THE meeting 16.2 and 17.5

[flor05]

Hello all,

For those of you following my little novel here, a new chapter is coming. Just like Jesed pointed out on a previous thread, I seem to see the horse, apparently.

After almost 3 months of asking my estranged husband to meet me (and he repeatedly saying no), he agreed. Many things unsaid in our break-up, many very painful situations, so I been feeling the need to clear the air and stop the corrosion. For the past 4 months I have been having an almost non-stop mental dialog with him, so I'm not sure now what to say. And I'm not sure what will happen inside me when I finally see him.

I decided to ask the Yi 2 questions. They might overlap, but I guess they will give me insight:

- How should I act /what should I say in my conversation with him?
16.2>40
It seemed pretty relevant, not sure if really helpful as on "what" to do.
16 --> Enthusiasm. Worthwhile to set helpers and move armies.
To me, 16 speaks of energy and mobilization.
.2 --> To be firm like stone, it doesn't last a day (or, according o Bradford, an unending day), persistence is promising. It's correct and central.
Talks about finding the center and staying there. Lyse says is about opening the heart when appropriate. I guess is a good line, and the main thing here is to find a balance, but apparently on has the skill to see things as they are, past the possible delusion of enthusiasm. Now, if it only were that simple! Finding the balance, fine... but how???

40 -->Release, liberation. Think it my fit my overall attitude towards this. I have been mulling over things for months (not consistently or with any clear conclusions) and I need to let out. Plus, I'm not clear yet if there's anything worthwhile left between us, and this hex contemplates both possibilities (return is promising if there's no place to go; to move forward is promising if there is). Now, what interested me the most of this hex was the image: "Thus the noble one forgives transgressions and removes guilt". I guess this spoke better for me as to what attitude to take: a forgiving, understanding approach.


Second question:
- How will the meeting and possible effects of it develop?
17.5>51
17 --> Following
To me, speaks about a true dialog, when all the time one is following the other, alternatively. I was glad I got this hex, usually when I get it it talks about a situation that could be pleasant. I know that this conversation will be filled with tension, but this gives me hope it doesn't have to be excruciating.
.5 --> Again, correct and central, a promising line, very similar to 16.2. To follow excellence, to follow what's good and correct. This gives me hope the talk can rectify wrong doing on both sides. It talks about trust and sincerity, very much needed between us.

51 --> Shock, Thunder. This may sound strange, but shock (for him AND for me) is what I'm looking for. To go in one direction or another, but remove this feeling of limbo and stagnation. Shaking things up will be a better result for me than just hanging out and having inconsequential talk.

So I wanted to share my reading, hoping that anyone could either validate, correct or add to my interpretation. Any thoughts will be very welcomed :bows: ,as well as any "off-reading" suggestions on how to organize mentally for this meeting.

Cheers,

Flor.

 

[rodaki]

hi flor

seems to me that you have a good grasp of your own situation but I thought I'd add my impression of your readings . .

16.2 to 40 reads to me as 'prepare yourself to release the tension' . . both 16 and 40 are very energetic hexagrams, and the line talks about momentousness, so looks like here is the break you've been waiting for, make yourself ready . . 16 as thunder over the earth I 'd understand as opening up to all the thunderous experience your divorce has given you and composing all its echoes into your song, your story of it . . and 40 has dawned on me as relief, the thunderstorm that brings ease . .

I think 17.5 is a great line too . . again, it seems that you know your part in your story and you can use this awareness to guide you through the shock. Talking about shock, maybe you should be prepared in being shocked yourself from the way the discussion will unfold, you might feel like taken aback by new awareness, but you can handle this . . Break-ups cause lots of negative baggage and these are things that can be triggered when coming across one another . . the advice I 'd see here is about not getting carried away by any and all impulses . . take in what your ex husband has to say but don't get carried away by your most spontaneous responses, face both good and bad surprise with an eye on your guiding light . . as long as you know what is best and true to you and for you in these circumstances, you can be more confident about distinguishing the best way to keep your balance during shocks . . I think it's very interesting how you got 16 and 17 that follow one another, feels like a very organic evolution and both 16 and 17.5 talk about the natural movements of planets and stars, their inherent order that manifests and is followed . . so I'd say, ride your thunder with a steady hand dear flor and best of luck with this!!

 

[jesed]

Hi Flor

Don't miss the forgiveness part in hex 40 Dificult, I know, I Know.

And don't forget the music (see the image of hex 16).

Best wishes. I hope you'll get a nice summer rain there

 

[flor05]

Thanks Rodaki for you further insight and best wishes. Your comments are both kind and relevant.

And thanks Jesed for the encouragement. Forgiveness is tough, and I think I'm more in need of forgiving him than him being forgiven, if that makes sense. So forgiving time it is, with apologies or not. And is funny you mentioned music in 16... music has been one of our stronger connections and one of the things I miss the most (he is a musician and a music fanatic and managed to pass a lot on to me).

Let's hope there's rain.
I'll keep you posted.

 

[jesed]

si uno fuera a llorar cuanto termina
no alcanzaran las lágrimas a tanto,
nuestras horas de amor -casi divinas-
es mejor despedirlas con un canto
Silvio Rodriguez