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The original question I asked is largley unchanged: How do I optimize my chances to have some kind of friendship with my psychotherapist after he retires? (after 15 years of largely 'supportive' therapy?).
After leaving this alone for a number of days, I have just done another I Ching reading which came out as 53, with changing lines 2nd (from bottom) and the top line (6). This changes into hexagram 48.
I made sure I relaxed before doing throwing the coins so I think I can have confidence in this reading - I am so chuffed that it is so positive. How accurate though, do people think these readings can be? And there are certain parts of the reading that don't seem relevant, or at least that I don't see how they apply to the situation....
I would be interested to hear any comments -( particularly as this reading is a new one and so positive ) - from those who commented before on the last reading I did on this question, especially.
trojan,
it is perfectly acceptable to do a further reading several days after the first. Situations change. I haven't ignored anything that was said; people have different ways of understanding these things and your point of view is one among many.
The code of ethic for psychotherapists has changed since yesterday has it ? You regard this as negotiable ?
Actually Trojan, I have had therapy from therapists who have actively encouraged continued contact after therapy has finished, and this was usual - indefinitely too, and this had been largley 'supportive' psychotherapy.
Which only goes to show that what some people might regard as rules 'set in stone', in fact, are not. I think what you are thinking about is the more traditional psychotherapy i.e. maybe straightforward psychodynamic or analytical therapy which, I agree, is usually very much confined within sessions. But there are kinds of therapy which are perfectly respectable which are not run like that. I know because I have been involved in them. Also, analytical types of therapy do not last for 15 years generally which, in supportive therapy cannot but create more 'real' relationships which are, I believe, less based on fantasy, and more a kind of mentoring set up.
I can see you have serious and strongly felt reservations about this.
I read 53.2.6 as 'enjoy what you have, but don't try to hang on to it'. 53.2 isn't an endpoint but a stop along the way. Take rest and nourishment where you are now, but don't try to put down roots. 53.6 seems like a perfect image of your therapist retiring. Instead of trying to hold on to him, look for the 'feathers' this relationship might offer. Consider, for example, what a strong, healthy relationship you were able to build and maintain over all those years. That's a powerful talisman to carry with you as you continue your own gradual progress towards greater health and stability.
To me, 48 is about tapping into inner resources. Find the strength within yourself to survive this parting and set about building a good, supportive relationship with a new therapist.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).