relationship / interpretation question ...

[ajriel]

Sorry to bring up another relationship problem but I'm stumped ...

I returned to I Ching after a number of years away (runes, tarot, astrology) when a friend reminded me of the focus and strength of the direction inherent.

I've been looking for something to "do" about a rapidly deteriorating personal relationship (one that I know is quite precious to us both). Been taking a daily casting for focus of the day - return?/ending?/transforming? where the other person is very closed to me, but won't actually go away, nor will accept my departure (hence the daily castings looking for a right time or right approach to heal this ...... whatever-it-is-now).

Usually, it's something I can follow or understand readily (even the moving lines), but today -- not so much.

Today I got #8 (Pi / Holding Together; single moving line = 6 in fourth place) which, imhe, changes to #45 (Ts'ui / Gathering Together). Both are K'un on the bottom and both are water on top, in different degrees (essenses?) -- I have a feel for where the direction lays, but I'm stuck on this:

Based on my query ("What do I do about (B) now?"), who is the "man of strong will" / "central figure around whom other persons may unite" (Wilhelm/Baynes). Is that him (definitely the centre of his own dramas - this one included)? Or me, since I'm the one that seems to be more in control of the situation (albeit from a passive position) and able to see & make change that would bring the union into place?

Is there finally something I can do or am I to wait for him to do? If either, is there a time frame? Can you tell I've become impatient with this situation? <lol!>

Or <sigh> have I got it entirely wrong (also something not unfamiliar!)?

Thank you for any insights you have -- I'm enjoying reading the forum and learning from your posts & replies.


Ajriel :bows:

 

[willowfox]

Based on my query ("What do I do about (B) now?"), who is the "man of strong will" / "central figure around whom other persons may unite" (Wilhelm/Baynes). Is that him (definitely the centre of his own dramas - this one included)? Or me, since I'm the one that seems to be more in control of the situation (albeit from a passive position) and able to see & make change that would bring the union into place?

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You said that your answer was line 8.4 so where do you get the "man of strong will" from?
As line 8.4 says to stay with him, show him that you are not going to leave him.

 

[ajriel]

Thank you, willowfox ~~ I now understand the numbering being used and I've learned to apply the line(s) as opposed to sifting through the whole description.

Just to follow up ... I did what 8.4 said, told the man I love him & reminded him of a conversation had long ago and that I want to follow through on that (it's complicated). Suffice to say ~~ this opened up conversation on a much more real & personal level than for weeks (nee, months!) recently. It also solidified in my heart and mind that, with the words, so goes my commitment.

I'm feeling very favoured today and enjoying my new insights into daily casting. <grin>


Again, Thanks,
Ajriel