Should we try to make this partnership work? 35 no changing lines

[vikk]

Hi guys!

I would really appreciate your help.

My husband was approached by bus acquaintance to start a food business together. It happened a year ago.
After they successfully started everything they ran into some hurdles with regulations which basically require a lot of money. Since the business has been slow and the partner was taking care of legalities of applying for loans and money, my husband has been taking some time away. However he would still produce stock when an order come in.

Tonight out of blue he received an email from his partner saying that he is terminating the partnership due to my husbands lack of commitment to the business.

It is heartbreaking. I want us to go and level with him and see if he change his mind. I really want this to continue to work.
So I asked "should we try to make this partnership work?" and received 35.

Is IChing saying that we should just move on from this or is it giving a go ahead to try to convince the partner to stay.

This is so heartbreaking!

Love, Vikk

 

[diamanda]

Hi Vikk,
35 unchanging sounds like a big yes to me, try to make this work, and it most probably will.
Make things clear and bright, communicate with the partner. Make some kind of offer(s) to him too.

 

[rosada]

Hexagram 35 uc.
The sun over the earth.
Maybe it's advising bringing things out in the open before making a decision whether to continue.
Certainly sounds like a phone call and a conversation would be helpful - if only to make you feel more at peace with all this in case it does turn out it's better not to continue.

 

[vikk]

Hi,

I wanted to update you on the situation.
I'm not really sure if we followed the advice of 35 - of having a conversation to clear the air.

I mean there was a conversation, but it felt like the partner was not really interested to hear what my husband had to say. The partner said that he lost enthusiasm and really didn't want to continue. You could see on his face that he was sooo ovvverr itt. That's partially why my husband didn't want to continue to explain himself.
So we shook hands, my husband packed his knives and we left.

The End.

The Beginning.

Now my husband wants to continue on his own.
I support the idea, but if it is two of us we will not be able to handle it.
Having that partner was great because it allowed to separate responsibilities - he sets up accounts, does accounting and other financial and legal stuff.
My husband is responsible for the product.
Now without a partner he wants to try to handle it himself with me involved. Neither him nor I are gifted in terms of business running.
I think we are setting ourselves up for a failure.
He is so eager and zealous I'm scared to say otherwise.

However, I asked
"what is the best approach to develop this business?"
24.1.2.6>4

Oops, a bad one...

Just to confirm
"So should we drop this idea?"
28 unchanged

Ok. Looks like it is confirmed.

"So what is the best way for me to convey it to J?"
4 1.3.5>9

Hexagram 4 scares me. Every time I see it I consider that IChing is telling me off. So no advice on how to approach. So should I ask again later?

I would appreciate your thoughts as always.

 

[rosada]

It might be useful to consider hexagram 4 not as the IC telling you off but as an admonition to know what you are doing each step of the way before you move forward.

I see hexagram 4 as saying:
4.1 "First, you aren't going to learn anything about life just asking questions, you have to get out there and experience it."
4.2 "But don't worry because you know enough to get started."
4.3 "After that you have to figure things out for yourself - don't try to just copy someone else."
4.4 "If you do that you'll lose touch with your own inner guidance and you'll end up lost."
4.5 "So don't worry about doing things perfectly, just play around with your ideas for a bit."
4.6 "That way you'll learn from your mistakes and and hopefully be able to make progress."
Bottom line (Image) "Don't try to take shortcuts. Have a through understanding every step of the way."

As a response to your question about how to convey your concerns to your husband as he seems to be heading for heartache I think you are being advised that
4.1 It's not a bad idea for him to explore the possibilities. He can't truly know whether this business is a good idea or not until he actually gets his toes in the water.
4.3 Not sure what this is saying. Maybe that you should not just blindly agree to whatever he suggests? Maybe you should ask questions, don't gloss over things that sound shaky, give him feedback, make sure there aren't a lot of unrealistic assumptions?
4.5 Let your attitude be that it's good to play around with ideas but that doesn't mean you're committing to them. (Maybe he'll then see the problems himself so you don't have to be the squelch.)

I see hexagram 9 as describing a lone soul who must speak truth to authority (note how it leads to 10, and the lone soul treading on the tail of the tiger!) That would certainly describe your situation here.

So over all I think you are being advised that to speak your truth, your concerns, coming from a place of being the young fool and this is all such new territory for you. Like, "I want to be supportive but I really don't understand what I'm agreeing to here." And keep asking questions until either you're convinced it will work or he comes to realize it wont.

The negative readings you received would certainly make me pause and reconsider yet I know from experience that sometimes if you persevere, what first seemed like a wall becomes a stepping stone.

Btw, 5 of the planets are retrograde this month plus there is going to be an eclipse. I would put off making any major investments in this new venture until September because astrologically all these planets are saying "back up, reconsider." This COULD mean back up, get out of the partnership, learn how you can do it yourselves and then launch your biz after August. Or it could mean by pausing and reviewing he may himself decide not to take things further.