relationship 51.1.4 > 2 soul searching...

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could x be my soul mate? 51.2.4 > 2

Shocking - and being receptive hmm... I was shocked that he contacted me after a long time, I was forceful after our weekend together 2 years back and didn't want to let him go, he said he couldn't do long distance, something may have scared him and he got with someone else that summer, about 7 months later, but I kind of thought he may come back to me and they did indeed break up. line 2 says:

When tumultuous events strip you of what is rightfully yours, it is of no use to contend with the prevailing forces while the storm is yet raging. Retire to the mountaintop temporarily: take the high ground. In the end, after the storm has passed, this strategy will result in a full restoration of all that is rightfully yours without need for contention. Confronting uncontrollable forces when they are at their peak only brings misfortune and loss.
*I have stood back and am not really speaking with him at the moment, something is holding me back for now.
Line 4
A nimble mind evades on-rushing fate much as a matador swings away from the charging bull. But even a nimble mind can become mired in the muck of jarring circumstances. Sometimes when you are stuck in a situation, you become a target for the bullhorns of fate. If only you had a clear problem, you could do something about it. For now, just try to keep your wits about you.
*Maybe this could mean problem with the distance between us and my negativity. Not feeling good enough for him sometimes.

I know its a long shot but I've never had such a strong connection with someone and thought there's no harm in asking. We haven't seen each other for a couple of years now. We live 5 hours apart so it was difficult to establish anything without moving, we were both quite young back then too. I class our first meeting as very magical and we share the same birthdays! He's keen to meet up with me and asked numerous times last year and this month but I'm not in the right frame of mind at the moment and don't want to mess things up, feeling a bit scared.

I then asked for guidance on whether we share the same feelings towards one another and received
hexagram 61.3.4 > 1

He was listening to a song yesterday which I listened to and made me feel it was about me. It mentioned meeting in December, say you'll remember etc... and we first met in December, a very deep song it is too..

I also asked about future for us and got

43,2,6 > 13

43 Line 2
Determination requires sensitivity, readiness and caution. Expect the unexpected, moving through life with the calm alertness of someone driving through a mountain forest at night, watchful for movement around each new bend in the road. Be optimistic, but take care. A strong character will triumph.
43 Line 6
The image is of someone who seems to have overcome adversity, and is ready to begin anew. But beware -- the seed of negativity still remains, and a lax attitude is precisely what allows destructive forces to reassert themselves. Thoroughness is required when preparing new soil, so that the remnant seeds of past problems are not allowed to sprout up again. When starting a new project after solving a problem, take care to see that destructive tendencies in your personality are overcome or balanced at the beginning.

That one seems quite negative.... can anyone help me with this?

13 Line 6 explains the situation?!
The strongest bond on earth is the one between two human hearts that have come to know and share each other's inmost thoughts and desires. Though separated by circumstances or fate; though divided by differences of opinion; though angered by each other's behavior -- if the bond is true, nothing can break it. This type of union may cause some sadness and difficulty, but in the end brings the sweetest joy known to humankind.

It's weird that these feelings have never gone away on my side. I have never felt anything bad towards him as a person and even though hes not with me, i really hope hes enjoying life and happy. Usually I would experience jealousy and other negative emotions with men, but not towards him. It's almost like it was love at first sight - if that exists ;-)

Maybe i'm just crackers and it's all in my head or im wanting to believe its positive because of my feelings. If you have negative or positive insight, it's much appreciated. I dont want to meet him again if nothing furthers or his intentions are casual because it took me months and months to stop thinking of him all the time after our last meeting. x

 

[Cathalina]

It's funny because others have told me the I-ching is not as negative or positive but neutral. It's funny how hard to see it that way when it's YOUR reading but how easy it is to see it that way when it's someone else's reading.

For your first question... well I don't really like your question. Soulmate is a strong word. But perhaps that is a matter of personal opinion. As for your answer, I don't think it's neither positive or negative... it just is. It acknowledges that there is something 'special' about this person. You yourself said your feelings for him have been different. You are special to him too. I wouldn't take that as a soulmate (maybe UNLESS it was paired with hex 53 and something else... something really obvious). Don't get me wrong, I am NOT saying he is NOT your soulmate either, I just think that is a stretch and the I-ching doesn't make these stretches. It just speaks of what is. Something is there, yes.


As for if the feelings are mutual... I don't know, deep down YOU know. My best guess (from the limited context of what you are saying and from Hex 1) he DOES feel something for you (hex 1 - energy, potential) but is NOT as strong as what you feel for him. So both have feelings for each other but not exactly mutual. Line 4 warns "one must recognize the source of one's power in order to maintain it. When your ego takes credit for progress, misfortune follows". You 'felt' that song was about you... maybe you were looking too much into it. Again, not to say he does NOT like you, I think he does, but you are making more of it than it is. Be careful not to get carried away or expect too much or too soon!

Now for the one you actually asked advice for...
Your future... 43,2,6 > 13
Line 2 is a warning. Line 6 is also a warning: "the situation seems resolved but may not be." I think you're missing something. Maybe you think things mean something... and to some extent, they might, but that's not the whole picture. They don't mean exactly what you think. Again, I can't emphasize this enough, I honestly don't think the Iching is telling you he doesn't like you or that there is no future at all... maybe there is, maybe there isn't, but given the step you are in right now it seems like the next one is NOT as promising as you think it is. This one is tied to fellowship with others... maybe he wants friendship right now. Maybe friendship is the only thing circumstances will allow. Maybe he just wants to see what options there are, play the field, given he just got out of a break up. I'm not sure.

Anyway, i hope I helped. It would be great if you could give a follow up, I'd love to know how on or off I was. Best of luck, okay?