Clarity,
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Hi,
I sent an email recently to someone I've been working with on a project to see if they wanted to catch up over the weekend for an afternoon drink. I didn't receive a reply, which I thought was a little strange.
I asked the I Ching: Why didn't x respond to the email?
I got 22.6 > 36
To me I thought line 6 meant that he didn't reply because he didn't want to (well, der), but that the lack of reply was literally the stripped back, as unadorned a communication as possible. Naught.
36 is of course myself, a little wounded.
Hi,
I sent an email recently to someone I've been working with on a project to see if they wanted to catch up over the weekend for an afternoon drink. I didn't receive a reply, which I thought was a little strange.
I asked the I Ching: Why didn't x respond to the email?
I got 22.6 > 36
To me I thought line 6 meant that he didn't reply because he didn't want to (well, der), but that the lack of reply was literally the stripped back, as unadorned a communication as possible. Naught.
36 is of course myself, a little wounded.
Hi,
I sent an email recently to someone I've been working with on a project to see if they wanted to catch up over the weekend for an afternoon drink. I didn't receive a reply, which I thought was a little strange.
I asked the I Ching: Why didn't x respond to the email?
I got 22.6 > 36
To me I thought line 6 meant that he didn't reply because he didn't want to (well, der), but that the lack of reply was literally the stripped back, as unadorned a communication as possible. Naught.
36 is of course myself, a little wounded.
I was wondering, did you mean this coming weekend, to catch up? If so, it is only Tuesday, and he may yet reply. If not, and he really did just let your invitation drop, it could be a number of things.
Sometimes I come home to 60 emails and feel too tired to open them or reply to them.
In any case, I think 22.6 is saying to you, that you wrote the invitation in simple, unadorned innocence, hence there is no blame. You are feeling wounded, but I think you ought to do as Trojan says: Ask the I Ching if you really OUGHT to be feeling so?
ETA: I have sometimes emailed a certain author I have worked with in the past, asking even direct questions, and the answer is : Silence. I believe he hates me, only to hear from him some time later, and he is warm and full of praises. I realize your situation is different as you are working with this person, but sometimes silence doesn't really speak volumes.
maybe you did not understand my meaning-- I actually meant it in a rhetorical way, such as, "But ought one to be feeling badly, or is it just your own reaction?" Did not really mean it as, well, maybe the I Ching will tell you, "yeah, you ought to feel really badly." I was really just trying to show that feeling wounded might be totally unnecessary.I never said anything about 'ought' and I can't think of a worse question (for me) than 'ought' I to be feeling something since that ties the answer down ...leaves the answer less open to express itself.
I suggested a very open question such as "how shall I take this" or "how shall I understand this ?" For me that often brings me clarification about where I am with regard tothe others intent etc etc which is afterall what i need to know
I'd say most often silence does indeed speak volumes about levels of interest or 'terms and conditions' of the relationship. By the sound of it your author friend contacts you when he feels like it and finds it convenient to ignore your direct questions. Thats not really a very equal relationship as its on his terms...but if you don't mind his terms its okay. In a romantic relationship it generally isn't okay though ....so yes silence does speak volumes....sometimes
ETA I actually don't think the 36 here has anything to do with feeling wounded...so I wouldn't suggest a question that she should ask if she ought to feel wounded. There is one line moving...it carries alot of emphasis and so generally holds much of the answer IMO.
In any case, I think 22.6 is saying to you, that you wrote the invitation in simple, unadorned innocence, hence there is no blame. You are feeling wounded, but I think you ought to do as Trojan says: Ask the I Ching if you really OUGHT to be feeling so?
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Also, 36 in many translations is all about "brilliance wounded" and has everything to do with being wounded. In any case, I was speaking to the one (deepstillwater)who asked the question and did the reading: and to her , only.
Yes, I think as she whom my response was aimed at found it apt, it is best to not bring each other in, and I was really just piggy-backing off what you said about re-questioning, not using you as a guide to my own response.I responded becasue you bought me into your post misrepresenting what I said IMO...Its easier just to say what you want to say without bringing me into it if you don't want me to pick up on it...
I am quite well aware of what 36 is about But I'm not going by rote learning I'm using my own judgement here that the whole wounding aspect for receiving 22.6 was very much over emphasised here IMO so I didn't focus much on 36. All we give is our views here nothing more. I gave mine.
If you would rather I didn't pick you up on what you said I said just write what you think....I'd much prefer that since I don't think you know what I think at all
(BTW there are other aspects to 36 than wounding...there is hiding, secrecy , all sorts. )
Thanks and Goodbye
Just thought I'd throw in my view of 36..
I tend to agree with both foxx AND trojan in that I''ve found it to be nearly always about someone being both wounded AND hiding..
(And 22 in the context of people or feelings is just one of those hex for me..where somebody is usually pretending to be or feel something they are not, for the sake of appearance..)
I thought I'd share
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).