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Providing nourishment? 56.3.4 ->hex 23.

elizabeth

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A young gentleman has shown some interest in me, and the timing is now very poor. I've been interested in this person for years now (he hasn't known this) and am leaving not only his city and country but hemisphere in 3 weeks. I asked the Yi what G sees in me, and it gave me 9.1 --> 57. I asked what he NEEDS from me and it said nourishment (hex 27 twice unchanging).

Then I asked HOW can I provide him the nourishment he needs? (Given that unless I change and rearrange a huge moving plan, I won't be around to do so).

The Yi said 56.3.4 and then hex 23.

I can't make sense of the changing lines or hex 56. I know 56 is the wanderer, a traveler in a foreign land, which fits me perfectly. It implies loyalty, but I"m not sure to what (to the foreign land??) The lines imply being careful and (line 4) to stop travelling and settled down. THat was my intention with this move "home"...

I am interested if I've got those lines right.

I'm also not clear on 9.1 -> 57. Does that mean he sees me as a small, gentle force?

p.s. "What role do I play in G's life" got me Hex 54.5 The Marrying Maiden and Hex. 58. In case that relates.
 

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Of note also: 23 is splitting apart. How can i give him the nourishment he needs? By leaving the country? Is that the message?
 

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Elizabeth,

Most of the helpful information seems to come from No.9 line 1.

In response to what he sees in you, it seems to lean toward a non-committed experience. It seems he finds you very attractive / intriguing on a physical level. Lines 1 and 4 respond, so there is a possibility there. Yet the message of turning back to the way seems to be trying to keep you from getting hurt. If you stick to your plan to leave on all levels, keep your mind clear, you can make a clean break and start anew in your new home.

The nature of No.9 seems to say that whatever you do with him, it won't last. Whatever memories you want to have of each other you can choose and act on those preferences.

As to your question about how you can nurture him, I think 56 reminds you that given the situation, you really can't nurture him and it won't be about nurturing on a very deep level. Your nurturing could be a passing fancy, a quick comfort.

As to the last question what role you play in his life... No.54. Here the text says of that hexagram 'the places are not the appropriate ones.' Given that you are not in your home land, and that 56 also came up, this one seems to echo the inappropriateness of this relationship possibility.

Above all, these images seem to be trying to keep you focused and free of difficult emotional experiences.

I truly hope this helps you.

All the best,
Schastlivchik
 

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Hi Schastlivchik,

Nado skazat, shto ya daleko ot shastlivaya segodna... But thank you for the replies. I had a hard time with these hexagrams. As much as I don't like the answer, I was looking for the truth and I prefer it. I extend my gratitude for helping me with this.

What doesn't make sense to me is the home land issue. Why (practically speaking) should me not being in my homeland make any difference to him, or any other man? I"ve been here nearly 5 yrs and have an apartment and job and friends. My relatives aren't here, no...but why would that concern someone else? I presume from the Yi's point of view it is an issue in the event I want to leave and "go back" to"the place I call home." In order to be around those people. I was thinking of that last night -- I know many expat women here who have married and made their life here despite the struggles. I'd thought (4 yrs ago) perhaps that could work out for me too...

Sigh.
 
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In thinking about this more, I was curious why it happened -- what is the bigger lesson here. So I asked a few follow-up questions of the Yi.

1) Why is this happening?

Answer: 23 Splitting apart (twice, unchanging)

Does that mean "because you are leaving"?

2) What is the best attitude to take towards this (person)?

Answer: 60. Limitation lines 5.6, and 41. Decrease.
I cannot make heads/tailes of the changing lines or what this answer is, but I presume it is in line with what Schastlivchik said: dont DO anything, and be wary of this person.


Details of the hexes and lines are as follows.

60. Limitation. Success. Galling limitation must not be persevered in.
line 5 = Sweet limitation brings good fortune. Going brings esteem.
line 6 = Galling limitation. Perseverance brings misfortune. Remorse disappears.

41. Decrease combined with sincerity Brings about supreme good fortune Without blame. One may be persevering in this. It furthers one to undertake something.
How is this to be carried out? One may use two small bowls for the sacrifice.

"Thus the superior man controls his anger And restrains his instincts."
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And finally,
3) How will this situation develop if I just let it be?
Answer: Hex. 64.2.4.6. Before Completion and Hex.2 REceptive.

I interpret that as ultimately be receptive, dont ACt, just follow. But the changing lines answer the question of what will happen -- I gather then that we will go from (line 2) the time is not ripe yet to act, sit tight to (line 4) a struggle of sorts (what kind?) and (line 6) victory, but dont go overboard celebrating?

Is that right, more or less?
 
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I think 60 to 41 means the best attitude to this person is to stick within comfortable boundaries emotionally, to stay within the perameters of the relationship as it is, not to try to extend or deepen it. Sticking with it as it is fine. I can't see anything about the need to be wary of this person, only to be wary of your own expectations. Hence if you let it be thats a reasonable course of action.
 

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