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Well... now at the beginning of my life's fourth decade, I'm not in the place I expected to be years ago as a successful student; nor what others predicted about my future came true- my current life even doesn't look like what strangers have guessed about it (before getting close to me) in recent years!

I was supposed to have a good job with a reasonable income, be recognized in my field, and have a successful love/family life.
Now I have a modest job with low income, recognition is coming very slowly, and never had any long-term relationship, let alone a happy family life of my own.

I asked "What prevented me from having the life I expected?" and got 48.3> 29
The source was there, but without any clear vision to draw its water?
It's about past; so not that important...

Then I asked: "How should I remove the blockage in the way of my expected life?" and got 49.1.4> 39
Looking at previous posts with same cast, the message seems to be: although I want a radical change, it's impossible; so I've better to change my view and struggle with current obstacles:confused:😔

One of my saddest readings ever I guess. Sometimes I ask myself what the benefit of education and cultural investment was, if I am destined to have a mediocre life?
 
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What prevented me from having the life I expected? 48.3 > 29
The past is always important, it teaches us how to proceed. So what prevented you? There's a great fresh source of water, but the king is bonkers and doesn't make use of it, which creates sadness and leads to danger. Who is this crazy stupid king? A king is high authority. If it's literal, think of who used to have command of your life. An incompetent parent perhaps? If it's metaphorical, think of your inner ruling thoughts. Mind you, talking about inner ruling thoughts, in psychology some of those thoughts are called the superego (thoughts implanted there by parents and society).
I, like you, was made to believe that I would have great success professionally, that I would certainly have a family and children, that life is fair, that life is beautiful, that everything happens for a reason, and a lot of other similar modern western garbage. A quick sober look at recent history, and even at the news worldwide as we speak, show a totally different picture. That most greatly successful people are kissing-up frauds, that families are infested with pathologies and both parents and children suffer and separate, that life is unfair, that life is one tough journey, and that there's no reason at all for senseless wars, famine, imprisonments of innocent people, torture, unemployment, random disease at any age and background, and so on.
So, what prevented you? The 'authority' in your life is wrong. Re-think your parents and/or your superego.

How should I remove the blockage in the way of my expected life? 49.1.4 > 39
This is showing you exactly what attitude is creating the blockage. 49.1 is being wrapped up in luxury, most probably being complacent with the wealth you already possess. The person in 49.1 doesn't want to make a move because they're all cosy right where they are. Plus, the yellow hide feels protective. Then all of a sudden, and abruptly, the person goes directly to the extreme of turning the tables, of creating a coup-d-etat, just like that. It's quite a strange sequence, like a leisurely lady lying on the couch covered in fur in one minute, and in the next minute springing up and announcing a revolution and wanting to take the upper hand. The result is blockage, things can't change in this unusual manner. So to remove the blockage, re-think your so-far behaviours and reactions. Do you usually put up with things for too long, till you explode and suddenly demand change? Obviously this is not the way to go. Once you've processed that, then perhaps you can ask further questions as how to learn a better strategy.

Anyway this is getting too long, I hope it makes sense for you. It's a huge subject... it requires so much work to sort out our 'thoughts' and figure out which of those are truly our own, and which implanted. I hope I've helped even a bit!

"Sometimes I ask myself what the benefit of education and cultural investment was, if I am destined to have a mediocre life? " - again, mediocre according to whose criteria? Do you trully crave these things with your whole being? Or is it just what the script had for you? Each to their own - this scenario of steady job and wonderful family is extremely rare. People find loads of pleasure in a variety of activities which are not to the script. A mediocre life can be blissful, depending on circumstances. Let me know your thoughts on all this.
 
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:???::???: why are you the outside of your life judging it as not measuring up ? It's your life and few people have life turn out as expected and you seem to be counting up all the things you don't have you feel you should have. I think you have to turn it around and see where you are is where you are meant to be.


I'm afraid the below sentence annoys me a little bit

I was supposed to have a good job with a reasonable income, be recognized in my field, and have a successful love/family life.

Why do you think you were 'supposed to have' all those things ? Even if you had them you would still have had loss and troubles, why do you believe in this sort of perfect life. As long as you keep on believing in this and torturing yourself with it you won't be happy. I don't have a good job with a reasonable income, am not recognised in any field, have had long term relationships that ended...but I often feel happy. Happiness does not live in all these shining images you have of 'successful love life' etc etc


The readings aren't very sad at all


I asked "What prevented me from having the life I expected?" and got 48.3> 29
The source was there, but without any clear vision to draw its water?
It's about past; so not that important...

