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I fell in love with a women back in April of this year. The issue is that she is 12 years younger then me and she is an employee at a company I own. My love for her hit me like a brick wall. I keep trying to get her out of my head but over the months it keeps haunting me. I told my most trusted friend about it who thinks I'm crazy. You have so many other women interested in you why are you obsessed with her.

Back in April I ask IC about what's up with this obsession and 59 traveler came up which meant to me that it's a phase and will probably pass.
Then in June I asked IC That I was in Love with her and how to deal with it. 4.1.5. 61 Which to me meant practice restraint, avoid impulsive actions / share our interest and act truthfully from my heart.

Well 8 months later and I'm knee deep in passion. I think its unprofessional to put her in a uncomfortable position at work. I try my hardest not to show my feelings but I'm sure it's shows, especially to her. She's a star employee who really loves her job. She does not want to be treated any differently then anybody else although her work alone is cause for great recognition in the company. She is as cool as a cucumber and rarely shows emotion.

My question to myself is do I tell her my feelings and possibly mess this thing up or just enjoy her lovely self at work and move on? The feeling of this kind of Love is something I have not felt towards a person for a long time. What a great thing to experience. There some interesting lesson in all of this. Or perhaps this is real true love.

My question to IC

I still have this incredible amount of love for _____. What should I do next?

59.3.5. 18
 

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since when being an employer is a handicap ??
"I think its unprofessional to put her in a uncomfortable position " ... well , i think is the other way around, you are afraid to put yourself in an uncomfortable position in case she rejects you

based on the reading i'd say go for her but be gentle.
 

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You got it bad.

Express your feelings to her.

Life is WAY too short not too! ;)

If you do not take action you will always wonder "what if?"
 

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Back in April I ask IC about what's up with this obsession and 59 traveler came up which meant to me that it's a phase and will probably pass.
59 is dispersion, 56 is the traveller.

My question to myself is do I tell her my feelings and possibly mess this thing up or just enjoy her lovely self at work and move on? The feeling of this kind of Love is something I have not felt towards a person for a long time. What a great thing to experience. There some interesting lesson in all of this. Or perhaps this is real true love.
keeping love inside will rot you from the inside (18) from a stagnation of that energy, the wind at the bottom of the mountain.

"love in your heart wasn't put there to stay,
love is not love
'til you give it away."

that was on the back of our toilet door when I was growing up. 59 says spread it around.

I once unleashed a whole 4 page love letter on an unsuspecting love, my feelings were not returned but we are friends instead, and I don't regret it at all.

As a side note, often I feel the energy to take action, whether it be in relating or work or whatever, and with all the energy building up inside I create outcomes in my head and then the fear sets it because I cant know if those outcomes are assured, and the times I have gone with what the energy wants me to do the real outcome never matches the imagined, and when I accept that I never actually needed it to turn out the way of my imagination I realise the real outcome was both what I needed and better than what I could imagine. My apologies for not punctuating.
 
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I fell in love with a women back in April of this year. The issue is that she is 12 years younger then me and she is an employee at a company I own. My love for her hit me like a brick wall. I keep trying to get her out of my head but over the months it keeps haunting me. I told my most trusted friend about it who thinks I'm crazy. You have so many other women interested in you why are you obsessed with her.

Back in April I ask IC about what's up with this obsession and 59 traveler came up which meant to me that it's a phase and will probably pass.
Then in June I asked IC That I was in Love with her and how to deal with it. 4.1.5. 61 Which to me meant practice restraint, avoid impulsive actions / share our interest and act truthfully from my heart.

Well 8 months later and I'm knee deep in passion. I think its unprofessional to put her in a uncomfortable position at work. I try my hardest not to show my feelings but I'm sure it's shows, especially to her. She's a star employee who really loves her job. She does not want to be treated any differently then anybody else although her work alone is cause for great recognition in the company. She is as cool as a cucumber and rarely shows emotion.

My question to myself is do I tell her my feelings and possibly mess this thing up or just enjoy her lovely self at work and move on? The feeling of this kind of Love is something I have not felt towards a person for a long time. What a great thing to experience. There some interesting lesson in all of this. Or perhaps this is real true love.

My question to IC

I still have this incredible amount of love for _____. What should I do next?

59.3.5. 18
It is sensitive and professional of you to appreciate that as she is your employee she may feel uncomfortable about refusing your advances.

I think this answer does encourage an approach to her. 59.5 is generally about making an announcement, giving it all you've got...not holding reserves back. It says "the King distributes the content of the royal granary". Its not a time for holding back stuff which will rot away (hex 18)...plus from her POV she may feel the same about you but it would be nigh on impossible for her to approach you.

I feel the 59.3 may suggest a real humility about this...which I sense you already do have. Perhaps you need to say to her, make it very clear to her, that in no way will it affect her job there if she is not interested in a relationship with you. Probably talking to her outside of the work place where you are 'equals' in status would be better ?

The answer, no answer, guarantees she will say 'yes' to your advances but it certainly seems nevertheless advisable here to let your feelings be known. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you are respectful to her I can't see what harm it could do to the relationship if she did refuse...a little embarrasment thats all :)
 

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I do have it bad and it feels good!

Thanks for the replies.

I can't get this women out of my head. A tear came out as I was reading the replies. I never felt love like this before and pray you all have or are experiencing love the way I am. Funny part is ....I'm feeling it with a imaginary lover at this point.

I'm going for it! I'll get her away from work and let her know my feelings. I can't keep this energy bottled up to much longer. Worse case senerio is I continue to live the life I'm living now of keeping my love for her contained and enjoying her for who she is.

"love does not need a reason. It speaks from the irrational wisdom of the heart"
Deepak chopra

Here it goes....
 

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Good luck sattva. I hope it turns out good for you.
 

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Hi Sattva,
I`m back for to continue our smalltalk we started at another thread (better late, than never) :)

As I see you already got best advice here, so I haven`t got something to add just to take the same line as the others: Do it! Tell her your feelings. At least if you haven`t done until now.

Offtopic:
I would be interested in: What Yoga do you practise (Hatha Yoga, Jnana Yoga, Raja Yoga, Kundalini Yoga....etc.)? And

If my question doesen`t bother you:
What creative work do you? I`m interested in, because I`m also very creative but unable to earn one cent with it, lol. Okay I can earn a bit money with miniature painting but this is more a payed hobby.

Good luck for love and best wishes
Yvonne
 

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