On rewaking sexual desire; hex 62.1.2.5 > 43

[casstone]

Hello,
I'm going through a bit of a struggle and decided to cast my coins and ask I Ching for some insight.

I've been in a relationship with a man for about 5 years and we've been living together for about 3 of those. I've been enduring hormonal problems for about 3 years which I've never really gotten to resolve; extremely painful ovulation which has even landed me in hospital, menstruation lasting for 30/40 days sometimes, general discomfort and pain and so on. I've been put on different contraceptive pills which have not helped me at all and now I've recently come off the pill and intend on staying off for good. My gyn recently diagnosed me with PCOS and recently I was also diagnosed with autoimmune thyroiditis. I'm just putting this information here in case it might give a better context of the reading and its interpretation.

For the past few months in particular I've had an extremely hard time enjoying sexual intimacy with my partner.. it seems I just can't get aroused anymore, no matter what. Psychologically I have a great desire for a fulfilling sexual life but physically I cant seem to enjoy it. I dont feel pleasure anymore, sometimes just discomfort. I don't enjoy it and it's driving me mad. My partner is thoughtful, trying his best but I can't overcome it. I'm not sure what it is exactly, whether it's everyday's stress affecting me this way, hormone imbalance or whether I've simply lost my attraction for my partner whom I care deeply for.

I asked I Ching: What can I do to rewake my sexual desire for my partner?

I cast hexagram 62.1.2.5 > 43

It seems that the answer is "Not much to be done here"

The 1st line sounds like "Little to be done, don't try to push it"
The 2nd line sounds like "Don't overthink it or try to get ahead of yourself"

The 5th line is the line I correlate with the most, although it's not entirely clear to me. It speaks about dense clouds but no rain, the potential union of heaven and earth, the feminine and masculine and accumulated tension which can't seem to culminate or come to a conclusion just yet. I don't get the second part of shooting an arrow in a hole and thus not losing it even though the hunt goes bad. Could it mean to try small things or try repeatedly, even though I'm not sure or really in the mood, without going much out of my way? Try new things even though I'm (figuratively) blindfolded?

Not sure on how hexagram 43 correlates to the situation at all.

Any ideas on what, if any instructions the I Ching is giving me here?

 

[Freedda]

Stepping away from the Yi's response for a moment .... I'd advise caution when trying to rely too much on the Yi for medical issues, especially if you're not - as I am not - trained to understand the medical aspects of the reading.

That said ... one name for 62 is 'smallness in excess'. There is the expression or warning about 'too much of a good thing ...' but here it says something more like "too much of even small things can be too much ...."

So, it could be that this issue may have lots of parts/aspects/pieces to it: physical, mental, psychological, chemical .... even spiritual?

This, along with all the moving lines, (which can indicate instability or just a lot or too much going on) also makes me think this issue has many aspects to it - it's not just one thing - and nor is there just one answer or just one solution to consider.

And with 43 as the resulting hexagram, it makes me think that something bigger, or big-picture thinking or solution could be what's needed here - maybe too that this 'bigger, broader thinking' is similar to the 'not just one solution' solution? Perhaps?

Best, D

 

[Gmulii]

I avoid doing readings here. The information we need, for the systems we use is a lot more and there are many other reasons why I shouldn't. Yet at this time, that lines on that question does seem worthy of mentioning something.

It won't be reading, though, just a story.

There was an native american shaman that lived in a scourged village, that desperately needed rain.
They looked up to him and he knew it was his responsibility to find where the rain was hidden.
Yet that was part of the old ways, all of that was lost during the years.
They still looked up to him.

So he read all the old books and dances. Studied the words and signs for it.
Each day at 22:00 he sat on the dusty street and chanted, then got up and dance. And he was worried about the people that counted on him. He was thinking of them, so it was like they were dancing instead of him. And he was doing all he was suppose to be doing. That was what they had done before he thought, the steps were right, the songs were right. But there was no rain. There was scourging heat.

Days gone by and one day after he sang and after he danced, there was a realization. It won't rain. The old books didn't work, the old songs were empty. He was alone in the street, while the houses all around him were filled with people hoping he would bring rain, but quiet so not to disturb him making it harder. Yet it didn't seem to work like that. There was the clear understanding he will never be able to make it rain, with somewhat the idea human beings aren't made to be able to make rain, or if some did, wasn't him, wasn't this life.

So he sang. Wasn't a song made to bring rain. It was a song for all the flames of responsibility and worry that had disappeared at that simple moment as he let it all go. He was free, other solutions can be found, other battles could be won, that one was over.

Yet the sky above him recognized a change.
This time was different.
This time the song wasn't made from duty, responsibility or loud attempts of making something happening. It was quiet song that resonated deeply in him. Then it resonated with the trees, the sky, the wind. Then the rain came.
It came because it wasn't called, yet it was needed. And through all this, it was always there just a step away, a step of letting go of the resistance made from responsibility, worry and images of how the world should work, what is expected of us. When we let that go, often what we need comes by itself, showing that it was hidden behind us that whole time. In that case it was rain. In other cases could be something else. But its always there.

 

[diamanda]

What can I do to rewake my sexual desire for my partner?
62.1.2.5 > 43

Since your lack of desire is directly due to physical pain and medical conditions, you will need to fix those. Your symptoms sound to me very much like also having one or more polyps (causing bleeding and pain), but of course it might be something else too. The reason I'm mentioning all this is because of your cast.
62.1 the flying bird (sexual imagery) brings misfortune.
62.2 meet someone else, not the intended person - another doctor?
62.5 someone shoots inside the cave (a metaphor).
43 getting rid of something that is bad.

So overall it sounds to me like a procedure you'd need to have done. Hidden lines are 55.2 (multiple screenings - scans?) and 34.5 (getting rid of something stubborn).