Well please perhaps take this as present advice. Your cup is full, you have much wealth if only you could see it. If you have freedom, health, enough to eat, so much but you keep on saying you don't have this perfect life. You did choose on some level to be where you are now for a reason, your reason, continually matching it against shiny images of perfect life and bewailing the fact you don't have it can only hurt you. Who the heck gets the life they expected ? I don't know anybody who did. People die, people's children die, people lose jobs, get sick - where do you get all this stuff about these perfect people from ?

Then I asked: "How should I remove the blockage in the way of my expected life?" and got 49.1.4> 39
Looking at previous posts with same cast, the message seems to be: although I want a radical change, it's impossible; so I've better to change my view and struggle with current obstacles:confused:😔

it's a great answer where do you get sad from ? It's talking about a radical change of government, a radical change of standards, a radical change of the governing principles in your life. It's early days (49.1) but there is coming a time for quite a change (49.4). It's difficult for you as you believe you struggle on alone (39) but that can change. 39 is not the future. Where on earth do you get this ide aof 'impossible' from - it's not there at all.

To say it's one of your saddest readings ever is frankly quite absurd.


Sometimes I ask myself what the benefit of education and cultural investment was, if I am destined to have a mediocre life?

So what's a mediocre life ? Billions of people get education yet cannot find a place in the world that satisfies them, it's part of the human condition. I think you are feeling overly sorry for yourself.
 
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Great question! I bet there are a lot of us who are looking around their lives in this crazy time and asking "What the heck happened??" Trying to see what your I Ching hexagrams might be saying:

48.3 suggests to me that although you've got what it takes, somehow - like a rock star in a backwoods cafe - you haven't had the right connections. 29 makes me think it's not to late to take some steps. You've got success in your heart, don't be shy!

How to remove the suspected blockage?
49.1 Gently. Not appropriate to quit your job and join the circus but this line does encourage you to put yourself out there more. And get yourself some really comfortable new shoes!
40.4 Fabulous line directing you to make changes! What do you think the "form of government" might refer to here? Something outside yourself is no longer serving you and needs to go. Your job? Your daily routine? Your diet? Your drugs? Whatever, it's a very encouraging omen for you being able to re-design your life!

39. Obstruction and how to deal with it.
I look at 39 as being the space between leaving home and the out with the old (37. Parents, 38. Siblings), but we haven't yet broken through to the in with the new (40). There's a tendency to try to go it alone so the advice is specifically to find friends - perhaps a class from an inspirational, motivational teacher?

Bottom line, I say these hexagrams are telling you your life didn't turn out as expected because you were raised to live in a world that just simply doesn't exist anymore - if it ever did - and now you have to give yourself permission to stop waiting for that Knight, or that dream job or whatever it was that never came to The Well at 48.3. So save yourself. Change your clothes, change your religion. Dare to boldly go where no one has ever gone before. If you don't give up, it gets better.
 
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Thanks friends!
While the question and the situation around it were less than enchanting, I'm excited to see three of Clarity's most experienced, helpful members replying to it with long, detailed answers:flirt:
 

