Relationship...?

[herrmyte]

Hi All,
I have been in contact with somebody for about a year and a half with gaps mostly via email and text. She has just ended a 10 year relationship (I think the whole thing started during an initial breakup but I dont know for sure)- shes 24 and we've been out twice since she ended her relationship in couples therapy. I know theres at least one other guy around but I think strong feelings exist between us. I am interested in a relationship eventually ideally but given the circumstances... So I asked the I-Ching yesterday:

What is her position? 63.4 -> 49
What is my position? 63.4 -> 49
What is our position? 18.2 -> 52

And today I asked:

An image showing the possibility of anything serious between us? 48.3.4.5.6 -> 64

Any thoughts or advice? I think maybe 48 -> 64 bodes well but overall it seems precarious with perceptible potential according to these readings. Any other perspectives, advice or testimonials are definitely appreciated. Thanks All

 

[proserpine]

Hermyte,I understand why'd you feel that none but the Well changing to Not Yet Across was very positive.
I might've too.;-)
But I also know that the Yi answers not just some flat or vague yes or no about a relationship or situation, it answers for all things considered--often covering emotional, physical and spiritual..
You asked about your end and her end of things and it was the exact same reading!
That surely tells us something, right?
Anyway, in my experience 63 is something that works or worked, and with changing line 4, would refer to a problem or at least a *situation* that would need to be 'tuned' periodically, or watched etc for signs of deterioration.Another possibility is that unbeknownst to you now, in time you'll not want more with her.
Because, changing to #49 could mean various things of course, but could mean things change drastically in some way, could be many different things ways of course.
I've also known it to mean at times that the relationship reverses in nature or structure--in other words, if I was always waiting and wondering what someone thought of me and if he cared--49 meant soon *he* would be the one in that position.
And, really it wasn't a pleasant thing for long, though you might at 1st think so.
But I don't know that that's the case with you 2 of course---just that things will likely change in some big way between you or because of the relationship.
Getting back to #63 line 4 again, is there any problem she has or you have that would need continuous work?(That's not always a negative either--shared interests and problems too can bring a lot of deep caring).
It also is something to be aware of though.
That whatever "it" is, you both woud need to stay on top of it, or the fire will boil the water away, and/or the fire will boil the water over and put out the fire.What do you think?WIshing you luck no matter.

 

[willowfox]

Her position is that a relationship has ended and she is on the verge of significant life changes as are you but you need to understand why she broke up with the other, the need to understand the underlining reason that could in the future affect any relationship that you may have with her.
In this situation, the past could well affect both your futures, as the possibility of something growing here is certainly possible but Hex 64 signals caution is needed before proceeding too far. You need more information about her past so that you don't get into the same trouble like the last guy did.