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Should I separate with my live in partner and look for another job?

Maritoni

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16 changing to 56.. I cast this because I can sense like I have been use to carry negativity and always my fault no matter what I try to help.... never been appreciated. I am planning to take up eligibility or a board exam this October. So, I can shift my career more stable and no one will ever degrade me or shouting at me because my fortune depends on their mood. No matter what I do seems worthless. If his employee cant understand and I am the one who is coordinating, even I did my part... the blame is always on me. He will make me look an anthagonist on his employee if I see error or laziness at work of his employee he will switch his attitude when talking to his employee and looks like am the one being strict when the truth is he is the one asking to check it.... Even on personal matter I find way to get us through our financial problem- the blame still on me.
 

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Hi

I take it this a home business or sounds like it at least, i have a similar relationship with my partner, we rarely fight but we have, we had argument the other day about an employee, we found the solution but it was heated before we did.

I see the reading like this 16 is the enthusiasm or your drive to work, line 3 you feel reliant to him or possibly trapped to a degree, Line 6 I think reflects you are putting energy in the wrong places however you can correct this.

56 I believe is saying that it may be time to move on, so in summary unless you see a big change in the situation I would be looking for a way out. I am sorry you are in this position but if you want to feel better, you may need to possibly look around at weigh up your options.

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Yes I am so trapped and passing the exam is my way out. The relationship I am having is very toxic and one sided. I rarely talk to him at the moment so separation would be easy. Before, I have much effort for him but I came to the point I am tired already as of his attitude.
 

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yes the situation your in is that you really need to have really good dynamics to work in a job in that environment, and if its not there, the yes this would be toxic or would most likely just get worse.

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Hi Marie Claire,

"Should I separate with my live-in partner and look for another job?"

16.3.6 to 56 ~ "When the thrill is gone, it's time to move on."

One of the biggest challenges for a person with a "pleaser" personality is to be able to discern relationship partners who are 'givers' from partners who are 'takers.'

Everyone likes being on the receiving end of proactive thoughtfulness and consideration, but, but, but, not everyone reciprocates...

...and while it seems clear, imho, that you should leave the relationship, with careful planning ~ you're going to also want to leave it with understanding, too ~ so that you don't make the same mistake, again.

So, as you prepare for the board exam, I highly recommend that you read Terrance Real's book "I don't want to talk about it." You should be able to tell from the reviews at the link whether it describes your situation, or not?

I'm sorry that you find yourself in this predicament, but at least you can see light at the end of the tunnel for yourself. Line 6 of 16 says that once you leave/complete your exam, then your partner will continue to plow on like an elephant with blinders on, and be the worse for it without you.

I think, if it resonates, you might find the understanding in the book to be a most helpful parting gift...to accompany the shock of you walking out the door to your freedom...

And, keep in mind that you are not your feelings ~ you are the awareness of your feelings ~ that's the 'place' you want to be in when you are traveling ~ 'seeing' and 'doing' ~ your way through life.

You sound like a beautiful person to me.

Good luck!
 
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I am good with my job- the problem is the attitude of my partner. I have done everything I can even it is very out of my league. He depend on me yet acting like he didn't and make me look that I am the one relying on me. I am not a receiver like other women. I work for what I have and he is taking advantage because he is superior to me.
 

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