Should I forget him? 38.2.4.6>24

[musidora]

Hi dear Readers,

this is my first time here and I would like you to excuse any english mistakes.

Maybe you`ll be able to help me with this big question... I sincerely hope so:

In 2010, while my boyfriend and I spent 6 months in different countries I had a date with this guy and it was quite strong for both of us but we stopped seeing each other because my boyfriend would arrive two weeks later and I didn`t want to mess everything. We have friends in common so we used to meet sometimes - leting each other know that we cared for ea somehow.

Last year, my relationship started going very bad and we started seeing each other, lots os feelings came back, but at that time it was complicated for me in the middle os a crisis, to end my mariage as I had a little son. Although we had another beautifull date, he met a girl and started a relationship with her. They are very much in love for more than one year now. He still gives me some signs that he still cares and thinks of me... It`s been two months since I finally divorced, and I ask myself (and I Ching!) if I should forget him (or try to) as I don`t see much future and I spend a big energy on that story...

Having Hex 38 - lines 2, 4 and 6 -> 24 seems to give me some hope - as it seems to say that we could be toghether again. Anyone could help me with that?

 

[steve]

Hi and welcome

Ok my take on your situation is that in line 2 its describing your encounters with him in possible uncomfortable situations or places maybe you cant talk so to speak.
Like two people in a narrow lane passing quickly.

Line 4 is the situation moving along into a place where you are actually more isolated from each other.

Line 6 May describe the situation could become fortunate for both of you, however it maybe simply stating you have or should have no hard feelings towards him.

Hexagram 24 in terms of relationships mostly does not mean the person returns, i used to think that when I went through a break up when I first came to the forum. Its a return to yourself, finding yourself again and who you are as an individual and not a partnership. The best thing is too find and do the things that you enjoy. You have a new freedom and need to realise that not being in a relationship is not a defeat, an example is you have the whole bed for yourself or you dont need to decide what you will eat with two people. It doesnt mean its forever, but all in all you can be selfish with yourself and jsut worry about your surroundings.
Think of it as a long long journey and you have finally collapsed on your couch in your own home. The first thing after sleeping you fix a favourite drink. (taking care of you)
Thats how i see 24 in terms of relationships.

In general you could very well get back together or you may not, but now you can leave on good terms and start finding your own path, if that path goes in a circle then so be it then if not you will have a great memory

C'est La Vie

Steve

 

[musidora]

Thanks

Thank you so much for your answer, Steve.
Situations when we meet couldn`t be described better than "unconfortable", for both of us, it`s amazing how this line is precise!
I understand line 4 tels me about this "isolated" condition, but It describes also a kind of soul meeting, a kind of special relationship in wich you really find someone with whom you share deep feelings... (Maybe I ching could be telling me about this new girlfriend? Or someone else that could apear in my life? I understand that it could be someone new, a third person)
I very much want to believe in a literal return of this person in my life, and this cicle movement that hex 24 suggests. But I agree with you that the best thing to do is to "have a place to go to" and follow my own path with joy. I quite enjoy being alone, the idea of being single is not quite a problem but the idea of having lost the "right moment" yes! But, you are right, c`est la vie!!

All the best!

 

[steve]

Hi

Yi is just advising on what to do now and outlining the situation, my feeling is that its not a bad situation, it could be as you say just bad timing.
The advice seems to be look to after yourself for now.

Steve