Should we move to the City A (44.2.3.4 > 20) or City B (37.2.3 > 61)?

[Skywatcher]

Hello Forum!

I asked the I Ching about two cities.
Should we move (my parents and I) to City A or B?
City A is my mother's favorite. For me and my father, there is no difference (they are neighboring cities).

City A: Hexagram 44.2.3.4 > 20.

Hexagram 44, Coupling
Key Questions
What would be an adequate response to this new energy?
How far could this change go?
How far will you let it go?

Changing Lines
Line 2
'In this basket there are fish – not a mistake.
Not fruitful to entertain guests.'

Line 3
'Thighs without flesh,
Moving awkwardly now.
Danger, no great mistake.'

Line 4
'In this basket, no fish. Rising up, pitfall.'

I was looking for some posts here, and I came across with this Hillary's post (https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/answers/2019/04/15/hexagram-44-coupling):

And finally, there are lines 2 and 4, the two about fish traps. This is a fertility image and omen: a basket lowered into the river to catch fish. If you trap some, this bodes well for a marriage and future fertility – as in line 2:

‘In this basket there are fish.
No mistake.
Not fruitful to entertain guests.’

So the omens are good, or at least not actively bad; now, you need to hold onto the potential and not get ahead of yourself.

It seems to me that City A would not be good in the short term. There would be obstacles. But it can be good in the long term.


City B: Hexagram 37.2.3 > 61.

Hexagram 37, People in the Home
Key Questions
Where are the boundaries of the 'home' you inhabit?
How are you building inner and outer relationships into a home?
What kinds of growth does this environment support?

Changing Lines
Line 2
'No direction to pursue,
Stay in the centre and cook.
Constancy, good fortune.'

Line 3
'People in the home scold and scold,
Regrets, danger: good fortune.
Wife and child giggle and giggle.
In the end, shame.'

At the beginning of reading I was excited and thought it would be the best option, but line 3 worried me.
I understand disharmony in the home, not being good for a family in long term.

I'm confused
Does anyone have any positive experience/outcome with the first or the second hexagram?

Any insight is welcome!

 

[kestrelw1ngs]

Both of these castings but especially the latter suggest to me perhaps moving is quite an undertaking and some communication between family members ought to be worked on?

44 is usually quite psychological, or about the weight of something undefined, a desire or pull thst has unconscious elements.. Hex 20 always comes up for me as relating when there is a situation I need more clear perspective on.

And 37.3 when communication is breaking down into either squabbling or avoiding the issue with 'fun' - a lack of sincerity or directness in discussions can really hinder moving forward on any plans.

Im not a Yi expert but the sense Id get from these readings is perhaps to have a family dinner (37.2) and discuss in depth with all family members your hopes and fears around moving to these different places.

Best of luck!

 

[Skywatcher]

Hello kestrelw1ngs!

It's still a little difficult to get a clear perspective of both places . It's a long drive to visit both cities as often as we would need to, but we're in a hurry to move. This is making us even more worried.

Thank you so much for your reply!

 

[my_key]

Should we move (my parents and I) to City A or B?
City A is my mother's favorite. For me and my father, there is no difference (they are neighboring cities).

City A: Hexagram 44.2.3.4 > 20.

44<>20
The idea of moving to City A is best held in a context of looking first without acting - the deeper you look the more clearer the picture will become (20). Be open to considering all aspects of how the city may meet or not meet your whole families needs (44). This city may pose a challenge to some about the pace at which life is led.

City B: Hexagram 37.2.3 > 61.

37<>61
The idea of moving to City A is best held in a context of having inner and outer lives connect in a trustworthy manner (61). This city will be welcoming and support and nourish your lives (37). The challenge of living in this city could be an element in the family not feeling completely at home living there. Not identifying and resolving appropriately this situation before moving could hinder harmonious living.

Line 2 speaks to a re-balance of our inner world and how we react to others.
Line 3 speaks to our emotions and the beliefs held that drive the way decisions are reached. I wonder what the wife and child in your family would giggle and giggle about that would lead to a shameful outcome?


... or it might be nothing at all like that for you.

 

[Trojina]

I asked the I Ching about two cities.
Should we move (my parents and I) to City A or B?
City A is my mother's favorite. For me and my father, there is no difference (they are neighboring cities).

City A: Hexagram 44.2.3.4 > 20.

Do you need to move at all? 44 can be sudden pressure/intrusion of outer events and such. 20 suggests to stand back and look....

Yi answers, in my experience, conversationally and I've not yet seen comparison questions like these work because answers I find are more intelligently conversational as in you say 'city a or city b' and Yi might be saying 'Is it really time to move?'. Don't pick a place to live on a Yi answer is my advice - you could ask for guidance in your process of decision making, how to decide, but don't leave the choice itself to Yi, the choice is totally yours.

 

[Skywatcher]

The challenge of living in this city could be an element in the family not feeling completely at home living there.

I've always felt this everywhere I live, but I'm trying to find myself and settle down somewhere with my parents!

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Hello, Trojina!

I do understand your point.
We need to move for several reasons, but the worst of them is that the current city is very polluted and is harming our health. We didn't know this before we moved, so we're afraid of making mistakes again.


Thank you so much for your insights!