Relating well

[precision grace]

Hi

I asked some days ago - what is that best thing for me to do about a friend and got 48 unchanging and today I asked what is their attitude towards me now and received 47 unchanging. This was interesting because of 47 and 48 being a pair but it has got me perplexed because 48 made me think I should continue to try and work on joint projects with this person but 47 makes me think they've had enough of our association.
Is that it? Should I stop trying to develop the friendship and just let it go?

Thanks :bows:

 

[goddessliss]

Hi precision grace, Hmmm...well when we cast the answer comes for that present moment.

But I think in this case Hex 48 - when we constantly pull from a particular resource it can run dry and Hex 47 maybe a time for 'confinement' while this resource replenshises itself. - Liss

 

[precision grace]

Thank you liss, that's sort of how I thought too except that I was confused as to why would the hardly used resource run dry. Well, as they say, one man's week is another man's year. Or something like that anyway

 

[dancing white ferret]

Hi Grace... I do like Liss's interpretation on this. Very well could be... I read it a little differently. Here is how I would have read this...

What is the best thing to do about a friend?"

Hmmm... 48 unchanging. The well, to me, is about the need to reach deep down, get in touch with your own well, the source of who you are and spiritual power. Could mean get to the source of the relationship... What has fed this relationship in the past? Where are it's roots? Where does the life come from? Or could simply mean that as you get in touch more and more with your own source, and are able to bring that depth to the surface, your friend will come around as well... Maybe new ideas, different ways of thinking, parts of yourself that have been hidden from this friendship in the past. Suggests to me what this friendship needs is more depth! What kind of projects do you work on together? Is there a way to create a deeper relationship through these collaborations?

"What is my friend's attitude toward me?"

You got 47 unchanging... Makes sense, considering you received 48 UC for what to do. I don't think this means they don't want to work with you or have had it with the association. Perhaps they are just looking for deeper connections right now. Is that possible? Or are just very tired, and feel oppressed by having to see anyone right now... Who knows why?

So, I do see that this does call for a little time out to replenish the well. But, I think it may also call for a deeper connection. Let us know what happens

Kind of is a tricky one Precision Grace. Good luck figuring it out

 

[precision grace]

thanks dwf, it's an interesting perspective. I'm not sure what 'more depth' would mean here but I do find that people expect, when they meet me, to discover these hidden depths and what not but then are disappointed when it turns out that everything there is has been on display all along.

I'm not very good at developing relationships. Recently a psychic told me I've become stuck and need to re-learn how to be outgoing and not so reserved and make an effort. Evidently, I don't realise I have this bubble around me. And I thought I was making all this effort and doing so well...

 

[goddessliss]

I'm not very good at developing relationships. Recently a psychic told me I've become stuck and need to re-learn how to be outgoing and not so reserved and make an effort. Evidently, I don't realise I have this bubble around me. And I thought I was making all this effort and doing so well...

precision grace this is exactly where I was for a long time - especially after my long term marriage ended and I had only been in codependant relationships all my life even with gf's I was very needy because of all my 'upbringing issues etc.'
Maybe that's not your issue to why your having trouble creating good relationships but I hope if gives you a reference point to start with - what I'm trying to say that it was my patterning that I needed to change.

So if this is truth then that would be my understanding of DWF's interpretation - Liss

 

[dancing white ferret]

Hmmm... Well, I think everyone has at least some hidden depths, and as we delve deeper into ourselves, these things just naturally spring to the surface. I'm not sure exactly what this depth contains either, but I think it may just be referring to some unrealized potential inside you. Who knows what it is? How could we? I think the question is more how to tap into this part of yourself. For me it is writing, drawing, arts and crafts... these things make me feel alive, bring me a feeling of peace, like I've released some tension, clears my mind, and allows me fresh and super positive perspective. And I have something to show for it in the end. Something I made, and I think there is a power in those creations. Is there anything that does that for you? Or anything you have felt drawn to lately for no explicable reason? Perhaps this reading is talking more about you than your friendship with this person. Could be about friendships in general... I wonder if you are able to tap into this creative potential, well, what I suspect is creative potential, my fellow fire sign, what might happen? Maybe this new life force would be the start of some fresh, lively, natural connections with new people. With 48 and 47 coming up like that, I wonder if you are looking for this source of vitality in your friendships totally without realizing it, or being distracted from it by just hanging out with the same old friends doing the same old things... but what you are looking for isn't there. It's in you. 47 could simply mean you can't get what you want with this friend, and maybe they know it. What you need is in the well. If this were my reading, I would certainly consider that. And you'll always have us Clarity members... OK Bubble Girl LOL, JK, of course

