Reading for a friend: What she should focus on right now? Hex 48 1.6 -> 9

[dancingfox]

Dear all

I could use some help with this reading. It is one of the first times that I am doing a reading for a friend, so I am a bit nervous about this one

She askes the Yi what she should focus on right now. A bit of a backdrop:

She is crawling out of a destructive relationship which ended a year ago, they were together for almost 10 years. He does not want to let go of her and has been harassing her at work (she works as a bartender) and in every other concievable way. Turns out he was holding back money that was needed to pay the bills, so thanks to him she also has a financial hangover to recover from.

In the mean time she met someone else, who is sweet and caring and is giving her all the love and support she deserves. They are taking it real slow, which is a good thing given the circumstances.

She has a son who's 23 years old, still lives with her and has difficulty finding a job. He's a sweet kid, intelligent with a golden heart, but he needs to grow some spine and find a place for himself. She had an extremey difficult childhood herself so now she wants to give her boy all the love she so sorely missed when she was growing up. He quit school when he was 18, and hasn't found a serious job since. It would probably help alot if he could move out and give her the space she needs to to rearrange her life.
I think this one hurts maybe the most for her, they are so intimitely connected it's almost surreal. But he can't live of his mums forever, and she needs to let him go in order for them both to grow, I believe.

Like me, she wants take up studies in social work, but she didn't make it into the program that is starting in september this year. Our coach advised her to first put her private life in order (financial formost). Then she can step into the program next january.

That's what's going on for her in a nutshell. Because she feels so overwhelmed by all this we narrowed the question down to what she should focus on right now.
Yi answered

Hex 48 1.6 -> 9

48 -> 9:
I think that she is looking for her source of nourishment and is progressing in small ways.

Line 1 shows what she has been doing up until now, to put it in her own words, she was 'milking a dead cow'. She has been trying to find nourishment in a relationship that hasn't made her happy in a long time. She has ended the relationship with great difficulty after this insight.Out of neccesity she remained in a job and a relationship that gave her a sense of stability but in reality they where both draining her.
I think line 6 is a beautiful message for her, I think she needs to let go of being the provider/nurturer and allow other people/circumstances to nurture her. She is so used to take care of everything and everybody, now it is time to turn that around.
Berkers:

Trusting that things will be all right if one lets this, will allow for replenishment of the source.

I would however, really appreciate any other input :bows:

 

[dancingfox]

Bumping this post, anyone? :bows:

 

[mulberry]

Interesting that she should get The Well in this case, as it is often about instruction, learning, and focus. Line 1 is not so auspicious, but perhaps reflects her own modes of thinking and how much she's indulged her son over the years. As you said, he doesn't seem like a bad kid, and I definitely think that adult children living with parents can be a perfectly fine thing (in many cultures, it's the norm)-- but only when everyone is pulling their weight. I think she might be setting up a situation where her son doesn't need to grow up/mature and enroll in school or get a job, because she doesn't expect enough from him. And, even worse, maybe is clinging to her role as a mother and provider in lieu of developing another identity, thereby keeping him in this immature state. Line 1 is a quite strong rebuke for living life in a way that is not beneficial or strong.

Line 6, on the other hand, seems to offer an alternate way of being-- it is very strong, very auspicious, and shows a picture of someone who is using their strengths for the right purposes. In her case, being a nurturing person but not one who indulges the bad habits of others.

I would love at this reading as showing a picture of how she is right now, and two options for exercising her inner nature qualities-- she can use her naturally nurturing qualities to be a doormat and an enabler of bad behavior (as she was to some degree with her ex, and continues to be with her son). Or she can function at a higher vibration, and being strict when needed.

Good luck! I hope this helped!

 

[dancingfox]

I thought I got the gist of the reading but your explanation is so much more elaborate then mine.

You see the changing lines as two different options, while my first interpretation was more along the lines of an evolution from line 1 towards line 6. Interesting.

Anyway I gave her feedback about the reading this morning, she was open to accept the message of the Yi, which I think is really brave and a great start to make the necessary changes in her life.

Thanks you so much for the help, mulberry!

 

[mulberry]

I'm glad, Dancingfox! Actually, I'm pretty sure I got that idea of the conflicting changing lines as "options" of a sort from someone here on the boards-- maybe Ginnie? Anyway, it was a big insight for me and has made many readings much more clear.

I wish all the best for your friend and her son, and for you!