Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
Hi Mandolin,
if I should get in touch with him
55.1.3.4 > 2
I'm assuming that when you ask "should I" you mean "would it have any good result". It would have some result, but not a great one.
55 is a bitter-sweet hexagram and 2 is an empty one. The lines of 55 here don't sound good for a stable and real relationship. 55.1 is too short-term, in 55.3 there's a break-up, and in 55.4 there's a secret rendez-vous. So when you say that he's charming to his many female friends, from this cast I believe it's not just attention-seeking, he has actually cheated on you (and will do so again).
As a footnote, I'll say that it doesn't matter what a person claims they feel about someone else. What matters most is this person's actions. What good is it to you if he claims he loves you, when he clearly told you that (for whatever reason, it's irrelevant) he won't commit?
Thanks for clarifying, I got that point wrong because in your first post you wrote "deep difficulties with commitment", so I was assuming he told you he doesn't want commitment. As you say though, no matter what he said, his actions didn't point towards commitment at all.He certainly told me over and over he wanted to commit and have children but in reality his actions never made enough space for that to happen
After so many decades alive, he certainly knows what it takes for a relationship to thrive. Unless his mental and intellectual faculties are severely challenged, in which case he would need intensive professional help, which might, or might not turn him into a functional adult who can form relationships. I don't believe that people like him don't know what it takes - they know, they just don't want (or can't) do it. Or, if they truly don't know and don't get it at 50, they need professional help.He is 50 next year and I had hoped he would finally grapple with what a deep relationship needs to thrive
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).