Transparency from husband 34.5-43

[Mylife]

I recently discovered a part of my husband which was surprisingly new to me. I didn’t know he would lie or hide things from me. We had an argument and moved on. But there is something that holds me back. Fear that he didn’t learn a lesson but he continue to lie and hide and be back in tension again.

I asked the oracle a question about “how do you see our relationship progressing from now on in terms of transparency from my husband towards me?” I received 34.5 - 43

34 talks about great strength, moral strength and advancement.
Line 5 talks about losing a ram with ease.
And then 43 is about eliminating an hesitation, resolution.

I think I understand 43 but I struggle to understand 34.5. Does anyone understand better than me what the oracle is trying to tell me?

Thank you all xxx

 

[Liselle]

'Losing sheep at Yi.
No regrets.'

You've lost something, probably an illusion that your husband is always at all times completely transparent with you.

Think about it. Even though you're married, you're still two different people. It's not possible for anyone to be completely transparent to anyone else. Not just you and your husband, any two people.

The reading says that moving on is exactly the right thing to do.
'Losing sheep at Yi" - you lost something.
'No regrets' - but you needn't regret it. Stare hard at that. Yi is telling you you don't have to regret the lost sheep. You'll be fine without them. Whatever this was about, Yi says it's not too important.

Also, fifth lines are kings' lines - what are a few sheep to a king?

Yi's given you several readings saying you have a good marriage. 34 continues to say it's strong and healthy. In 34.5 you've lost something, but no regrets - a healthy marriage can take a little dent from time to time (it's pretty inevitable - there's no such thing as a dent-free marriage, I'm sure).

 

[Mylife]

healthy marriage can take a little dent from time to time (it's pretty inevitable - there's no such thing as a dent-free marriage, I'm sure).

Yes is true but when it happens it’s like an earthquake! It feels losing stability and peace which you had before. Probably here is the line 5 losing how I felt before.

Ok I think I got the meaning of line 5. But now how do I see the entire reading?
34- I need great strength to advance, mainly moral strength
34.5- I lost the peace I had before but there seems to be no big deal
43- talks about eliminating an hesitation, resolution
How do I put this together like an answer to my question? @Liselle
Thank you

 

[Liselle]

What usually helps is to read the answer as an actual answer to the question.

You: “how do you see our relationship progressing from now on in terms of transparency from my husband towards me?”
Yi: "Your relationship will progress like 34.5 to 43. It will progress like a strong, healthy marriage (34), where maybe you've lost a something but you needn't regret it (line 5)."

I'm not quite sure how to fit in the 43 - what you said about it sounds good.

I don't think 34 means you need tremendous strength. You didn't ask what you have to do, you asked how your marriage will progress. I think that's exactly what Yi gave you, a picture of that.

 

[Mylife]

Thank you @Liselle

 

[my_key]

I asked the oracle a question about “how do you see our relationship progressing from now on in terms of transparency from my husband towards me?” I received 34.5 - 43

Your question is couched in terms of your husband's transparency and how it will impact the relationship with regards to you.

The reading is a simple one as I see it. He is working through things at the moment that carry great significance for him. His struggle, perhaps with an old wound or injury, is making sense of all his thoughts and feelings firstly for himself before coming to terms with how best to go forward with the matter and most definitely before sharing his discoveries with others.

To me it seems you have posed a question to Yi based in his world (his transparency) and answered the question from a position based in your world (what does the reading mean for me), rather than looking at how your joint relationship will develop, which is at the heart of your question.

34 alludes to the great efforts of your husband herding his sheep into a position from where he can more easily guide them into a new direction (5) within the relationship.

 

[rosada]

I note how 43 is about everything being told truthfully so it seems this reading is indeed about your goal of reaching complete transparency with your partner. Interesting how 43 leads to 44 with it’s image of seeing everything without getting sucked in. Like 43 speaking openly leads to being able to see more, being able to handle the truth. So 43.5 maybe about demonstrating you can handle knowing more - that you recognize transparency itself, is more important than what that transparency might reveal.

Often the Image tells how one should behave so 43. advises giving gifts - perhaps a suggestion that you might start by sharing hidden things about yourself? Not necessarily deep dark stuff, just little things that invite closer intimacy and give a frame work for further confidences like, “Can I tell you a secret? If I have to hear Jingle Bells one more time I’m going to barf,” can lead to “Would you still love me if you knew …?” and then confess something not too outrageous like “I used to think bell bottoms were cool,” or go for it and tell him how much you really spent online gambling. Be more revealing yourself and see how he responds. Say things like, “I’m so glad I can tell you things and you don’t get mad” and “I’m so glad we can tell each other stuff! I don’t care what it is! I just want to know you!”

Anyway, I think 34.5-43 guarantees the longer your relationship continues the more you are going to know everything there is to know about each other.

Good luck!

 

[rosada]

Further thoughts..

Discuss and make plans for things you will do together like just planning a grocery list for dinner. By calmly discussing and manifesting you are building energy channels, learning and training each other to trust. And just like you probably wouldn’t trust your partner to perform brain surgery on you, there are no doubt other areas where you shouldn’t totally throw caution to the wind and think, “He’s my soulmate, I’ll go along with everything!”
{Remember the IChing core teaching: 2.6 “Don’t be so open minded your brains fall out.”}
But that doesn’t mean you can’t find some areas of trust and build from there. Like you talk together about what you want for dinner, an honest truthful discussion! , and next thing you know, when you go to buy the groceries for this co-planned dinner they just happen to be on sale! So Wah-Lah!, you have an experience proving your thoughts together do manifest and more powerfully too! When couples realize they truly are able to create together it quickly gets very exciting and people want to become totally honest and clear asap so we can fine tune our ability to co-create.

 

[IrfanK]

'The reading says that moving on is exactly the right thing to do.
'Losing sheep at Yi" - you lost something.

Ah, I always thought it was a goat. Some people translate it as a sheep, do they? I admit that I like the idea of a goat better -- and it's a stubborn goat that rams forward with great energy, insistently and with power. But without much regard for the consequences. Which is why, poor thing, he keeps on getting his horns entangled in hedges (3, 6).

A goat butts against a hedge and gets its horns entangled.

He is hinted at again in four, when the hedge opens and his power and energy take him forward into the open space ahead of him, shaking off the entanglement with the hedge.

In five, the stubborn goat is gone -- not just gone, but deliberately lost and left behind, without any looking backward and regretting his absence.

Mind you, he isn't a bad goat. Just a little bit too much energy and not quite enough reflection.

My Life, I just want to ask ... do you see anything in that that might suggest, say, a stubborn adherence to an image of what your husband is or should be? A belief that you may have held to strongly and without a lot of reflection? And is it just possible that your husband engaged in this deceiving or hiding because he didn't want a confrontation with you about this belief you held about him?

Or was your husband's actions because he was stubbornly persisting in some course of action?

I don't know that that's what the reading says, because I don't know enough about the situation between you and your husband. But I would put it forward as a question for reflection.

Anyway, the goat's gone now. Lost with ease.

 

[Liselle]

I don't have any actual knowledge what the animals are. Hilary uses sheep in line 5 and ram in 3 and 6.

I think I have a dim recollection of asking Hilary about this once (whether it's sheep or goats or what) but I can't find it now and could be wrong. Will try to look better tomorrow or thereabouts.