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molaurie

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He's a friend from my old job which I left almost a year ago. Although our relationship never went beyond co-workers, I have never stopped thinking about him. Here's what I got: 58. 1,2,4 changing to 8. Thanks!!!
 

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Okay, anybody have any thoughts on this? I'd really appreciate it, because this is very important to me, and it seems like a complicated response.

Thanks!

Laurie
 
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diamanda

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Hi Laurie,

The answer, to begin with, points out that when we unite with good
friends there is mutual joy. It shows two lakes replenishing each other.
Perhaps the meaning here is that this is what you want, this is the
starting point for your question. Your intentions are genuine.

Change 1 shows a state where you are happy in yourself, you are happy
with your life. Feeling a bit lonely perhaps, but still self-sufficient and
strong, and thus not bothered by that. There is joy in you, and inner
harmony. You are a well-balanced person. However, although this
seems to be ok for a while, it is not in the nature of human beings to
be content permanently just by themselves.

Change 2 takes you a bit further away from that. This one speaks of
sincerity. Line 2 starts looking around, as it still has 'no proper correlate'.
There is a slight danger here, because line 2 is too close to the very
weak line 3. But 2's sincerity saves it from false friends.

Change 4 is, again, very close to the injurious 3. However, line 4 (you)
'reflects and deliberates', and that brings good fortune.

So far you seem to have done great, according to the steps described
here. I think 8 comes as the advice as to what to do next. The way i
see 8, it speaks about the union of more than two people. I was
thinking, have you kept contact with him, all this time? Because, if
you two were only co-workers, without contact in between, it will seem
very strange indeed if you call him out of the blue, to meet just the
two of you. Perhaps the meaning of 8 here is, invite more people from
that workplace, more of your old colleagues, including him, to meet
all together, and then you'll be as proper and as safe as can be?

good luck :)
 

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molaurie, this answer isn't completely negative, but I have a feeling you may know something is completely moral here?
Because there's a suggestion esp.line 4 that you do know if you should go forward or not, if it;s coirrect or not.Is there someone else involved either wiht him, or wiht yourself? Could that be?
 

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Thanks, to both of you! I really appreciate the help!

Diamanda - could the 8 indicate anything else? Because I haven't kept in contact with anyone else from the job. By other people involved, could it mean I should date other people, rather than him? Maybe I'm supposed to meet someone, but perhaps he isn't "the one"?

Proserpine - there's no one else involved with me, that's for sure! But I don't know about him.

Thanks again,

Laurie
 
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diamanda

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8 could mean a lot of things. I suggested the specific explanation only because you
seem so intent on meeting him, and your question was on that. As Twilight said,
you've got nothing to lose! Perhaps if you asked him something like, 'so, do you and
the other people from the workplace go out together sometimes? because it would
be nice to join you all at some point, whenever you go out next' - then from his
answer you'd see if he would prefer you two meet alone or not.

On other possibilities of 8 - 8 for me does not show a one-to-one relationship or
meeting, but one which involves more people, who all like each other, and belong
with each other. It can sometimes show a serious relationship, as in, when two
people are seriously together, then their families and friends necessarily mix as
well - and if the couple are compatible, chances are a lot of their friends will be
compatible too. 8 does not specifically answer the questions you asked, it just
advises you to make sure that the people you hang out with are a good crowd.

Proserpine made a good point about line 4, doubts as to which is the highest
pleasure/course to pursue. Think of what your options, for going out, are, and
choose the crowd you feel most comfortable in.

I'll agree you should go for it, if for nothing else, just to see if something is there
or not!
 

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Thanks to all of you - some really great insights!

Twilight - you're right, but I actually was hoping the I Ching would give me a big, huge, positive YES answer to my question! Guess it's just not that simple.

Well, I think maybe I WILL call him, but I'll put it off until next week...

Laurie
 

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What specifically was your question when you got this hex?

I'm not sure yi would answer the question "should I call him?"if that is what you asked.

It could be giving you a picture of how you feel about him. and possibly is picking up energy of the past.

58 speaks of joint ventures and business (you worked together). I would look more closely at the lines and perhaps ask a question like "what do i need to know about this relatoinshpi"

Anyway, my advice, which has less to do with your yi reading and more to do with personal experience is that if you call him it will put you in the position of being the pursuer in the relationship. The active (male) force in the relationship. He might be receptive but it often doesn't work when the woman pursues. ..I have seen this time and again.

I truly think that if he had been interested in you he would have asked you out a long time ago and if he's still thinking of you he'll find a way to contact you. You know like the book says "he's not that interested in you if he's not asking you out on dates"

I always think the man should be the leader so this is just old-fashioned dating advice.
Personally I am much more at ease in a relationship when a man pursues me.

Just my 2 cents.
 
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molaurie

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Thanks, Openheatrsf -

You are so right. Me being the pursuer has never worked. I think I like to think of myself as a modern, feminist-type, but this guy is older and seems more old-fashioned. He had plenty of opportunity to ask me out etc. but never did.

Maybe it's time to move on...

I appreciate your insights.

Laurie
 

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