forever or temporary.
 

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According to Wilhelm hexagram 12. means stagnation because the top trigram Heaven rises up and the bottom trigram Earth sinks. They are indeed separating which is why we have a standstill, it's because what is above has no connection to what is below.

The standstill will be forever unless an effort is made to end it.
 

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