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If it's literal, think of who used to have command of your life. An incompetent parent perhaps? If it's metaphorical, think of your inner ruling thoughts.
At this point of my life, the authority is internal even if real people had a prominent role in shaping it. As you know, it's not easy to separate the components after the Super-ego is shaped. Now, to limit myself to the question and try to find a practical answer, I can speak about thoughts. Sometimes (not always) I'd been negative, overly negative- maybe it's been a preventing factor?However can't say how much the negativity was "wrong" given the external conditions.
like you, was made to believe that I would have great success professionally, that I would certainly have a family and children, that life is fair, that life is beautiful, that everything happens for a reason, and a lot of other similar modern western garbage. A quick sober look at recent history, and even at the news worldwide as we speak, show a totally different picture.
I see. I think many of us, if not all, dream about a perfect life; it's a part of story. The other part prevented me from imagining much of a dreamy life for the future: I grown up in a working-class neighborhood and despite artistic, cultural tendencies in my family, I had to deal with people with different backgrounds in a tough outer world. I'm not offending the working class: I & my best friends come from there. You find good & bad people in all social layers. The matter is, the harsh reality being more visible there, you can't see the life with rosy glasses.
Then I entered the adult life and had my share of facing aggressive people, liars, hard situations, heartbreaks, etc.
I write that to say by talking about my expected life I don't mean a Hollywood movie life.
49.1 is being wrapped up in luxury, most probably being complacent with the wealth you already possess. The person in 49.1 doesn't want to make a move because they're all cosy right where they are. Plus, the yellow hide feels protective. Then all of a sudden, and abruptly, the person goes directly to the extreme of turning the tables, of creating a coup-d-etat, just like that. It's quite a strange sequence, like a leisurely lady lying on the couch covered in fur in one minute, and in the next minute springing up and announcing a revolution and wanting to take the upper hand.
Yes, I do have such a tendency. Well, in my attempts to create change, I sometimes realized the outcome didn't bring me satisfaction, only external approval; so decided to save what I found really valuable rather than striving for outward success.
I hope I've helped even a bit!
Helpful indeed!
again, mediocre according to whose criteria?
By mediocre I mean less than what could be; like a potential being semi-realized. Then who sets the criteria? Again, I'm not fully aware of influences in my life. I just know I don't feel secure enough financially; nor am I romantically satisfied as i haven't found a good partner. All I could was to shun harmful people so that they don't destroy what I already have.
Do you trully crave these things with your whole being? Or is it just what the script had for you? Each to their own - this scenario of steady job and wonderful family is extremely rare.
Some of my choices opposed the script and I don't regret it. But I haven't even secured the life I find compatible with my personal values.
People find loads of pleasure in a variety of activities which are not to the script. A mediocre life can be blissful, depending on circumstances. Let me know your thoughts on all this.
As I said, mediocre doesn't mean unconventional; it means lacking the elements you find personally satisfying. For example, a cheep, strange life in downtown with all cultural centers, odd people and counterculture can be ideal for an artist.
 

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Why do you think you were 'supposed to have' all those things ? Even if you had them you would still have had loss and troubles, why do you believe in this sort of perfect life.
I saw the potential, as I wrote in my reply to diamanda, to live the life I wanted: to be financially secure and have a satisfying love life- in other words, why not getting there? I especially used the alternative "love/family [life]" to put emphasis on romantic fulfillment instead of structure.
If you have freedom, health, enough to eat, so much but you keep on saying you don't have this perfect life.
I absolutely agree that these are the main materials, so to speak, of happiness; and always tried to go out of situations that [risked to] harm them even if the outer image was fascinating.
It's early days (49.1) but there is coming a time for quite a change (49.4). It's difficult for you as you believe you struggle on alone (39) but that can change.
Yes I've felt as I was struggling more or less alone from the very beginning of young adulthood. I wanted to have a lifestyle different from what was going on my surroundings with all the traditional values I refused to accept. It's been more than a decade, and I tell you absolutely nothing happened during its first half. So frustrating for an inexperienced girl eager to change everything without knowing how. Maybe the only benefit was to be assured I didn't want that type of life. Stable friends with similar values/preferences appeared after I hit 25. Then I started to find helpers and places to concretely change my lifestyle- but am not there yet.
So what's a mediocre life ?
I explained what I consider to be a mediocre life in my last post (in reply to diamanda who asked the same question).
48.3 suggests to me that although you've got what it takes, somehow - like a rock star in a backwoods cafe - you haven't had the right connections. 29 makes me think it's not to late to take some steps. You've got success in your heart, don't be shy!
Yes I've been there- maybe still am? As told to Trojina, I found people with similar tendencies somehow late (childhood friends weren't best friends as I grew up with different values, then preferred a lifestyle even different from what I was raised to live). I met lots of people who didn't share my views: a repeated pattern (29) of wrong connections.
What do you think the "form of government" might refer to here? Something outside yourself is no longer serving you and needs to go. Your job? Your daily routine? Your diet? Your drugs? Whatever, it's a very encouraging omen for you being able to re-design your life!
Hard to say; however makes me think of social surroundings, which seems to be the main issue according to the previous reading. This part boosts the idea:
There's a tendency to try to go it alone so the advice is specifically to find friends
I'm a loner- it doesn't always help; true.
Bottom line, I say these hexagrams are telling you your life didn't turn out as expected because you were raised to live in a world that just simply doesn't exist anymore
I just can't tell you how drastic the changes in social structure and values around me were during past 30 years- it always happens everywhere in the world, yes; but the pace has been dizzying in more traditional societies. Our parents mention this. They did their best to raise us according to the value-system of their time, then came a day when the children refused the values, and the world wasn't the same, either. I even can't compare the current society with that of 10 years ago. It even affects a more eccentric person.
now you have to give yourself permission to stop waiting for that Knight, or that dream job or whatever it was that never came to The Well at 48.3. So save yourself. Change your clothes, change your religion. Dare to boldly go where no one has ever gone before. If you don't give up, it gets better.
Change... I still don't know how/where to create it. I need to make a serious plan for change and stick to it...
 

