Relationship Twist

[malka]

Last summer I introduced myself on this forum for the first time as I worked through the end of a relationship (his choice.) We've had no contact since. Then two weeks ago I had a coincidental, "it's a small-world" online contact with this man (that included him giving me his mother's phone number to call about something she was selling that I needed) and now he's sent me an invite to a party at his home.

First, I'm not sure if I even want to open this door again. (He is a lovely man, despite his poor choice to let me go after a brief relationship!) Second, I'm not sure what this invitation is really about: Opening a door for romance? Just being a nice guy? We are not in the same circle of friends at all, yet I do have knowledge that he is not in a relationship, but has had a few short tries since we split. So I consulted Yi and received some "shocking" advice. I asked three related questions about what's going on. Here are my results:

1. Help me to understand what is behind X's invitation? 48.3.5 > 7

I mostly just interpret this as, he's having a big party and gathering the masses. And his party is at a lake - the well? Or maybe it's a gathering of people he considers resources, or his foundation?

2. Why did X invite me - what outcome does he want with me? 51.4 >24

This sounds to me (but I'm too close) like taking action to create a shocking new birth, and a return to the beginning of a relationship? Or, is it to create a new kind of relaitonship, either a better romantic one, or a friendship instead? But if for friendship, really why would he bother? (After already sleeping with a woman, how many men put effort into becoming "friends" with her a year later?)

3. What about X and me? 16.1 > 51

Perhaps this is a warning to not become too excited about the invitation. Or, it may be a call to take action to bring about delight, and to not delay for fear of misfortune?

Please help me to see what is here.

Thank you and blessings,
Malka

 

[martin]

Hi Malka,

My gut feeling about 48 to 7 is that he thought about contacting you earlier but felt uncertain about it and didn't quite know how.
The coincidental contact presented him with an opportunity and he seized it.

51 to 24: it looks to me like he acted on impulse and has no clear idea about what may happen.
He probably hopes that something good will come of it, but apart from that it's open ended.

16 to 51: I agree with 'not become too excited'. Better go without expectations and wait and see(if you accept the invitation).