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Hi all,
time for ANOTHER relationship-y reading. Perhaps not as important as whether TPP will go through etc..., but perhaps both a teaching and learning experience.
So I am on one of those online dating apps, bumble specifically (one of the ones where you swipe left or right... it's based on age and sex preference, and also proximity). Over the past 4 weeks or so I started to see an ex-girlfriend's profile pop up quite regularly. I ignored it a few times, once I swiped right (yes) to see what would happen (nothing) and a number of times I swiped left just to get it to stop (but it kept coming up, which really doesn't usually happen, I've only had that happen maybe 5 times with other woman, and after swiping left again, I would never see there profile again after that). So I was grabbing a drink at a bar about 2.5 weeks ago, when I randomly and out of the blue thought about this ex., about 5 minutes later I open the App, and three swipes in I see a profile with her name (which is in my country a unique name, as it's eastern European with an uncommon spelling). "Huh, that's weird" I thought, so I check the profession part and see that this individual works in the same company as she does with the same position. This is very weird, so I check out the next photo, and see it's my ex... her first photo was a new one and she was unrecognizable in it.
I text a friend telling her about this and remarking at how weird this is (seeing her profile so often), then I figure it's time to ask the Iching whats up.
my general question was: what's up with seeing my ex on bumble multiple times ( while also thinking about the fact that I had thought of her randomly right before seeing her).
55.1.5 > 31
Hexagram 55:Abundance, Fullness, The Symbol of Prosperity, Greatness, Abounding, Richness, Prolific, Fruitful, Luxuriant, Zenith, Affluence
Success. The king attains greatness, without sadness; he should be like the sun at midday.
Hexagram 55.1
The first line, dynamic, shows its subject meeting with his mate. Though they are both of the same character, there will be no error. Advance will call forth approval.
Hexagram 55.5
If he could welcome his notable partner, there would be something to celebrate and praise. Auspicious.
Changing to Hexagram 31
Influence, Wooing, Attraction, Sensation, Stimulation, Conjoining, Feelings, Sensitivity, Sensing, Affection, Influencing to Action, Tension, Seeking Union, Persuasion, Courting Response, Importuning
Ok, not sure what to make of this, it doesn't answer my question so far as I can see it...but then again that's probably because I'm not skilled enough (or my question wasn't clear enough).
All in all though it seems like a 'positive' reading. Perhaps about the attraction element of her profile continually popping up.
Anyways, life goes on, though the friend I texted suggested I reach out to the ex, whether to see if there is possibility romance wise (this friend liked her) or just to catch up.
Last night, I decided what the hell, let's see how she is doing. I will not lie, I was exceptionally nervous doing so (for various reasons, including an illness I have that revs up the nervous system in response to pretty much every stimulus if I'm feeling off... it's has to do with the cortisol out put of my adrenal glands, there isn't enough, despite taking an Adrenal Cortex Extract, so my body compensates by using adrenalin. Not a lot of fun).
I called and left a basic message, hey how are you long time no talk, it'd be great to catch up, give me a call.
I asked the iching a very basic, though ( I realize now ) vague question:
Now that I called her
Hexagram 45.1.2.6 > Hexagram 10
Hexagram 45
Gathering Together, Massing, The Symbol of Gathering into One, Assembling, Congregation, Gathering, Unity, Accord, Making Whole, Focusing, Marshalling One's Forces, Clustering, Finished
Success. The king attends the temple. It is of benefit to see the great man; this leads to success. Continuance benefits. Offering a great sacrifice leads to good fortune. It benefits one to go somewhere.
45.1 In the beginning sincerity, later change. Disorder and gathering alternate. If you cry out, after grasping someone's hands you will smile again. No fear. Go with no blame.
hmm... not sure what to make of that line. Seems good, then bad, then mention of anxiety/crying, then good. A lot of changes contained within this changing line.
Here is a note on the line that actually pretty well describes (to a point) my mental state leading into this:
Siu: At the outset, the man desires union. But confusion and indecision exist because he is separated from his associates. He calls for help, which is provided, thereby transforming distress into joy.
45.2
The second line, magnetic, shows its subject led forward by her correlate. There will be good fortune, and freedom from error. There is entire sincerity, and in that case even the small offerings of the vernal sacrifice are acceptable.
ok, this line reads well. Never sure what to make of the mentions of vernal sacrifices in the iching... in some instances I can make sense of it and see an appropriate action that I could take, in others not so much. Though it might be said that I sacrificed something in reaching out ( a moment of high blood pressure etc) , and it is still summer technically (until the 22nd of september).
here is a note for the line:
Siu: Secret forces are bringing compatible spirits together. If the man permits himself to be led by this ineffable attraction, good fortune will come his way. When deep friendships exist, formalities and elaborate preparations are not necessary.
ok, that sounds good.
