Random Intimacy Question

[youngmaid]

Hi Everyone,

So, I've been wheelin' and dealin', focusing solely on professional advancement in the past two months, putting all my time (and I mean ALL, for four months in a row I was working 80 hours a week, I barely got Christmas off!) into projects and so forth.

I've met a new boy about a week and a half ago. I like him. But quite frankly, I've got stuff to do AND I'm feeling odd sexually/emotionally, because I've been out of the game for a while and my last relationship made me feel like a cadaver, so, I'm kind of scared to be intimate again.

I saw him last Monday, randomly (my friend is trying to hook us up, and my friend stupidly decided to invite love interest over while I was over; love interest brought his cousin; they were all playing video games, while love interest boy was trying to get to know me, I was getting over bronchitis and a wild weekend of partying with my super crazy fun friends; long story short, it was awkward).

Anyway, I know I should have totally sucked his lips off or something wild and daring (that's the kind of romantic energy we evoke in each other), but I'm holding back because I need to finish what I'm doing before I get lost in the throes of romantic passion.

I'm freaking out because I hope I didn't give him the wrong impression; I'm ready for him later (maybe in like a month or something), but not RIGHT NOW; so I hope he still likes me.

I asked Yi:

*What is the likelihood that this boy has romantic feelings for me? I got 12.3.6 to 31

What do you guys think of this answer? I think it indicates that he likes me, but I threw him off, but at the end of the day, when things are right, there's still a big chance of advancing.

 

[chingching]

its all good by 12.6 the standstill ends

The standstill comes to an end.
First standstill, then good fortune.

he can wait for you, then you can suck his face off, just leave him with at least something to breathe with, have fun

 

[arabella]

YM...Especially the 12.6 that would indicate he understands your exhaustion if you mention something about it. And if he doesn't, he's not much of a guy.

So far as worrying about intimacy with a guy you don't really know, here's something from LiSe on Hexagram 31:

People need contact, and it is a very good and beautiful thing. Enjoy it. But ..

Evaluate influences very severely, even those who seem innocent or beautiful. Remember Snowwhite's apple? She looked at the beautiful apple, instead of the person who offered it.
Usually people do not want to hurt, they influence with the best intentions. They just don't realize how much self-interest these intentions contain. So be careful. A nice kiss can in the long term turn out to be a nasty bite. Don’t blame the one who did it, just never do anything that does not agree with yourself.

It's taken you a while and a lot of work and worry to get to the successful and centred position that you are. And I'd take some care who you let in there with you. For my money, he'd surely require some vetting and a few hurdles to make the grade. Why assume you owe him anything?

 

[youngmaid]

its all good by 12.6 the standstill ends


he can wait for you, then you can suck his face off, just leave him with at least something to breathe with, have fun

Thank you ChingChing! He better find some new lips in a month's time! xx

 

[youngmaid]

YM...Especially the 12.6 that would indicate he understands your exhaustion if you mention something about it. And if he doesn't, he's not much of a guy.

It's taken you a while and a lot of work and worry to get to the successful and centred position that you are. And I'd take some care who you let in there with you. For my money, he'd surely require some vetting and a few hurdles to make the grade. Why assume you owe him anything?

Hi Arabella! Dang, so hard to resist such a delicious looking apple!

As always, your insight is incredible; I'm imbibing hardcore and I appreciate it.

You're right, I don't owe the man anything. He's just entered my life. AND my life has JUST started taking off in the direction that I've been dreaming of for my entire existence, so, he can wait. Most importantly, as you stated, I DO need to be especially cautious about who I let into my world on the romantic level right now. I'm not the Queen of England, but I'm certainly reaching new heights, and I'm not trying to get taken advantage of at this critical stage by some lust-interest. No meltdowns please!

I guess all of this was sparked off because my friend told me that I was "sexually awkward" the other day. I suppose I am, but I'm just straight up SHUNNING sex related things right now, and I have been for several months, because they're so DISTRACTING. I've got to get my stuff in order!

The thing that trips me out is that, apparently, according to my male friend who said I was sexually awkward, I'm really popular and everyone talks about me. Honestly, news to me, in my silly mind as soon as I exit the room no one talks about me until I see them three weeks later at another social gathering or something. Anyway, so all his guy friends say that I "need to get laid". Guy-talk is Swahili to me, but that got me thinking.

It made me think that I might need to start paying attention to my romantic life, after this final professional push is over with, and stop neglecting the carnal part of my self.

But, I'll do it when I'm ready.

xx