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Well, ya know, some times you don't need to know exactly what to change, you just need to shake thing up. Like going on a vacation to a foreign country or just to an art gallery. You don't know what to expect before you go and then you get there and see something new and it inspires you and you see your life's possibilities totally differently. In feng shui there is a saying, "Change 20 things and you will change your life," meaning that if you move 20 things around in your house you will change your life. I tried this and discovered that when you do this you realize that by keeping everything in it's usual place you got in the habit of following not just the same old path through out your house but also of only seeing the same old things, doing the same old things, even thinking the same old thoughts and thus staying stuck in the same old life.
Do you have a current business card? 39 dictates that to overcome the current obstruction you need to make some connections and I think 48.3-29 suggests the need for some self promotion. Get a classy card made up that you like so much you're eager to hand it out!
 

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FWIW I do recall you always said you do not want children ? You said the thought of women having to mother not men made you angry. Well if you don't want children that's valid - certainly no point in having them just to check the box 'have children' in order to say you did it.

That was you wasn't it ? But now you are saying you want a successful family life, never known or guaranteed.

I think the way you are thinking is quite age related, that is I think those thoughts are more of a torment at 40 than at 50. 40 is a turning point and crunch time for a woman if she wants kids etc


Yes I've felt as I was struggling more or less alone from the very beginning of young adulthood. I wanted to have a lifestyle different from what was going on my surroundings with all the traditional values I refused to accept.

I think what we don't somehow realise is that if we don't accept traditional values we won't get traditional rewards. I think we don't always connect those things up. So if we don't want kids further down the line we also have to accept we won't have grandkids which is such a delight to many people. So it's important to remember this is consciously chosen, you're keeping a good deal of freedom for your own self. All the traditional values that get the traditional rewards are also binds, they aren't cost free.

However thinking you took the wrong route and your life is all wrong robs you of the joy you can have every day, now.


It's been more than a decade, and I tell you absolutely nothing happened during its first half. So frustrating for an inexperienced girl eager to change everything without knowing how. Maybe the only benefit was to be assured I didn't want that type of life. Stable friends with similar values/preferences appeared after I hit 25. Then I started to find helpers and places to concretely change my lifestyle- but am not there yet.

I don't know how you mean 'nothing happened'....


I explained what I consider to be a mediocre life in my last post (in reply to diamanda who asked the same question).

I don't believe anyone has a 'mediocre life', since a life is not a packaged object to be judged.

As I said, mediocre doesn't mean unconventional; it means lacking the elements you find personally satisfying. For example, a cheep, strange life in downtown with all cultural centers, odd people and counterculture can be ideal for an artist.

No mediocre doesn't mean unconventional it means not outstanding, ordinary, middling, nothing very good or bad, it's generally used as a disparaging word.
 

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Trojina, yes that was me who didn't want children.
By "fulfilling love/family life" I meant having a satisfying love and/or family life, a good romantic relationship that may result in marriage or not. If yes, that may result in having children.
As for the age, I'm at the beginning of the fourth decade: I'm 30.
I agree that by refusing the traditional values we lose traditional rewards. On the other hand, I'm not settled in the more unconventional way of life either.
By saying nothing happened, I mean I found no way to establish the roots of the new life I desired.
 
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Marybluesky it's awesome that you're shunning "harmful people so that they don't destroy what I already have". That's a huge plus for anyone.

It's also very true what Trojina wrote, that what's most important is to have freedom, health, enough to eat. They are immense pluses for anyone.

Once we have enough of the very basics, then we can build on them. You feel you don't have enough of the basics. There will always be people much luckier than we are, and also others much unluckier than we are. An awful lot in our lives depends on how we view our life, our belief system - perhaps that's the 'king' who is currently ruling that your life is not good. I wonder if artistic/bohemian principles could be clouding your judgement? You said your family were artistic too, but within a working class environment. Maybe have a think on what values your family instilled in you. A tricky issue to pinpoint the superego, but extremely rewarding once you've beaten it.
 

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Diamanda my family is rather traditional. They took us to cultural centers, art galleries and cinematecs; and encouraged learning artistic skills. But bohemian? Not at all. The bohemian life intersted me later, although I never actively practiced it.
Obviously the opposition traditional/bohemian was there in my mind: I refused one while didn't fully live the other. Maybe I am the "fool king" who didn't use her talents properly?
Anyway, now I feel the strong need to put in the roots of change systematically & steadily.
 

