Relationship shift hex 17- 7

[brainfloat]

I asked the IC if I should end my 3 year relationship. were both growing and changing and this is great I'm just uneasy- not sure if we can endure this shift as I only know our old dynamics. We kind have to start over as if we just met. I find myself trying to either cling too tightly to the past or think that everything I have and everything I am right now will completely change and just sit in that agonizing empty fog.

I got hex 17 (following)with lines 1, 2, 4, & 5 changing to hex 7(army)..im completely lost with these could mean for me. Help?

 

[folledeschiele]

Hi there,
I see this as saying that you have outgrown the relationship and shouldn't be afraid to let it go/find something or someone more suitable for who you've become. Line 1 talks of "the standards changing" and relations between leaders and followers changing. Line 2 says you must give up "the little boy" if you want to meet the strong man (meaning you've outgrown this and to find someone more compatible with who you've become, you must give up attachments that no longer suit). Line 4 hints at followers who have attached themselves without being sincere and a need for you to free yourself of these entanglements, while line 5 talks of following your innermost needs and convictions and having faith in life (a very positive and inspiring line which always reminds me of "The Fool" or "the Star" in Tarot: don't be afraid of the emptiness, just jump into the abyss and have faith in new beginnings and in life!).

Changing hexagram 7: discipline and determination in doing what's right for you.

This is my take on your question, in any case. What do you think it's saying?

 

[brainfloat]

Thanks for your insight though it feels like a punch in my gut i know your interpretation holds alot of truth. Im just torn..(maybe cause im being an overly hopeful little girl)lol between whether I need to let go of that little boy completely..or just that part of him..that idea of him-that I need to embrace him as he is now..more mature and independant. Doing this doesnt gaurentee our relationship which is scary..thats the abyss for me. So though im not letting go im such a final way..im gunna have to let go of the 'story' of us..and our past .this could either be beautiful and transforming or end us. And no matter what I need to be sincere with him and myself and do whatever it is that feels right. I definatley am a follower but I feel at a cell level thats changing

 

[brainfloat]

I used to have intense and unhealthy aversions to change. my mental health was pretttttty questionable ha. so I feel like I I could die if I have some big change..obviously i wont..its just a gut wrenching feeling . Almost like an ego death..like im losing my identity.logically I know the universe will bring me to where i need to be and all pain leads somewhere..its just differant in my relationship. One second I feel were perfect for each other..the next i feel were horrible for each other and im fooling myself. Then i realize im constantly projecting and most my issues are self created.

This is why I want the restart. I feel transformed and I dont want to regret never seeing how the new us are together..i feel we could have a pure strong new connection..or find were just not what each other wants..but I need to know. Am I being naive and not objectively interpreting the IC enough? Lol

 

[brainfloat]

I used to have intense and unhealthy aversions to change. my mental health was pretttttty questionable ha. so I feel like I could die if I have some big change..obviously i wont..its just a gut wrenching feeling . Almost like an ego death..like im losing my identity.logically I know the universe will bring me to where i need to be and all pain leads somewhere..its just differant in my relationship. One second I feel were perfect for each other..the next i feel were horrible for each other and im fooling myself. Then i realize im constantly projecting and most my issues are self created. I can be alone ..i love my alone time..but this would be a major loss for me as hes my best.friend

This is why I want the restart. I feel transformed and I dont want to regret never seeing how the new us are together..i feel we could have a pure strong new connection..or find were just not what each other wants..but I need to know. Am I being naive and not objectively interpreting the IC enough? Lol

 

[chingching]

Follow the leader

I think its interesting to to look at your question as though it was "if I should end my 3 year relationship" ... what would happen, as well. I really like what you and folledschiele have said. As an another way to look at at it, the highest outcome of this question (in an overview way) could mean if you should end up ending this relationship you would be following your inner leader. (But I'm certainly not saying that this reading is outright saying for you to end a relationship.) And then looking at it again in the original context in which you asked, no matter what you actually end up choosing to do, there is a picture of you taking charge. And doing this is the way folledschiele already pointed out through the progression of the advice in the changing lines.

I suppose thats the easiest way to embrace change, to hold to your inner leader, who has that faith in life, if you hold to your fears you fall off the cliff, but if you hold to your heart you just might fly.