RE: To take or not to take the job, that is the question

[elkoholik]

RE: To take or not to take the job, that is the question

Hello all,

The last time I was here on this forum, was all the way in Feb. That was when everything that could go wrong in my life was going wrong and I was in depression. I posted a reading "What should I do to feel peaceful and calm now?", with results Hexagram 44.2.4.6 to 39. Many of you were very generous in you advice. I am very grateful and tried working on them, going out more, mingling more, engaging myself in more activities.

Now, almost 10 months on, I've marched on and there's a new guy in my life and career-wise is also looking up. But here's the glitch, I've only started on this new relationship, it's a very young relationship so I'm protective of it. Of course, we're still in the honeymoon period so everything is lovey dovey. But this new job I'm being offered, while sounding very exciting, is demanding and will require me to travel quite often, sometimes 2-4 weeks on end.

I'm afraid. I'm not young any longer and having found someone who loves me so much, I don't want to lose him because I'm always flying for my job. So I asked the following 2 questions:

1) How will joining company XXX affect my relationship with O?
Hexagram 28.2.3.4.6 --> 20

2) If I want the relationship between O and I to grow and blossom, should I take the job at company XXX?
Hexagram 14.1.4.6 --> 46

Wow.... 4 lines changing (28.2.3.4.6) for the 1st reading. And frankly, out of the 4 changing lines, 2 sounds ominous. The way I interpret it was that the ridgepole represents the relationship between O and I. So initially, things will still go well between O and I (Line 2, shoots sprouting) but then the travelling will start wearing our relationship thin (Line 3 ridgepole sags to breaking point). Then something happens to resuscitate our relationship (Line 4 ridgepole is braced) but in the end, with all the travelling and neglect, our relationship still ends (Line 6 water over the head).

But looking at the 2nd reading (14.1.4.6), things look so much more positive. It seems to tell me in Line 1 that if I am mindful of the difficulties, there is hope. Line 4 stumped me a little, but I like Line 6, because it seems to tell me that the relationship between O and I will blossom.

So I'm confused, because these 3 readings seem to conflict each other and well, I doubt my ability to read the hexagram and changing lines accurately. (This is also why I try not to meddle too much with the other readings in the forum coz I don't wanna give wrong interpretations and advice and screw up. ) So here I m, asking humbly for any advise and interpretations on these 2 readings. :bows: Please do help, coz I'm just hopelessly in love now.

 

[tigerintheboat]

H28.3 is Never Good News

1) How will joining company XXX affect my relationship with O?
Hexagram 28.2.3.4.6 --> 20

2) If I want the relationship between O and I to grow and blossom, should I take the job at company XXX?
Hexagram 14.1.4.6 --> 46

Wow.... 4 lines changing (28.2.3.4.6) for the 1st reading. And frankly, out of the 4 changing lines, 2 sounds ominous. The way I interpret it was that the ridgepole represents the relationship between O and I. So initially, things will still go well between O and I (Line 2, shoots sprouting) but then the travelling will start wearing our relationship thin (Line 3 ridgepole sags to breaking point). Then something happens to resuscitate our relationship (Line 4 ridgepole is braced) but in the end, with all the travelling and neglect, our relationship still ends (Line 6 water over the head).

But looking at the 2nd reading (14.1.4.6), things look so much more positive. It seems to tell me in Line 1 that if I am mindful of the difficulties, there is hope. Line 4 stumped me a little, but I like Line 6, because it seems to tell me that the relationship between O and I will blossom.

Your first question is very clear, and your interpretation is fairly clear. The sequence you describe is a reasonable interpretation. The key lines are 28.3, where the ridgepole breaks, and 28.4, where it will hold a certain amount, but it is at its maximum, and will go no further. This indicates the relationship will go to a certain point, and no further. Finally, at Line 6, you are over your head, and may be overwhelmed.

The form of the 2nd question is confusing, and I don't think it is talking about your relationship, but rather more about the job, as if you had asked "should I take the job at company XXX", without the qualifier in front. It suggests that you have not really contacted the parts of the job that will be difficult or dangerous (Line 1), and you will not be able to dominate the job (Line 4). Although you do not have control and do not know what you are getting into, none the less, it appears that this job is part of your fate.

Nothing in the reading suggests anything to me about the relationship. I would depend on the first reading for that.

Tiger