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Hi marybluesky,

"What prevented me from having the life I expected?"
48.3 > 29 ~ You weren't ready to settle down in your 20s.

"How should I remove the blockage in the way of my expected life?"
49.1.4 > 39 ~ You are not your body (yellow rawhide), you are the awareness of your body (honest truth).

You're at a natural turning point in life ~ your 30s will be a time of great spiritual development ~ exciting!

All Best
 

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You're at a natural turning point in life ~ your 30s will be a time of great spiritual development ~ exciting!
While I don't know what waits for me during 30s, I started to sense the old is going, the new is on its way a few months before I turned 30. I saw many things change during past six months: long-lasting relationships/situations/emotions disappeared suddenly as if they evaporated (the reasons were definitely building up for a long time- they just needed to reach a certain point); leaving me lots of space and energy to create new situations. I don't exactly know where I stand & how to define the current status.
 

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I'm always amazed at nature's power to transform us beyond the bounds of our imagination?

"And so I no longer hide. I finally made the decision. And soon after,
it was clear to see that 90% of the stress I’d carried through out the
years was because I hid myself, pretended, smiled when I didn’t want to,
silenced myself when my song was emerging from my very skin. I denied
myself and so my world inside was a crumbling mess. I stopped hiding and
was blown away by how easy it was to live. Living became natural again.
And being me was no longer a problem. They don’t teach this stuff in
schools but they should. They really, really should. Real living is
about unhiding. That’s when everything starts to make sense."

~ S.C. Lourie, Soul Notes of the Butterfly
 

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This Winter Saturn, the planet of harsh reality, is coming up against Pluto, the planet of death and rebirth, in the sign Capricorn and the result is human consciousness is going through a major wake up call. We are no longer able to float around in the La-La land of vague fantasies.
We are having experiences causing us to have to focus on the here and now. Mundane chores require our attention and this can cause us to be discouraged if we perceive these repetitive routines as our final destination.
Take heart!
We are being put through our final inspection before take off. For you particularly major 49. Revolution coming soon! Meanwhile, look at current circumstances as part of your training. It sounds like you are being given a crash course in how to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps (consciousness). You have an advantage in that you have a sense of the life you want to live and some positive childhood experiences to give you belief this can happen.
 

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While I don't know what waits for me during 30s, I started to sense the old is going, the new is on its way a few months before I turned 30. I saw many things change during past six months: long-lasting relationships/situations/emotions disappeared suddenly as if they evaporated (the reasons were definitely building up for a long time- they just needed to reach a certain point); leaving me lots of space and energy to create new situations. I don't exactly know where I stand & how to define the current status.

Now I know you're 30 not 40 there's even less cause for lament, there's so much to look forward to - you go girl :cheer:
 

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Yes, that’s something I could blame about my life. I’m in my early 40s.
Yet I remember I have been feeling like that for years, so I sympathize.

It must be said it’s rather difficult nowadays to get a proper job.

I have friends who were doing small scattered jobs like me until they left and went abroad where they finally succeeded (might be too much of an e)

but you’re still young, you can change things, change job, change country, and have kids if you like!
 

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This Winter Saturn, the planet of harsh reality, is coming up against Pluto, the planet of death and rebirth, in the sign Capricorn and the result is human consciousness is going through a major wake up call.
I asked "How is the Saturn-Pluto conjunction likely to affect my situation" and got 48.1.4.5> 34.
The "Well" in question- that wasn't used because of the king's foolishness- gets muddy first (48.1), then is repaired (48.4) and becomes a source of clear, fresh water (48.5) that brings great vigour (34).
Interestingly;
"Radical Change follows from Hexagram 48, the Well:
'The way of the Well does not allow things not to change radically."
The revolution needed for "removing the blockage" comes after the well reaches its highest potential.
 

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I see these lines as saying you will feel you are re connecting with your source and will recognize how you are bringing in the energy, the consciousness that you are into your environment.
 

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This Winter Saturn, the planet of harsh reality, is coming up against Pluto, the planet of death and rebirth, in the sign Capricorn and the result is human consciousness is going through a major wake up call. We are no longer able to float around in the La-La land of vague fantasies.
We are having experiences causing us to have to focus on the here and now. Mundane chores require our attention and this can cause us to be discouraged if we perceive these repetitive routines as our final destination.
That's written ten months ago (how quickly the time passes!).
The prediction came true terrifically! What should I say about the winter 2020?
I wanted to reply to this thread early in the winter, after several unpleasant, shocking events that happened around me in the political and social spheres; however decided to wait until the end of transition and see...
 

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