Saturn and Uranus in my 7th House - Will I be forever alone? 6.4.6 to 29

[marciella]

So I had a friend read my astrological map. It turns out in my 7th house -which governs marriage and relationships- I have Saturn and Uranus. And as I researched having either of these planets on your 7th house means you are meant to be on your own and never married. I am not a huge believer but every other comment on this house and planets are a perfect fit for my love life and experiences (like I am always dating people who are older than me, never dreamed of marriage when I was younger etc.)

And as I really want to have a family one day I was very sad and concerned so I asked Yi "What does having these planets on my 7th house mean for a future marriage?" and I got 6.4.6. to 29.

To me it looks like Yi is telling me it is a battle I can not win? Also I "will be awarded a leather belt but be stripped of it 3 times". Maybe that means unsuccessful relationships where I will try to make it work but with no luck?

I would like to hear your views!

 

[marybluesky]

Hello Marciella!

Hexagram 6 is conflict, 6.4 indicates someone not able to win the conflict who comes back and accepts her fate, 6.6 shows repeatedly losing what you earn; and all that leads to repeating problems (29).
However you have asked about what "the astrology" says about your future marriage. Then the I Ching seems to be to the point.

I suggest asking the oracle about what happens regarding your marriage in real life during a given time, next year for example.

 

[marciella]

marybluesky, thank you for your answer, it makes so much sense. I Ching is telling exactly what astrology tells about the situation.

So I changed my question and asked about marriage in two years time and I got 27.1 to 23: nourishment to splitting apart.

first line is,

'Giving up your own spirit tortoise,
Gazing at me with jaws hanging down – pitfall.'

I guess I Ching is sort of pissed at me and telling me to "get my golden tortoise" and stop looking for validation? I had a recent break up and I have zero self esteem and desperately searching for some validation. It can be on point.

 

[rosada]

6.4. Looks to me to be a warning that simply going along with what the other person wants - typical good little wifey behavior - will only result in 6.6, continual arguments. Saturn and Uranus in your 7th house says partnership for you will be most successful when you align with those who strengthen your independent self-sufficient, self-disciplined side. Thus a happy partnership most likely will come when you are older, wiser and more experienced than the typical bride and until that time you must be careful about giving your power away to men you wrongly assume know more than you or who you think will take care of you. This is a lifetime where successful partnerships for you require both parties to speak their truth, learn to negotiate and to be very clear about agreements and very flexible about change.

I think 27.1 - 23 is telling you that if you look outside yourself for validation - such as thinking a conventional marriage is the foundation to your happiness - you will be unable to build a solid foundation for your life.

 

[marybluesky]

'Giving up your own spirit tortoise,
Gazing at me with jaws hanging down – pitfall.'

I guess I Ching is sort of pissed at me and telling me to "get my golden tortoise" and stop looking for validation? I had a recent break up and I have zero self esteem and desperately searching for some validation. It can be on point.

Yeah I think it advises you to care about & enjoy the positive aspects of your life instead of being obsessed with marriage.

 

[Freedda]

Marciella, I know next to nothing about astrology (except that I'm a triple Sag, and that is the most best-est sign in the zodiac!). But I will say, that as part of your research you may want to talk to a trust astrologist about what these signs in these houses mean: are they suggesting 'you will never by married' or something more like, 'you will find relationships challenging.? Those are quite different outlooks.

As the Yi, for me 6 is about contrary motion: the image has the rivers flowing east and the sun and stars and sky moving west, so they aren't reallly in conflict, they just don't interact.

I suppose the aspects that are moving apart could be you and relationships. But another possible way to look at this is to think of these as different aspects of yourself: so you have your desire to be in a relationship 'versus' whatever parts of you are resisting that, maybe fear, or a strong need to be independent, or ...?

Line 6.4 could be advising to maybe 'withdraw' from the relationship search for a while, maybe until you can resolve this contrary motion within (if that even rings true at all)? It could be suggesting taking some time to understand yourself better, or to ask who you really are and what you really want. (And this latter sometimes turns out to be something quite different than what we thought it would - or should - be.) Again, just some possibilities.

Line 6.6 - All of the married couples I know (at least the ones worth knowing) say that maintaining a relationship is hard work. So perhaps this line is a reminder that this 'work' starts with you, here and now; it seems to warn against quick fixes or magical cures, or what might be given (awarded) to us, without us doing our 'work.'

29, the resulting hexagram often gets a bad wrap - that it's about danger and falling into an abyss. But it also has much to teach us. Some possibilites: is it suggesting an attitude of being flowing and flexible - maybe the ability to change some things about yourself? It could also be advice to enter into your relationship quest with your sense and 'eyes wide open' - not necessarily fearful or weary, but awake and able to respond as you need to.

Best, D.

 

[diamanda]

Hi Marciella,

I agree with Mary's and Rosada's takes on 6.4.6 > 29, it shows doing your best to avoid conflict but beligerent others keep at it. About 27.1 to 23, in my experience it describes someone who does have a great partner but is too greedy, i.e. has a wandering eye and a drooling mouth.

So as applied to your situation, and what you said about your recent break-up and seeking validation... there's a tendency in your life to enter a pattern where you strive to make the best of tyrannical relationships - which will never work. Saturn represents the father, but it could also be a saturnian mother, anyone who is tyrannical, stern, arrogant, callous, etc. Plus, the 27.1 is warning you against entering a relationship with a greedy player, in the next two years. This does not mean that it will definitely happen - it depends on if you allow it or not.

Back to you, your zero self esteem is caused by others but it's up to you to amend this. If you seek validation externally, you'll never get it. Validation needs to come from our own self - we need to be the ultimate authority and judge about what our value is. And when I say we, I mean our real self, and not the saturnian voices implanted in our head, for example from a shitty parent who always put us down. Uranus is the rebel, the innovator. Astrology is very complex - you might well have other beneficial influences in your natal chart which will counteract the Saturn/Uranus in 7th. You may well have current beneficial transits.

My advice to you would be to have some sessions with a licensed psychotherapist so as to empower yourself and solve any past issues, and also have another look at your chart and see where your strengths lie. A lot in life depends on what we focus on.