 

[precision grace]

precision grace this is exactly where I was for a long time - especially after my long term marriage ended and I had only been in codependant relationships all my life even with gf's I was very needy because of all my 'upbringing issues etc.'
Maybe that's not your issue to why your having trouble creating good relationships but I hope if gives you a reference point to start with - what I'm trying to say that it was my patterning that I needed to change.

So if this is truth then that would be my understanding of DWF's interpretation - Liss

Wow, that's actually pretty accurate apart from gfs part - I don't really have any and I wish I had some to be clingy with lol

How did you break your patterns?

 

[precision grace]

Hmmm... Well, I think everyone has at least some hidden depths, and as we delve deeper into ourselves, these things just naturally spring to the surface. I'm not sure exactly what this depth contains either, but I think it may just be referring to some unrealized potential inside you. Who knows what it is? How could we? I think the question is more how to tap into this part of yourself. For me it is writing, drawing, arts and crafts... these things make me feel alive, bring me a feeling of peace, like I've released some tension, clears my mind, and allows me fresh and super positive perspective. And I have something to show for it in the end. Something I made, and I think there is a power in those creations. Is there anything that does that for you? Or anything you have felt drawn to lately for no explicable reason? Perhaps this reading is talking more about you than your friendship with this person. Could be about friendships in general... I wonder if you are able to tap into this creative potential, well, what I suspect is creative potential, my fellow fire sign, what might happen? Maybe this new life force would be the start of some fresh, lively, natural connections with new people. With 48 and 47 coming up like that, I wonder if you are looking for this source of vitality in your friendships totally without realizing it, or being distracted from it by just hanging out with the same old friends doing the same old things... but what you are looking for isn't there. It's in you. 47 could simply mean you can't get what you want with this friend, and maybe they know it. What you need is in the well. If this were my reading, I would certainly consider that. And you'll always have us Clarity members... OK Bubble Girl LOL, JK, of course

Ahh my lovely sister from another continent

Do you know something weird? I talked to two psychics this year and both of them - first thing they said to me was : i don't know if you do anything creative, like writing, but you should. Haha And yes, my writing has been lagging a lot this year

So, back to this friend, sort of. I started writing this story about 5 years ago that I never finished. Tried to finish it many times but never could - something to do with not having a good handle on the main character, a boy. Even posted for help on here. Good fun that was )))
Well, today, I accidentally came across the manuscript for this story and thought to myself - is my new friend this character!? (because I figured I had been waiting to meet this person in real life before I could complete the story). I even asked Yi if he is my Hero and Yi said 14.1>50

Now, there is a lot I can get out of this association but I guess the problem is that there is nothing worthwhile that he can get - hence 47. Still. If this means I get to finish my story and get out of the bubble - I must find a way!!

Thank you my lovely clarity friend Hope all is well with you?

 

[bamboo]

I have been reading Grace's blog and she is dynamite writer. so funny. so honest.

 

[goddessliss]

Wow, that's actually pretty accurate apart from gfs part - I don't really have any and I wish I had some to be clingy with lol

How did you break your patterns?

A lot of hard work but well worth it. The tools/resources I used were first and foremost -

Self responsibility all the way
Flower Essences cause theyr'e all about changing your mindset(to what is positive)
Any time anyone is critical of self, look at it, analyse it and see if it's true - if it's true and you want to change that aspect of yourself - then as above
Definitely the IChing - if you ask a question and/or you post it on here listen to what is being said
counselling
art therapy
Learn to NOT judge others, situations or self - totally go into observation mode instead

hope this helps
- Liss