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CuriousGeorge

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Hello,

This is my first time posting, though I've been a long time reader and I'm very grateful for the wisdom and insight I've gleaned from reading members' posts and responses. I cast the I-ching a few consecutive times, each asking some general questions about my career trajectory. I've just completed my undergraduate degree older than most people do after a long stay in the hospital, and I've been working at a non-profit which is generally considered a bit of a resume stain in many fields. I'm making much less money than most of my peers, and I don't have many practical skills. I've also felt too overwhelmed to complete my applications for graduate school or start applying for new jobs. and it feels like this was my last chance to get my career back on track. I've also hit a rough patch in my relationship, my health has been on a major decline, and I've managed to alienate a lot of my friends in the past few months, so things are generally just looking bleak.

I asked the iching what was going to happen as my current job comes to an end in December (I'm not getting fired or quitting, that was just the pre-determined duration of the position).
I got 6.2 > 12

I asked what was coming up in the other struggling aspects of my life after this job ends
I got 23.3.4 > 56

I asked if there was any hope of things improving
I got 20.2.6 > 29

All of these seem fairly negative and I can't help but feel like I've messed things up beyond repair. It seems like I'm just destined to continue to fail in all the same ways and it's too late to improve my situation because I've let it stagnate for too long. Is there anybody who can tell me if I'm looking at this the wrong way? I might just be asking the wrong questions, but these hexagrams all point to things continuing to be terrible, regardless of what I've asked. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
 

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Hi NobodyGoingNowhere and welcome,

Very sorry to hear you're going through so much hardship.
Surely this can't be your last chance to get your career back on track..?
You're not over 80 are you? ;)
But first things first - your readings.

I asked the iching what was going to happen as my current job comes to an end in December
6.2 > 12

Nothing much. It won't help you to argue your case to stay further there I'm afraid.

I asked what was coming up in the other struggling aspects of my life after this job ends
23.3.4 > 56

Two aspects (health and relationship) in one question, a bit tricky.
23.3 describes rightly separating from someone, so, doesn't look that great for your relationship.
23.4 describes suffering. Might be physical, or emotional, or both.
And 56 = you will not stay, you won't want to stay, you'll leave this whole bad situation behind.

I asked if there was any hope of things improving
20.2.6 > 29

You mean, work/health/relationship, three things in one question, even trickier.
20.2 - you're looking at your situation through too narrow a lens.
20.6 - have a general overview, look at life in general, look at other people's lives.
29 - hardship keeps coming, unfortunately that's a sad fact. But, if we act according to our heart's truth during tough times, we're able to navigate the storms.

I believe you are indeed looking at this in the wrong way.

How did you mess things up exactly? You finished your studies and found a job. You have acquired some skills, and so you can find another job, and acquire more skills, and make new connections. A good friend of mine started as a project manager at a non-profit and now she's a director (and she never studied project management to begin with). Of course, some people are luckier than others, my point is that since you're still young, for sure there will be lots of opportunities out there for you. Psych yourself up, polish your confidence and CV, and go for it. Start sending out applications by the bucketful - sooner or later one of them will land you a new job.

About your health - do you know exactly what your condition is? Are you being cared for by a doctor or specialist? Do you know how to manage your condition to either cure it or make it bearable?

And about your relationship, I can't say much as you haven't written any details. But again, more questions to ask yourself: is it a very rough patch or something which can be worked out? Are both of you willing to make an effort to sort it out? Are you together for long, and if yes, how do you usually get over rough patches? (which all couples go through anyway)

I believe the secret into dealing with such hard times is to be very clear in what you can change, and what you can't change. And where you can change something for the better, go for it. For example, you can't convince your current job to keep you on. But you can start applying with vigour elsewhere. And similar about health and relationship. What can you do? What does your heart (29) tell you to move towards? Life is not a walk in the park, for the majority of people. Tough times come a lot more often than nice easy ones. It's essential to develop techniques to deal with them effectively.
 

