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but you have to keep in mind 31 is mutual affection, its not about the other person but about both of you, what are you letting in but what are you putting out too. The upper trigram is tui, exchange. Getting line 3 shows that you are moved to connect with this person, something in you automatically reacts, but its nice to have line 5 there because that has moved beyond reactions and you move from your heart (or your neck/back depending on what translation you are reading) which is the most centred place to move from, and the most effective placed to move/be moved from.
But I would say your instinct are on the money, all I would caution is to not be so exclusive as to exculde your own influence on the situation.
I associate line 5 with how when I'm thinking of saying something that will ultimately neither serve me or the other person in question well, I will literally feel my hackles go up, as in the hair on the back on my neck and skull will get goose bumps and a rush of adrelin with it. i know not to say that thing in those times.
But I've begun to look at line 5 as the best way to deal with hex 31 altogether (after the judgement and image)
line 5 as the governing ruler (line 4 in hex 31 is also) is why, but also I associate it with the heart being affected, as in the heart knows, the mind thinks and the solar plexus reacts. If you follow the feelings of the heart you will deal with influences well.
51, set things in order, prepare fro any eventualities the shock is a forewarning (not necessarily bad, just an alert), it sounds like you've already done this.
I must say every time I read your posts I find you've already 'fixed the omen' of the reading and understood it too. So you are on to it and putting it into action.
All I can say is no use in falling into fears, just don't give your power over when this person tries to take it (for example), and then you know reap the benefits as 31 and 51 are good energies, shock create success and so does influence.
It might just play out that you shock them and this influences them to become a better person or vice versa etc. was this person a lover?
I've done a lot of internal work on self worth and i'm no longer a push-over. Perhaps these recent realisations of what I should and shouldn't tolerate make me a bit inflexible?
15 > 7 , get organised for give and take, the best relations have easy give and take, make sure it happens from and for both sides. Also with 7, you are taking the lead, showing the way, the initiator.
I think this just makes you attractive. I love being around people who aren't push overs, I respect it when someone speaks up to me if I've over stepped their boundary.
I would say don't take them to a stage of inflexibility, to be able to do 31 well, which is to have that strong mountain as a base and the interactive lake as the interface requires a non pushable mountain and a very flexible lake. When you know your self-worth, no one else's actions can de value it, you set its value, so only you can de-value it.
What's Eleanor Roosevelt's saying???? people can only have power over you if you let them, something like that.
I guess I lean in the direction of relating vs. cutting off because I used to live by the motto " May the bridges we burn light the way." And I just ended up in the dark. I have returned to people I once thought total drains of my energy, but returned with boundaries and ones that I set, and not ones that I leave up to the other person to set.
I find people who are challenging for me to relate to, when I know how to surf in that sea, are apart of my life for a reason. Often for me I have to let them come and go more instead of having them as a daily part of my life which was my natural way to have relations. But the reason for this is because its actually me who wants the freedom to do this, and I only found the freedom when I let go and allowed it for others too.
I don't know if that's exactly your situation, but its what I see in 15... being that level field, that give and take.
You are not your histories. You are not your choices. You are not how you have been treated by others and how you have treated others. You are a Divine being learning what it is to be human, which involves making choices through free will and then dealing with the results of those choices.
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