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Maybe one can get used to the idea, that there are angry people.
Angry people make you feel in danger. They want you to shut up, make you think that you're no good, or defy you to make a mistake where they can catch you..
"Thus the superior man walks in lasting virtue
And carries on the business of teaching."
So if you are superior in your sincerity, you can even teach the angry one to let go his negativism.
C
The problem I see here is the belief that there are objectively 'angry people'.
.... I don't see it advising one to take someones anger as an opportunity to 'educate' them.
The problem I see here is the belief that there are objectively 'angry people'.
.... I don't see it advising one to take someones anger as an opportunity to 'educate' them.
Today I had a talk with someone about people that manage to spoil everything, by being obviously selfish, mistrusting, doubting your good intentions, even calling you names.
He works in a shop for artsupplies. He says, it is so striking, that you can have 30 nice and friendly customers, and they all make you feel that life is good, and then ONE single person can come and spoil your WHOLE day, by being negative.
How can that power be so strong?
Is it the same the other way round too? Can ONE nice and positive person make a miserable day full of disappointments, harsh and ugly people make your day go shine again?
I think YES
But I did ask the Yi about it. About the power of the negative.
And it said: Hexagram 29
I wonder if anyone here can make something of it?
Carin
'Water seeks the lowest place available.'
So it is.
Bruce, what you write about:
'Positive reenforcement works, but unless a person has been raised by parents and teachers who have done this, it takes self-training and repetition to acquire this skill"
is very true in my eyes. And I feel it' s the most interesting part, what I myself can do about it. Self-training, and also experimenting with it.
C
Experimenting is a kind of playing, isn't it?
Innocent, not heavy at all.
C
'Water seeks the lowest place available.'
So it is.
Bruce, what you write about:
'Positive reenforcement works, but unless a person has been raised by parents and teachers who have done this, it takes self-training and repetition to acquire this skill"
is very true in my eyes. And I feel it' s the most interesting part, what I myself can do about it. Self-training, and also experimenting with it.
C
Playing and story-telling! Whoo-who!
The life-blood of all children. And this particular adult too.
topal
I am with you! I teach a course to graduate students in developmental counseling, and a major part of it is bibliotherapy and play therapy techniques. Interesting how the grad students, themselves, often feel a little foolish at first reading stories aloud and using a sand tray with toys, playing with puppets.......but then amazing things happen . A creative power is unleashed, the atmosphere becomes free and playful, personal stories get portrayed, even healed.
Agree that it is unfortunate that schools in general don't allow for this kind of education....social skills training is rather overlooked unless children have a deficit in some way....and even then , the social skills training is almost done as a way to get the rebellious/different child to conform to the status quo.
In regards to the 29 and angry behavior.....Today I went to a market which is notoriously crowded and the crowd notoriously RUDE!! It is so amazing to watch how contagious this rude and ME-FIRST, get-out-of-my-way attitude is....in others and in myself. Even when I go in feeling very calm, I end up feeling irritated and squeezed and inclined to be pushy myself. A dangerous place to shop (emotionally). I frequently have to stop and breathe.
These two stories of mine seem to fit together. HUman beings seem to be most themselves, their beautiful true selves, when they can be free and playful. In the dark tunnel of "the marketplace", competitiveness and people vying for space create anger....there is no room to move freely, the spirit gets crushed out.
People who acting angrily are really crying out.
the Sage is both loved and hated, it seems
Clarity,
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