Relationship Confusion

[ariel13]

Hello there everyone,
I was wondering if you could offer some insight into a reading.

I have a friend who I have been mostly professionally affiliated with for the last year, but we have started to hang out more socially in the last 6 months although, most of the social gatherings have been work related.

I still think of this person as a friend, but I also have had some feelings for him. They've been a bit hot and cold since the initial attraction, because I keep sort of noticing little things that bother me about his behavior...

But the attraction is still there and strong, and I am still very curious.. He asked me to go have a drink with him on Saturday but then sort of blew it off. Said he got busy working, which I believe because he is a little bit of a workaholic (one of the things that sort of makes me shy away from considering him romantically). But I just found the whole interaction and his behavior so strange.

He went out of his way to come and visit me unexpectedly, asked me out for a drink and then blew it off.

I'm just confused. I want to like this person (as a friend if nothing else), but I thought this was pretty rude and was perplexed by it.

I asked the iching "what is his attitude towards me?" and got hexagram 7.2.

Then I asked directly, "Why did he blow off hanging out with me?" and got hex 61.1.2.3.6

I would appreciate any insights you may have!

:bows:

Jen

 

[pocossin]

What is his attitude towards me?
7.2 > 2

From the situation, ambivalent. The casting suggests competition. Is he defending his turf?

Why did he blow off hanging out with me?
61.1.2.3.6 > 39

This is already answered by the first casting. Inner nature and struggling within himself. Your friendship won't progress until he stabilizes.

 

[Tim K]

What is his attitude towards me? 7.2 > 2
First thing that came into my mind - he treats you like a good colleague. Side by side in the heat of a battle. Good start for a romantic relationship.

Nigel Richmond:
3. The general is in the centre of his army. The king makes three awards.
three means change, his attitude is improving.

Why did he blow off hanging out with me? 61.1.2.3.6 > 39

I couldn't believe my eyes when I read Legge's lines:
1. Shows its subject resting (in himself). There will be good fortune. If he sought to any other, he would not find rest.
There he was, alone and self-absorbed.

2. Shows its subject (like) the crane crying out in her hidden retirement, and her young ones responding to her. (It is as if it were said), 'I have a cup of good spirits,' (and the response were), 'I will partake of it with you.'
Then he decided to ask you out for a drink, and you said yes.

3. Shows its subject having met with his mate. Now he beats his drum, and now he leaves off. Now he weeps, and now he sings.
But then he changed his mind, because his mood is unstable.

6. Shows its subject in chanticleer (trying to) mount to heaven. Even with firm correctness there will be evil.
I think this line is about him being a workaholic, trying to earn money too much too soon maybe?

So Yi just have told your story and confirmed it.
He is not that much interested in you, yet. Currently his job is more important, but he does not mind getting to know you better. I think he'll try to ask you out again.

 

[ariel13]

Hi Asteroid and Poccosin,
Thanks for your responses. Wow Ashteroid, that interpretation is uncanny! Although Im not sure I believe the part about him trying again. Poccossin, hmm competition? I dont know.. I could interpret that a couple of ways.. For one, we are both artists so there is the possibility that he feels professionally competitive with me. Then there is the possibility that he is interested in someone else and that person came along that night. Its hard to explain why, but I felt strongly that he was lying that night (although I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt). But I think I can confirm my instinct is correct now. I ran into a mutual friend of ours last night (also an artist). She said she had some awkward experience with him where he tried to kiss her and then immediately messaged her the next day saying he thought it wasnt a good idea to date bc they are both sculptors who make similar work. Its funny I had such a crush on him at that time. And I knew they had scheduled a studio visit on a particular night. I actually felt a sharp pain in my gut at one point that evening but was never able to confirm the reason for it until now. I had that that same weird feeling in my gut when he sent me the text saying he was busy working. Its weird, although we dont have a romantic connection I guess I am still some how psychically in tune w him. Ugh I think I will just write him off personally though bc hes just been rude and weird w me, and its uncalled for.