45.6
Legge: The sixth line, magnetic, shows its subject sighing and weeping; but there will be no error.
note on line 6:
Siu: The man does not remain inactive in his high position but seeks alliance with another, who misjudges him. He is saddened by the rebuff. But the unity will come eventually as a result of his determination.
Huh, this doesn't sound to good, though the "but there will be no error" part is interesting.
Changing to Hexagram 10
Treading, Conduct, The Symbol of Stepping Carefully, Proper Conduct, Cautious Treading, Proceeding Cautiously, Watch Your Step, Proceed at Your Own Risk, Advancing With Care "Illustrates the difference between courage and foolhardiness." -- D.F. Hook
Liu: Treading: Stepping on the tail of a tiger, but it does not bite one. Success. [You should act only after you have planned carefully, and then with resolution.]
I think indeed me reaching out was indeed treading on the tiger's tail, if the tiger was my anxiety, I did it anyway.
- Ok, she got back to me about 2 or so hours later with a text, a rather non-emotional "What's up?" (though she is naturally, not overly bubbly etc)
I replied that that was the purpose of my call, long time no see etc and wanted to see how she was doing.
She replied that she was good, and was finishing dinner. Saw that this morning, she replied around 11:57 (kind of late dinner). Going to text her something witty and humorous later and invite her for a drink so we can ACTUALLY catch up.
the question I asked after her reply was asking for insight into her thoughts etc re the communication and reply etc... I realize this is something that some people don't think can be answered, while others think that indeed the Iching can give such insights as long as the question is asked with need divorced from nervous emotion etc etc etc etc.
Hexagram 52.1.3.5 changing to Hexagram 42
Mountain, Keeping Still, The Symbol of Checking and Stopping, Desisting, Stilling, Stillness, Stoppage, Bound, Reposing, Resting, Meditation, Non-action, Stopping, Arresting Movement, "Refers to meditation and yoga." -- D.F. Hook
Liu: Stillness. Keeping the back still -- one feels that the body no longer exists. Even when one walks in the courtyard, one sees no people. No blame.
Note:Legge: The image of one mountain atop another formsKeeping Still. The superior man, in accordance with this, does not allow his thoughts to go beyond the duties of his immediate circumstances.
Hmm.. as I've written (and as is no doubt plain to see) I'm an amateur... some readings make sense, some hexagrams seem rather obvious in their application to or insight into a question. 52 is one I've never really understood, except if I am asking what should I do about X, what is the best way to approach X situation... In terms of it's showing up in response to my question... I would say it matches her non-emotional response, as opposed to Hey! Great to hear from you, doing well, how about yourself?
52.1
Keeping the toes still. No error. Continued persistence is advantageous.
note:At the outset, the man pauses to study the situation as it actually exists -- without being led astray by wishful thinking or ulterior motives. He must remain persistently firm and correct to avoid irresolute drifting.
Ok, this SUGGESTS a detachment on her part, possibly a purposeful and choice driven one, as opposed to something instinctual or matter of fact.
52.3
Keeping the loins and the middle of the spine still. Danger. His heart is like an anxious flame.
commentary:
Legge: When the calves are kept at rest, advance is stopped, but no other harm ensues. Not so when the loins are kept at rest, and unable to bend, for the connection between the upper and lower parts of the body is then broken. The dissatisfaction increases to an angry heat. Canon McClatchie suggests the idea of "stopping at a limit, and separating what is in continued succession (i.e., the backbone); thus the mind, etc."
Note:
Wing: If you attempt to force stillness upon restless desires you will only create deep inner conflict and resentment. This can be dangerous. Attempt internal composure through relaxation and Meditation.
Ok, so perhaps she is suppressing something in a way that is not good for her? OR she is conflicted?
52.5
Liu: Keeping the jaws still. His speech has order. Remorse vanishes.
Note
Siu: The man is judicious in his choice of words. He thereby eliminates occasions for regret.
Ok, this seems to perhaps address her economical communique.
Changing to Hexagram 42
The Symbol of Addition, Gain, Augmenting, Help from Above, Benefit, Advantage, Profit, Expansion
Liu:Increase. It is of benefit to set forth. It is of benefit to cross the great water.
Ok, this sounds good, for me, for her, for both? Not sure how this as a changing hexagram plays into the question... unless the increase is an increase of communication etc etc .
There you go, a matter of the heart in a way, and I would love to read the interpretations of others, and if anyone has suggestions about what questions might be helpful for me to ask re this topic, please let me know.
