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Elizabeth, what you feeling right now is not love. imo love is warmth. what you feeling right now is only your unsatisfied ego. in time this tends to transform itself in obsession. beware of the trap.
I had a lot of people coming to me in this state and i know no one will listen until is too late but there is a wall ahead of you and you are approaching it full speed. Slow down, vent your emotions, respect his decisions (as part of loving process) and have a little more faith in you. if it is not him there will be another
I'm not saying it is over ... you just make a lot of assumptions . one of them would be that he is not interested because he didn't jumped on you on first date. Yet another thing , his comments about other woman , looks to me like he is trying to hide his shame that is unable to advance with you . Maybe you were too stiff or too cold and he didn't knew how to deal with it. Maybe he was as scared of your attitude as you were of his.
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I don't want to give you empty hopes and act based on what i said, because ANY move you will be making in this state will be a mistake. Instead try to what others do in this case: eat ice-cream, go with friends, see a lot movies( avoid romantic ones), even try to date other guys (if you say you are so rusty)... then, when you managed to calm yourself look at this relation once again. And no, is not bad luck, you are just afraid of suffering (like everybody else,).
General diagnosis of my relationship with him: 16.5 and 45.
Is he a chronic flirt with commitment problems? sounds like it
What is the quality of my position within the rel’ship with him? 15.6 and 52.
Too good for him. You have a right to want more than what he offers and to ask for it.
What is the quality of his position in our relationship? 57.1 and 9
He doesnt know if he is coming or going. commitment problems noted again.
That makes sense given last week. Doesnt make sense in the overall context of the messages he has sent me. What he wants from me, if anything, at this point, is not clear...
What is the best thing for me to do about this? 48.5 and 46.
Know your own worth and worthiness. Its there, and you are capable of attracting the love you want and of giving the love that you have within. You can act on this.
I added one more question, based on suggestion from Autumn way back when:
What should I embrace? 21.2.5 and 10.
Embrace the truth. Dont shrink from it. Let the truth determine your conduct with him from this point forward.
*sigh*. Is this the truth? Is the Yi wrong? I Mean, can these interpretations be seen in any other way? The problem is I dont know how to behave bc i dont feel I have the full truth or can see it yet. It's all sort of hypothetical, based on Yi readings so far... By the same token I do not want to get burned......
General diagnosis of my relationship with him: 16.5 and 45.
You are pondering about the relationship. You want to find balance and stability. And you don't want to make any movement about it, but being still.What is the quality of my position within the rel’ship with him? 15.6 and 52.
He is traying to understand and adapt himself to the circumstances of the relation. He wants to progress and advance, but not in a forceful and straightforward fashion, but in a gentle and subtle way (maybe too much subtle).What is the quality of his position in our relationship? 57.1 and 9
get deeper and achieve a higher perspective. There is clean water... it's up to you to reach it or not.What is the best thing for me to do about this? 48.5 and 46.
You are pondering about the relationship. You want to find balance and stability. And you don't want to make any movement about it, but being still.
The Yijing says "the will is not fullfiled yet". You are not getting what you want.
Later interpretations (I mean, not Yijing, but other commentarists) says 15.6 is an advise to don't blame the others, but examinate ourselves and take the initiative to correct us and reach the others.
Ricardo Andree says that 15.6 implies the need to self-examination about our own moods and states of mind that lead us out of balance.
He is traying to understand and adapt himself to the circumstances of the relation. He wants to progress and advance, but not in a forceful and straightforward fashion, but in a gentle and subtle way (maybe too much subtle).
The Yijing says: "[he] has doubts in his mind" This is not much as lack of commitment (the yijing talks about the loyalty of a warrior), but as doubts on the way to proceed.
What is the best thing for me to do about this? 48.5 and 46.
>>get deeper and achieve a higher perspective. There is clean water... it's up to you to reach it or not.
With the above 3 answers, you have a "map", where something has hurted the relation. Because of that, he wants to advance, but has doubts and takes only tiny steps; and you don't want to take any step at all. But, this is important... the relation is not dead, and still have the chance to survive.
Both 16 and 45 are in the past. ......
I would say: Something has happened in the relationship between August 1st and September 15th, 2009 that hurted the relationship.
is this you intuition/inspiration or something you can tell from the above hex? do you any links which might provide further info on time aspect of the readings ?
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