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diamanda, I really appreciate your reply, it's great to have somebody else's input. It is hard, though, to see through the fact that each of these answers from the I-ching leaves very little room for any positive aspects or progress in my near future, particularly receiving 23.4, as well as 29 as the final hex, and I really can't handle too much more hardship. These indicate that it's going to be quite a while before the impending storm is over. My doctors have some idea what my condition is; it was presumed to be ALS but the diagnosis has ended up being a chronic, severe case of Lyme's disease. I'm 27 and not making enough to support much of a lifestyle, and I also have medical debt from being in the hospital for a long time. My girlfriend and I have never had any rough patches in the 3 years we've been together thus far, so it's hard to see how this will resolve. Anyway, I will definitely heed your advice, I again really truly appreciate having some guidance into how I should be thinking about moving forward.
 

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So sorry to hear of this tough time you are having.
I just wanted to comment on what I see in 20.2.6 - 29.
First I think you're being advised that you can't see the total picture and so not to project too far ahead and drive yourself crazy.
Next I think you are being advised to seek out someone who can give you more insight into your issues. 20.2 suggests you - or maybe your doctors - can't see the whole picture - could this be urging you to look farther afield for help with the Lyme? 20.6 seems to suggest looking far and wide. It could also be saying you may be adding to your troubles by comparing yourself to others and assuming you should be "farther along" in life than you are and that you should take the long view - that a successful life means living according to your principals - and not beat yourself up for where you are right now.

The Image for 29 says the superior man carries on the business of teaching. Do you have any interest in teaching?

When I read this image, which is of water over water, and the superior man teaching, I think of Christ walking on water to calm the storms and reassure his disciples. The storm is said to be an emotional storm and that our lesson at this point is to figure out how to calm our emotions, our fears.

There is also the thought that with 29 one must be through in all they do, take things one day at a time.

Best wishes to you,
Rosada
 
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Hi NobodyGoingNowhere,

6.2 to 12 ~ Contract is up ~ Calamity is avoided.
23.3.4 to 56 ~ Bed broken, Body hurt, might need to travel ~ no regret.
20.2.6 to 29 ~ Take a wider view and invite the spirits to help you through troubled waters.

Thanks for sharing your situation!

So, the way I read it: The Yi is saying that it's time for you to move on from the existing job ~ you have more important priorities now. The strain on your body and your relationship needs relief ~ consider traveling to get the relief. If you are okay with alternative approaches, the Chi Center is in the process of opening a Medicine-less Hospital in Santa Fe, and they also have certified healers/teachers in many States.

Check out the first video testimonial at this link:

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Good luck!
 

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each of these answers from the I-ching leaves very little room for any positive aspects or progress in my near future, particularly receiving 23.4, as well as 29 as the final hex, and I really can't handle too much more hardship. These indicate that it's going to be quite a while before the impending storm is over.
You speak as if none of your hardship is under your control.
The 'storm' is called life and it's full of such hardship.

56 urges you to leave a situation behind or to travel, and 29 urges you to take sincere action.
None of your answers advises to just do nothing and simply wait it out.
You'll need to put in the effort I'm afraid - effort to find a job, to solve health and relationship issues.
I know it's not easy, and definitely not pleasant... but what else can you do?
How can any of these practical matters improve if you do nothing?
 

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Hi Everybody, this is my first time logging on in over a year and I want to provide some resolution. I really really appreciate everybody's insight here. I continued with the company I was with and it has helped open some doors for me that I'm very grateful for, and I'm now in graduate school and still working there full-time until school is over. My health has remained more of an inhibitor, I've been struggling with growing fatigue and mental fog, my blood pressure has been rising steadily, and the doctors have been finding growths in various parts of my body. There are cysts in my colon, bladder, and kidney thus far but none appear cancerous. Again, deeply appreciative of everybody's responses and I did read all of them, I'm sorry I never closed the loop sooner.
 

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Thanks so much for coming back to update. Glad to hear you have your career and health under control, sorry to hear on your other thread that your relationship ended so painfully. Then again, it's way better to break away from a toxic partner than to stay with them.
 

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