Thanks
time for ANOTHER relationship-y reading. Perhaps not as important as whether TPP will go through etc..., but perhaps both a teaching and learning experience.
So I am on one of those online dating apps, bumble specifically (one of the ones where you swipe left or right... it's based on age and sex preference, and also proximity). Over the past 4 weeks or so I started to see an ex-girlfriend's profile pop up quite regularly. I ignored it a few times, once I swiped right (yes) to see what would happen (nothing) and a number of times I swiped left just to get it to stop (but it kept coming up, which really doesn't usually happen, I've only had that happen maybe 5 times with other woman, and after swiping left again, I would never see there profile again after that). So I was grabbing a drink at a bar about 2.5 weeks ago, when I randomly and out of the blue thought about this ex., about 5 minutes later I open the App, and three swipes in I see a profile with her name (which is in my country a unique name, as it's eastern European with an uncommon spelling). "Huh, that's weird" I thought, so I check the profession part and see that this individual works in the same company as she does with the same position. This is very weird, so I check out the next photo, and see it's my ex... her first photo was a new one and she was unrecognizable in it.
I text a friend telling her about this and remarking at how weird this is (seeing her profile so often), then I figure it's time to ask the Iching whats up.
my general question was: what's up with seeing my ex on bumble multiple times ( while also thinking about the fact that I had thought of her randomly right before seeing her).
55.1.5 > 31
Hexagram 55:Abundance, Fullness, The Symbol of Prosperity, Greatness, Abounding, Richness, Prolific, Fruitful, Luxuriant, Zenith, Affluence
Success. The king attains greatness, without sadness; he should be like the sun at midday.
Hexagram 55.1
The first line, dynamic, shows its subject meeting with his mate. Though they are both of the same character, there will be no error. Advance will call forth approval.
Hexagram 55.5
If he could welcome his notable partner, there would be something to celebrate and praise. Auspicious.
Changing to Hexagram 31
Influence, Wooing, Attraction, Sensation, Stimulation, Conjoining, Feelings, Sensitivity, Sensing, Affection, Influencing to Action, Tension, Seeking Union, Persuasion, Courting Response, Importuning
Ok, not sure what to make of this, it doesn't answer my question so far as I can see it...but then again that's probably because I'm not skilled enough (or my question wasn't clear enough).
All in all though it seems like a 'positive' reading. Perhaps about the attraction element of her profile continually popping up.
Anyways, life goes on, though the friend I texted suggested I reach out to the ex, whether to see if there is possibility romance wise (this friend liked her) or just to catch up.
Last night, I decided what the hell, let's see how she is doing. I will not lie, I was exceptionally nervous doing so (for various reasons, including an illness I have that revs up the nervous system in response to pretty much every stimulus if I'm feeling off... it's has to do with the cortisol out put of my adrenal glands, there isn't enough, despite taking an Adrenal Cortex Extract, so my body compensates by using adrenalin. Not a lot of fun).
I called and left a basic message, hey how are you long time no talk, it'd be great to catch up, give me a call.
I asked the iching a very basic, though ( I realize now ) vague question:
Now that I called her
Hexagram 45.1.2.6 > Hexagram 10
Hexagram 45
Gathering Together, Massing, The Symbol of Gathering into One, Assembling, Congregation, Gathering, Unity, Accord, Making Whole, Focusing, Marshalling One's Forces, Clustering, Finished
Success. The king attends the temple. It is of benefit to see the great man; this leads to success. Continuance benefits. Offering a great sacrifice leads to good fortune. It benefits one to go somewhere.
45.1 In the beginning sincerity, later change. Disorder and gathering alternate. If you cry out, after grasping someone's hands you will smile again. No fear. Go with no blame.
hmm... not sure what to make of that line. Seems good, then bad, then mention of anxiety/crying, then good. A lot of changes contained within this changing line.
Here is a note on the line that actually pretty well describes (to a point) my mental state leading into this:
Siu: At the outset, the man desires union. But confusion and indecision exist because he is separated from his associates. He calls for help, which is provided, thereby transforming distress into joy.
45.2
The second line, magnetic, shows its subject led forward by her correlate. There will be good fortune, and freedom from error. There is entire sincerity, and in that case even the small offerings of the vernal sacrifice are acceptable.
ok, this line reads well. Never sure what to make of the mentions of vernal sacrifices in the iching... in some instances I can make sense of it and see an appropriate action that I could take, in others not so much. Though it might be said that I sacrificed something in reaching out ( a moment of high blood pressure etc) , and it is still summer technically (until the 22nd of september).
here is a note for the line:
Siu: Secret forces are bringing compatible spirits together. If the man permits himself to be led by this ineffable attraction, good fortune will come his way. When deep friendships exist, formalities and elaborate preparations are not necessary.
ok, that sounds good.
45.6
Legge: The sixth line, magnetic, shows its subject sighing and weeping; but there will be no error.
note on line 6:
Siu: The man does not remain inactive in his high position but seeks alliance with another, who misjudges him. He is saddened by the rebuff. But the unity will come eventually as a result of his determination.
Huh, this doesn't sound to good, though the "but there will be no error" part is interesting.
Changing to Hexagram 10
Treading, Conduct, The Symbol of Stepping Carefully, Proper Conduct, Cautious Treading, Proceeding Cautiously, Watch Your Step, Proceed at Your Own Risk, Advancing With Care "Illustrates the difference between courage and foolhardiness." -- D.F. Hook
Liu: Treading: Stepping on the tail of a tiger, but it does not bite one. Success. [You should act only after you have planned carefully, and then with resolution.]
I think indeed me reaching out was indeed treading on the tiger's tail, if the tiger was my anxiety, I did it anyway.
- Ok, she got back to me about 2 or so hours later with a text, a rather non-emotional "What's up?" (though she is naturally, not overly bubbly etc)
I replied that that was the purpose of my call, long time no see etc and wanted to see how she was doing.
She replied that she was good, and was finishing dinner. Saw that this morning, she replied around 11:57 (kind of late dinner). Going to text her something witty and humorous later and invite her for a drink so we can ACTUALLY catch up.
the question I asked after her reply was asking for insight into her thoughts etc re the communication and reply etc... I realize this is something that some people don't think can be answered, while others think that indeed the Iching can give such insights as long as the question is asked with need divorced from nervous emotion etc etc etc etc.
Hexagram 52.1.3.5 changing to Hexagram 42
Mountain, Keeping Still, The Symbol of Checking and Stopping, Desisting, Stilling, Stillness, Stoppage, Bound, Reposing, Resting, Meditation, Non-action, Stopping, Arresting Movement, "Refers to meditation and yoga." -- D.F. Hook
Liu: Stillness. Keeping the back still -- one feels that the body no longer exists. Even when one walks in the courtyard, one sees no people. No blame.
Note:Legge: The image of one mountain atop another formsKeeping Still. The superior man, in accordance with this, does not allow his thoughts to go beyond the duties of his immediate circumstances.
Hmm.. as I've written (and as is no doubt plain to see) I'm an amateur... some readings make sense, some hexagrams seem rather obvious in their application to or insight into a question. 52 is one I've never really understood, except if I am asking what should I do about X, what is the best way to approach X situation... In terms of it's showing up in response to my question... I would say it matches her non-emotional response, as opposed to Hey! Great to hear from you, doing well, how about yourself?
52.1
Keeping the toes still. No error. Continued persistence is advantageous.
note:At the outset, the man pauses to study the situation as it actually exists -- without being led astray by wishful thinking or ulterior motives. He must remain persistently firm and correct to avoid irresolute drifting.
Ok, this SUGGESTS a detachment on her part, possibly a purposeful and choice driven one, as opposed to something instinctual or matter of fact.
52.3
Keeping the loins and the middle of the spine still. Danger. His heart is like an anxious flame.
commentary:
Legge: When the calves are kept at rest, advance is stopped, but no other harm ensues. Not so when the loins are kept at rest, and unable to bend, for the connection between the upper and lower parts of the body is then broken. The dissatisfaction increases to an angry heat. Canon McClatchie suggests the idea of "stopping at a limit, and separating what is in continued succession (i.e., the backbone); thus the mind, etc."
Note:
Wing: If you attempt to force stillness upon restless desires you will only create deep inner conflict and resentment. This can be dangerous. Attempt internal composure through relaxation and Meditation.
Ok, so perhaps she is suppressing something in a way that is not good for her? OR she is conflicted?
52.5
Liu: Keeping the jaws still. His speech has order. Remorse vanishes.
Note
Siu: The man is judicious in his choice of words. He thereby eliminates occasions for regret.
Ok, this seems to perhaps address her economical communique.
Changing to Hexagram 42
The Symbol of Addition, Gain, Augmenting, Help from Above, Benefit, Advantage, Profit, Expansion
Liu:Increase. It is of benefit to set forth. It is of benefit to cross the great water.
Ok, this sounds good, for me, for her, for both? Not sure how this as a changing hexagram plays into the question... unless the increase is an increase of communication etc etc .
There you go, a matter of the heart in a way, and I would love to read the interpretations of others, and if anyone has suggestions about what questions might be helpful for me to ask re this topic, please let me know.
Thanks